bfp today! not sure what to do?

[me23]

i had a scare last month i was 2 weeks late did loads of tests then bleed on 2 weeks past due date for 3 days so thought it was period this month am still two weeks late again so did a test this afternoon not really thinking anything and it was positive straight away.
I dont think boyf is pleased we've beeen going through a very bad time.
I have also just got a new job, so what do i do now?
oh and to top it off im on ad's, and dont know if they've harmed the baby, im going to start another thread on that.
any advice appreciated.

thankyou wisp i posted on your thread, so sorry, thankyou for your offer of advice x

Wisp, I am so sorry to hear this

Me23, I am glad the weekend has gone well for you and that you and dp are working together, this is a major thing for you IMO as having someone you love on board makes such a huge difference to everything.

I hope your drs appointment goes well today and you can feel you are going to get all the support you need from them too.

I will check in later to see how you are doing

my doctors are pretty rubbish to be honest a woman doc nevermet before i tell her im pregnant ask about ad's tell me to stop straight away {i thought you were supposed to withdraw gradually} didnt suggest alternatives, i told her i wsnt sure how far along i was and thati wanted a scan she said'we dont deal with that u have to see the nurse who will refer you,'
the nurse was an old matron who basically didnt have a clue what going on, i told her i was preg she said 'do you have somewhere to live' wtf!
she proceeded to forget what she wassaying in middle of sentance i' tell her something she get it wrong etc...
so brought letter to hospital receptionsit told me 10 day-2week wait, i said i wasnt sure about my dates and she said doctors should have referredme to early preg unit! which they didnt so i have to wait.
what a nightmare today has been! i want to change doctors the imcompatence had to be seen to be believed.

Poor you that sounds dreadful !!!
I'd change Drs Asap, or go back and see another doctor. You should not have to wait more than a few days. Push harder for it, that is terrible advice. (hugs)

whoops sorry about the state of that last post was feeling flustered, didn't preview hence the poor spelling etc..
I will change doctors, they are terrible. I'm going to try to register with a different doctor tomorrow.

I agree with Wisp, make an appointment with another dr and insist to that dr they get you referred to or an appointment with the EPU. That is just awful they have basically ignored your plee for help and just gone with what they "thought" you said. Don't give up sweetie try again with another dr. Can you ring your drs and ask to speak with another dr, at my surgery you can ring them and ask for the dr to call you and they will call you back?? Have you mentioned that you haven't decided what to do and time is of the essence?

So sorry today hasn't been the sorting out day you were expecting

I will warn you me23 it can, sometimes, take time to change drs too like waiting for notes etc so check the timeframe before you make the change so that things aren't delayed any more.

the doctor didnt give me timeto explain, the nurse asked me if i was happy about it i said i dont know and thats why i need a scan so i can be sure how far along i am so i can work it out, They are short staffed there isnt another doctor there.
I'm really worried abouit just stopping ad's, they have really helped me this last month I'm scared ill be depressed again in fact i think i will be.

me23 that sounds terrible. tbh if it was me I would ring up the hospital tomorrow and say that you've got pain or something and aren't sure that all is ok, then they might fit you in for an emergency scan. Bit of a devious way of going about it but honestly!

Don't know if this will help at all, but might be of interest.

RE AD's, I was on Fluoxetine and after much bu**ering about, my dr swapped me on to Lofepramine as he said it was better, although I can find no evidence of this on the internet (I appreciate its not all there!).

I got a bit worried and started a thread about this under the "Depression" section and had a number of MNers confirm that they have been on Fluoxetine and various other ADs through pregnancy with no problems. You might find it helpful to have a read as various different drugs are referenced by the posters.

I had my scan on Friday and after changing AD's at 8 - 9 weeks, scan confirmed me at 10 weeks and LO is doing just fine, with all body parts waving and healthy heartbeat!

I had a rough time swapping - to be fair the dr offered me a week off work but as didn't feel ill, said no. Ended off anyway, but at this stage in pregnancy difficult to determine if just normal pregnancy headaches, tiredness, nausea etc or if it was the effect of swapping!

Good luck with the counselling and if you can't swap dr's - you could try going back to see yours.

If this seems at all daunting, then go with a clear written list of what you want to get from the dr i.e. quick referral for scan, advice on counselling services and proper review of your AD's, then if you don't feel strong enough to ask, you can give her the paper. I'm crap at the doctors and a friend suggested I do this - now I always leave with the information I want (sometimes written down in case I get confused - depression can have funny effects!).

HTH and good luck - ((HUGS))

thankyou calsworld, i had a look at that thread was v.useful, how are you finding the lofepramine? is it working? im on 20mg of citalopram, I've done some research online and it is one of the less 'safe' ad's to be on in pregnancy, during your swap over did you just stop the fluxetine and go straight onto the lofepramine?
I think I do need to carry on the ad's esp if i choose to continue this pregnancy which in myheart of hearts it looks like i will be continuing it, unless i persuade myself otherwise.
I'm already getting anxious and snappy, so i prob need to change ad's anyway as these ones arent working as well as they should be.
calsworldI'm glad your pregnancy is going well.
did your doctor refer you for an early scan?
were you unsure ofyour dates?

Hi, Lofepramine bit odd - got more headaches and tummy feels 'tense'. Dr made me stop Fluoxetine straight away, have a break of four days, then start taking the Lofepramine, which is one tablet twice a day. I've only been on it a week so don't know how effective it will be with depression. Have been crying alot this last week, but again, hard to tell if that's just a normal pregnancy thing or withdrawal symptoms? In my mind I have put it down to pregnancy as easier to deal with.

I'm not convinced that it was the best way to do it and my MS has got significantly worse since I swapped.

Because of the AD's, my midwife has referred me under obstetric care but the first scan is done between 10 - 13 weeks in derby, I thought I was 11/1 but the scan put me back a week and a day to 10 weeks. Other than that, I've not had any 'special' attention. My 20 weeks scan is booked and that is when the Obstetrician will review my notes (but IMO, if the drugs are wrong / not working, its all a bit late by then?!)

When I first started taking AD's, they took about six weeks to kick in, then I was taken off them, reducing over a couple of weeks before stopping but it was too soon for me, and six months later I asked to go back on them, second time around they only took a couple of weeks to kick in.

I know Fluoxetine (Prozac) was good for me - I saw your other thread and all the feelings you express were how I felt too - I had chronic paranoia too - and one day, it was like someone had turned a light on and I could see everything as it actually was - it was amazing! Everyone around me, including my DH (who had put up with all the 'I don't know why I'm crying' episodes for about two years!) couldn't believe the transformation!

Please don't get caught up in any 'stigma' about taking tablets / counselling etc - it was something that held me back from getting the help I needed for too long. When I finally 'gave in' and accepted Dr's reccomendation to take them, I found a book by the British Medical Association on sale in the chemist called 'Understanding Depression' and found it a wonderful help to understanding what I was feeling. I wasted so much energy feeling like I was going mad because I was forever looking for the reason for my sadness and paranoia - the truth is, there wasn't one for me, just a big fat chemical imbalance.

I may be on AD's forever, I may not - either way, I'm happy to be happy, confident and positive about life - and LO of course!

Sorry this is such a long post, I talk too much in RL too!

Big Hugs.

Cal

Sorry, I said "saw your other thread", I meant "read this thread"....perhaps I ought to have a lie down...

hi, i hope the lofepramine works for you, if it doesnt then go back to doctors and go back on the prozac the reading ive done online cites it as one of the safest ad's to be on in pregnancy, i'm going to ask the doctor to switch me to prozac. the intial effects of citalopram seem to be wearing off although i have been having a particulary stressful time lately.
it's goodto hear that you are feeling positive about life!
and don't worry about the long post it was good reading lol
hugs to you too
x

hi, I'm registering with another doctor today I just phoned up and I'll be able to see the doctor today too, this surgery is looking better already. stopped taking the ad's last night, I've just been in tears at my boyf before he went to work he didnt do anything I'm just being paranoid, but he isnt understanding my hormones I'm really pissing him off! I dont like the way I'm acting!
I will ask this doctor about prozac and about early scan hopefully this one will be more helpful. I hope they are more professional the other doctors were a farce.

Thats great news about drs Me23 good luck with your appointment. Sit your dp down later and try and explain your emotions and that you don't mean to upset him.

hi nback from the doctors, she was great very helpful, she called the early preg unit when i was there but no answer so she said she would call again and try to get me seen in a few days and let me know asap. she just called and has got me an appoinment at 9am tomorrow.
glad i switched. we said we'll discuss what to do about ad's if i decide to continue pregnancy.

Thats great, let us know how you get on today at the doctor's. Fingers crossed for you ! :)

WOW Me23 thats great news you have found a supportive dr so quickly and that she is on the case. So 9am tomorrow all the best is dp going with you?

hi firstnikki yes dp is coming with me, and dd of course, I'm so relieved I've been proactive and changed doctors I feel I'm finally been treated with respect and care.
I'm starting to get heartburn, had it with dd in 2nd trimester didnt think it happened in 1st few weeks, maybe i am 13 weeks ill find out tomorrow anyway.

Hi me23, I've been offline for a few days but wanted to catch up with you and see how things were going. It's really great that you have taken control of things and found a doctor that you feel comfortable with.

Take care,

jabber

Me23 Rennies are fine to take for heartburn/indegestion give them a try. I am pleased you and your family are making the apt tomorrow and you are facing this with dp.

I will be watching for the scan results.

hi heres an update, had the scan am only 6 weeks, been thinking a lot and i feelit would be best notto continue with the pregnancy, i have started another thread about it because i didnt want this to still be in the pregnancy thread, beacuse the majority of women here are happy with their pregnancy so didnt want to upset anyone or myself heres a link to the new thread,
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