please learn from my mistakes

[gymboywalton]

i have been reading another thread about special outfits for newborn babies and i thoughtit it might be fun to have athread where people can share mistakes we made when ours were new.

my number one mistakes was buying clothes/babygrows that fastened up the back. wtf was i thinking? impossible to get the baby into and they end up lying on the poppers and being uncomfy.

2nd mistake was buying babygrows made out of velour-they felt all lovely on the outside but insdie are scratchy and sweaty and horrible.l
the day i found out i was pregnant i went out and bought an outfit that was both velour AND had poppers up the back.
it was worn once!!!!

A good disposable nappy easily lasts 12 hours overnight. Swap brands, go up a size, whatever, but do not change a nappy at night unless it's pooey!

Do not attempt to pee post birth in the normal way on the loo! If you have any tearing / grazing down there it will sting like mad! 2 choices! Either pee in the bath and wash yourself with the shower after or use a jug of tepid water to pour over yourself as you pee on the toilet. With my 3rd child the midwife told me it would be fine, I told her it would not and I would not pee till I had a jug. With my 4th I just packed a jug in my case! Thank you sister in law for warning me before I had no 1!

I didn't buy any sleepsuits was in hospital with 2 I'd had off my friend suddenly realised my mammoth mistake and sent dh to shop for a month supply.......sod cute outfits sleepsuits r the business

cotton wool for cleaning
first poos are easier to get off if you use dry cotton wool for the worst bits then finish off with water ones.

I agree kickarse i had a jug i used each time. My hospital had them in the bathrooms and i had one at home ready each time.

that wee thing I don't believe.
my advice on that is drink as much water as you can gandle.
byt still have a jug of warm water on standby. it's good for washing after a wee anyway.

don't even bother with bog roll- water for cleaning, baby wipes for wiping.

(I had lots of stitches from an episiotomy and tear)

I drank loads but even without tears ut still stings esp if you have grazes! i have had episiotomy and tears and stitches, the grazes hurt more when weeing!

best piece of advice I can give is:

wherever you spent most of your day, have a large lidded box. at the beginning of each day make sure that in the box is:
millions of nappies
wipes/cotton wool
babygrows
vests
socks
olive oil
and a jug of water for washing.

that way whenever the baby needs completely changing, you can just get on with it. you don't need to faff around finding stuff.

I had an episiotomy with first and a tear with second can honestly say it didn't hurt either time to wee.Must have just been lucky.

I'm having third and have stocked up on the infacol this time

Omg I never knew envelope neck vests could be pulled down and not over the head!

Cut your baby's nails when they are asleep or feeding. Do not do it while they're awake and wiggling.

I still feel guilty

Sleeveless vests are a godsend for the "No, I don't think I will get dressed, thank you" determined baby.

I had a bloody painful graze after episiotomy and forceps and peeing hurt like crazy. I couldn't sit down for a few days either :(

Sorry this isn't a funny, but I wish someone had told me this - ignore people who gush about how amazing it is to be a mother. Sometimes it can take months for a bond to form, sometimes you need a bit of help to fix things, sometimes it didn't feel right until they're nearly one year old and THAT IS ABSOLUTELY FINE. You still love your child, you're still a good mum and you do not have to feel how other people expect you to feel.

On a lighter note... Don't bother with cuddly toys until the baby is at least one. They're just dust-collecting decisions until then!

If you have a choice between a posh pram or a cheap basic pram and a dishwasher, buy the cheap pram and the dishwasher.

If you buy a fabric sling make sure you get some practice on how to tie it/wear it before baby arrives. Trying to figure it out whilst man handling a screaming baby into it will send your stress levels up and if you're like me you'll chuck it on the floor (the sling ) and that's where it will stay.

Oh and if you're having a winter baby and don't already have one get a tumble dryer if you can. I do soooo much more washing now.

Decisions? Decorations even! Got to love the auto fill

in thatcase - jug of water because you never know

I had the pain when sitting down after epistiotomy and had to sit on a cushion.

Also when milk comes in boobs hurt.I found the only thing to relieve mine was the shower running over them or a warm flannel.

Don't bother with an all singing and dancing pram, you will only end up using it when you walk the dog, I nice comfy pushchair next time.

I had to sit leaning backwards with my knees bent so my swollen bits weren't leaning on anything.

Don't bother with the "thin" maternity pads. I did and regretted my decision immediately as I had lots of stitches and needed as much padding as I could get when sitting down so big thick maternity pads were the way forward!!
Believe the MW when she says that you may get the baby blues around day 3. I did, and because my friend didn't put a kiss on her text to me, I sat and sobbed holding DS for ages in the nursery. DH wondered what on earth was wrong!

mmmmm!
I got basic sanitaryvmattresses from wilko's
sooo comfy