please learn from my mistakes

[gymboywalton]

i have been reading another thread about special outfits for newborn babies and i thoughtit it might be fun to have athread where people can share mistakes we made when ours were new.

my number one mistakes was buying clothes/babygrows that fastened up the back. wtf was i thinking? impossible to get the baby into and they end up lying on the poppers and being uncomfy.

2nd mistake was buying babygrows made out of velour-they felt all lovely on the outside but insdie are scratchy and sweaty and horrible.l
the day i found out i was pregnant i went out and bought an outfit that was both velour AND had poppers up the back.
it was worn once!!!!

[needsadviceplease]

A good disposable nappy easily lasts 12 hours overnight. Swap brands, go up a size, whatever, but do not change a nappy at night unless it's pooey!

[Kickarsequeen]

Do not attempt to pee post birth in the normal way on the loo! If you have any tearing / grazing down there it will sting like mad! 2 choices! Either pee in the bath and wash yourself with the shower after or use a jug of tepid water to pour over yourself as you pee on the toilet. With my 3rd child the midwife told me it would be fine, I told her it would not and I would not pee till I had a jug. With my 4th I just packed a jug in my case! Thank you sister in law for warning me before I had no 1!

[Figgygal]

I didn't buy any sleepsuits was in hospital with 2 I'd had off my friend suddenly realised my mammoth mistake and sent dh to shop for a month supply.......sod cute outfits sleepsuits r the business

[nickelbabe]

cotton wool for cleaning
first poos are easier to get off if you use dry cotton wool for the worst bits then finish off with water ones.

[5madthings]

I agree kickarse i had a jug i used each time. My hospital had them in the bathrooms and i had one at home ready each time.

[nickelbabe]

that wee thing I don't believe.
my advice on that is drink as much water as you can gandle.
byt still have a jug of warm water on standby. it's good for washing after a wee anyway.

don't even bother with bog roll- water for cleaning, baby wipes for wiping.

[nickelbabe]

(I had lots of stitches from an episiotomy and tear)

[5madthings]

I drank loads but even without tears ut still stings esp if you have grazes! i have had episiotomy and tears and stitches, the grazes hurt more when weeing!

[nickelbabe]

best piece of advice I can give is:

wherever you spent most of your day, have a large lidded box. at the beginning of each day make sure that in the box is:
millions of nappies
wipes/cotton wool
babygrows
vests
socks
olive oil
and a jug of water for washing.

that way whenever the baby needs completely changing, you can just get on with it. you don't need to faff around finding stuff.

[BeauticianNotMagician]

I had an episiotomy with first and a tear with second can honestly say it didn't hurt either time to wee.Must have just been lucky.

I'm having third and have stocked up on the infacol this time

[CharlieMumma]

Omg I never knew envelope neck vests could be pulled down and not over the head!

[CollieAndTheEyeV]

Cut your baby's nails when they are asleep or feeding. Do not do it while they're awake and wiggling.

I still feel guilty

[MarianForrester]

Sleeveless vests are a godsend for the "No, I don't think I will get dressed, thank you" determined baby.

[JollyRedGiant]

I had a bloody painful graze after episiotomy and forceps and peeing hurt like crazy. I couldn't sit down for a few days either :(

[MakesCakesWhenStressed]

Sorry this isn't a funny, but I wish someone had told me this - ignore people who gush about how amazing it is to be a mother. Sometimes it can take months for a bond to form, sometimes you need a bit of help to fix things, sometimes it didn't feel right until they're nearly one year old and THAT IS ABSOLUTELY FINE. You still love your child, you're still a good mum and you do not have to feel how other people expect you to feel.

On a lighter note... Don't bother with cuddly toys until the baby is at least one. They're just dust-collecting decisions until then!

[colditz]

If you have a choice between a posh pram or a cheap basic pram and a dishwasher, buy the cheap pram and the dishwasher.

[scratchandsniff]

If you buy a fabric sling make sure you get some practice on how to tie it/wear it before baby arrives. Trying to figure it out whilst man handling a screaming baby into it will send your stress levels up and if you're like me you'll chuck it on the floor (the sling ) and that's where it will stay.

[scratchandsniff]

Oh and if you're having a winter baby and don't already have one get a tumble dryer if you can. I do soooo much more washing now.

[MakesCakesWhenStressed]

Decisions? Decorations even! Got to love the auto fill

[nickelbabe]

in thatcase - jug of water because you never know

[BeauticianNotMagician]

I had the pain when sitting down after epistiotomy and had to sit on a cushion.

Also when milk comes in boobs hurt.I found the only thing to relieve mine was the shower running over them or a warm flannel.

[Getoutofmygumboot]

Don't bother with an all singing and dancing pram, you will only end up using it when you walk the dog, I nice comfy pushchair next time.

[nickelbabe]

I had to sit leaning backwards with my knees bent so my swollen bits weren't leaning on anything.

[Daiso]

Don't bother with the "thin" maternity pads. I did and regretted my decision immediately as I had lots of stitches and needed as much padding as I could get when sitting down so big thick maternity pads were the way forward!!
Believe the MW when she says that you may get the baby blues around day 3. I did, and because my friend didn't put a kiss on her text to me, I sat and sobbed holding DS for ages in the nursery. DH wondered what on earth was wrong!

[nickelbabe]

mmmmm!
I got basic sanitaryvmattresses from wilko's
sooo comfy