please learn from my mistakes

[gymboywalton]

i have been reading another thread about special outfits for newborn babies and i thoughtit it might be fun to have athread where people can share mistakes we made when ours were new.

my number one mistakes was buying clothes/babygrows that fastened up the back. wtf was i thinking? impossible to get the baby into and they end up lying on the poppers and being uncomfy.

2nd mistake was buying babygrows made out of velour-they felt all lovely on the outside but insdie are scratchy and sweaty and horrible.l
the day i found out i was pregnant i went out and bought an outfit that was both velour AND had poppers up the back.
it was worn once!!!!

[recall]

I think I was pumped full of Oxytocin...

[JollyRedGiant]

I went a bit strange thinking that DS was the most beautiful thing on this earth. People would say "your baby is so cute" and I'd reply with "your baby has such lovely... Dungarees". It took me ages to get over this.

[noblegiraffe]

I remember thinking that my DS was the best looking of all the NCT babies and the other mums must be jealous. Maybe he could be a baby model.

The photos show a very fat baby with patchy hair where his head grew too quickly for his hair to keep up. Not a pretty baby.

[youmaycallmeSSP]

:o noblegiraffe I thought exactly the same about DS. A few years on it turns out that he was really cute from 6 months onwards but before then was a bit of a potato baby. Three month-old DD on the other hand is the most beautiful baby ever to grace the planet

[Piemother]

Get a base that your car seat clicks in to especially if you have a 3 door car. I spent a lot of time swearing strapping the car seat in bending over hurting myself. With dd2 a base was top of the list for eBay - it cost £47 for a cabrio fix base but there were loads of amazing bundle listings with the seat and the base. Bloody godsend this time around buy one now!!!
Also though car sears have that big handle don't think you can whisk them around much they weigh a ton!

Investigate slings thy ate do much easier for supermarkets or anywhere you don't want a pram

[Weightlessbaby]

DD was completely bald, and had no eyebrows until around 9 months. I said babies with hair looked weird and would hate to have to deal with it. Now DD has suddenly become ridiculously hirsute very quickly and I've had to have a rapid change of view

[SnowyWellies]

Agree with purplecatti

Some idiot person told DH down the pub that babies slept through at 6 weeks. He really struggled when they .. um... didn't

[CollieAndTheEyeV]

If you intend to use a top cot changer then make sure you don't buy a cot with curved side edges (sleigh bed style). Or if you do, buy some Sugru because it will fix anything.

[BalloonSlayer]

My sister said that when she had her DD she felt genuinely sorry for all the other Mums, particularly those with boys. She felt that they would be feeling really upset when they saw DSis's DD, because they would be jealous that they had not got a beautiful girl baby like her, but were saddled with their ugly boys instead.

[SnowyWellies]

I felt the same BalloonSlayer! I went to my first baby group and felt i should leave early as I did not want to rub in the fact that my DS was clearly the most adorable.

still feel like that though.

[SnowyWellies]

On the nappy front.... we found Morrisons own brand to be the best after trying everything.

[FairyJen]

Ignore other parents! Regardless of how convincing they sound the neighbours dd did NOT say mama the day she came gone from hospital and your 3 day old pfb is not "slow" for not having uttered a word! barking that woman was

[sausagesandwich34]

Do not ignore the advice of
'Rest when your baby sleeps'

I did, thought I could be superwoman and ended up collapsing in a heap of sleep deprived drunkeness

[notsoold]

Never mind about housework....when the baby goes to sleep, so should you.....

Not everybody is slight interested in sex after birth and indeed in the early years....things will improve later...your dp will not leave you ...

Let dp or dh get involved as much as he wants to...share the baby !!!

Pelvic floor exercises are to be done!!!

Leave a blanket ready for night feeds...it will take longer than you think!

BB or BF ??? I have my opinion and you will have yours...but it doesn't mean you don't love your lo....

Pack a gift bag for the older dc...will keep them amused as you settle from hospital...

Don't drinks lots of coffee and expect your lo to be able to sleep if BF....

If they don't annoy you...let parents and in laws get involved but lay down rules....they will love your baby even if they don't love you ( in general)

[FairyJen]

When you do get baby down for a nap take landline off the hook ad put your mobile on silent - bitter voice of experience!

[CockBollocks]

A little pair of nail scissors should always be carried in the change bag, DS suffered with constipation - when he did go he exploded!!! I cut off many baby vests as it was just far easier than trying to go up or down.

Also buy cheap vests!!!

Other mums who tell you there babies are so good, sleep all night and never cry are lying - even if they are genuinely not lying (they are) still tell yourself they are, you will feel better!!

[FairyJen]

Unless cock it's a mum you really despise in which case your baby sleeps perfectly, eats perfectly never cries ect am was speaking fluent Latin by 8 months

I never did this oh no

[CockBollocks]

See - you were lying!!!!

[FairyJen]

yep felt great at the time tho

[Shattereddreams]

Oh yes, simply cut baby out of their vest when it is full of poo. Cheap vests.

Baby grows are the devils work. Your baby will either have a long body and normal length legs, or very long legs and a normal length body or long body and long legs. Or short legs. Whichever your baby has, babygrows won't fit.

[DanniiH]

Love this topic! Why don't all sleep suits have zips?? My son did live in sleepsuits for the first few months, my next child will too I'm sure, you can get such nice ones and if they stayed clean all night you can get away with them having the same one on for part of the next day! Great tip about the vests with handkerchief necks, had no idea they were for pulling down! Will be making use of that with this next baby!

Looking forward to reading more little tips! x

[DanniiH]

Ps. Cracked me up reading about people feeling sorry for other people not having attractive babies. I bet everyone thinks it! I remember feeling like I was lying to people when I said their babies were cute like it was just the right thing to say it but it felt forced! I don't think it any more, I genuinely find most other kids cute again now. May change when I have a newborn again! x

[Emsyboo]

Love this thread on 2nd baby just reading everything before properly posting although learning lots I wish I'd known with DS x

[Porkster]

yy to pack a bag. I have had 2 babies and packed a bag neither time. I thought it was all a bit fuss-budgety. I had lots of friends who had their bags packed and sitting in the hall at 30 weeks.

I thought I'd go for the opposite of such anal behaviour which lead to last second running around straight from a farce, with dh saying such things as 'please stop pushing and help me pack the frickin bag'!