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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 18:36

I've been trying not to get too upset about this, as it involves one of my best friends, but...

When her son was born, I lent her all of my newborn to 6 month things, except for a very few, very special outfits. I specifically said that I wanted them back. Now that I am pg again, she has no idea where they are!! Thinks she may have given them away Shock, is "pretty sure" she didn't sell them Angry Dh is blowing it off, saying half the fun is in buying little outfits, but I feel betrayed.

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TheBlonde · 25/04/2006 18:56

That is appalling!!

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 18:57

That's my feeling. I mean, how can you just lose track of several boxes?

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moondog · 25/04/2006 18:59

Very annoying.
For this very reason I never lent anything that was really special.

misdee · 25/04/2006 19:01

ooo dont. i lent my sister some stuff, then found she had stuck loads of it on ebay. i was furious. i made her pull the lot off and i went to collect it all.

starlover · 25/04/2006 19:03

:( that's horrible. How long ago was it?

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 19:05

It was about a year and a half ago. I had said something to her a few months back and I should have suspected something was amiss. She kind of dodged me about bringing it all over. I kept some of the special things, but there were a few that I really, really wish I had not lent her. Oh, and my boppy pillow!!! I guess it's gone too Sad

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starlover · 25/04/2006 19:08

god, i'd ask her for some money for replacements! cheeky mare

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 19:10

I know. All I could think of was to reply in my best frosty voice, "Well, I guess you're in charge of giving me a baby shower"

But really, I'd just rather have my own things back.

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misdee · 25/04/2006 19:11

i hope she finds it for you.

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 19:11

Oh, and another friend said to me, "Well, when you give something away, you shouldn't expect it back." To which I replied that I was very specific more than once that I wanted them back.

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 19:12

She's pretty much said that it's just "gone"

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misdee · 25/04/2006 19:12

you 'lent' her the stuff, didnt 'give' it to her.

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 19:13

Exactly. And, you know, she has given me things for ds that belonged to her older ds and I'm always really careful to return everything.

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starlover · 25/04/2006 19:17

gone where though? you know, the more i htink about this the crosser it makes me! you must be fuming.

i'd say to her that you needed the stuff, she KNEW you wanted it back and that if she doesn't have it any more then she will have to replace it

compo · 25/04/2006 19:17

do you think she gave it away by misatke? Or sold it on ebay?!!

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 19:21

I know, it's bizarre. I mean how do you just "misplace" something like that? She says she is sure that it's not anywhere in her house - that she sorts through and cleans out often as they don't have much storage space. I even offered to go to her MIL's as I know she sometimes stores things there. She checked with MIL and says it's not there either!!

I hate to sound like a pushover, but if I make too big of a deal about it I'm the one that is going to take the brunt of the looks in our little community. We are better off financially than they are and people will just shrug and say we can just go buy more. But, to me, it's also just as much about the principle of the thing!

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 19:22

She's acting like she did give it away by mistake. I know, though, that she tends to sell a lot of children's clothes at our town yard sale every year and am highly suspicious that that is where they went Angry

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TheBlonde · 25/04/2006 19:23

She definitely needs to buy you a new pillow

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 19:24

True, it was practically new, as I had a lot of issues bfing ds and wound up pumping instead.

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Lottielou · 25/04/2006 21:00

I can't believe this. You must really be fuming.
I would have it out properly with her and explain how upset you are. Explain it's not about the financial side of things but the sentemental value those things had. If she is a true friend then she will understand.
I mean come on, who sells/missplaces things that have been lent out to them! You wouldn't do that with say a lawnmower so why with a box of baby clothes! Grrrr this has made me so mad for you!
And as far as caring what other people think, you shouldn't! I would tell her how you feel!

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jabberwocky · 25/04/2006 21:58

I know you're all right about this. I feel like such a wimp. I do have a suspicion about one person who may have gotten some of it. I may check that out.

Shock at your sister, misdee. Although, tbh, if it had been a family member I would have been more easily able to go completely off at them.

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SparklyGothKat · 25/04/2006 22:09

BTW it wasn't me that stuck all Misdee's stuff on eBay, it was our other sister. She had also stuck lots of my stuff on at the same time, so me and misdee ganged up and made her pull all the auctions.

misdee · 26/04/2006 10:44

sorry, it wasnt sparkly. was my other sister. i was Angry

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