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Disabled parking - was I an utter cow?

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BadHair · 24/04/2006 23:44

Opinions please - be honest, I can take it.

My work base is in a university library. There is one disabled space right outside the front door. There are plenty of standard spaces within approx. 20 paces of front door.

On Saturday, when more or less the entire car park was empty, a car pulled up and parked in the one disabled space. Out got a pregnant woman, probably about 7 months, not huge but obviously showing. Standard policy is to discourage people from using this space unless they have a blue badge, due to recent complaints from disabled drivers. So, I nipped outside and politely told her that this was a disabled space, and did she have a valid blue badge.

To which she pointed at her bump and replied "HELLO, I'M PREGNANT". "Yes, but you're not actualy disabled, are you? This space is for people with mobility problems" was my reply. She snorted at me and charged inside (quite nimbly, it has to be said) to deposit her books and spend a good hour on a computer, all the while hogging the disabled space.

So, was I a cow, or was she just a lazy git? Need to know as I have to decide whether to report her if she does it again.

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sallystrawberry · 25/04/2006 00:08

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BadHair · 25/04/2006 00:09

Have to say that had she seemed to have any mobility problems I wouldn't have done this, in fact I'd have helped her with her stuff and defended her right to park, blue badge or not.
But she really was quite sprightly. And deliberately hogged the space while she sat giggling over her e-mails. It wasn't like she was nipping in for 2 mins to deliver her books - not that's an excuse anyway.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/04/2006 00:10

Are you sure she wasnt an MNer??????

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/04/2006 00:11

Yes, moan away.

But, maybe we should start a bemoaning thread rather than hijack BadHairs thread lol!

sallystrawberry · 25/04/2006 00:13

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hannahsaunt · 25/04/2006 03:17

Gosh - I wouldn't let it happen again if she's fit and able. Like someone said, we can't have it both ways (condition v illness).

However, it must be confessed that from 7mo pregnant with ds2 I did use disabled spaces without a badge - felt horrendously guilty every time - bu I had SPD and was in tremendous pain walking and dh was in plaster and on crutches having broken his heel bone.

desperateSCOUSEwife · 25/04/2006 05:44

lazy git

diddle · 25/04/2006 08:08

she's a lazy git.
as someone with family members who do have blue badges and would most definitly struggle if they ahd to park further away, she is well out of order. i would definityl report her and i'd enjoy doing it.

flutterbee · 25/04/2006 08:17

This kind of thing really annoys me, what a complete bitch and well done you for challenging her on it, a lot of people would have just ignored her. Next time report her.

Parent and baby spaces, my god if there is one thing to wind me up it is this, I can not stand it when fully grown children are used as an excuse for a lazy parent to park closer to the shop. I make very loud comments aimed at the idiots whilst loading baby and shopping into the car, next time I think I shall speak to them direct.

misdee · 25/04/2006 08:20

she is a lazy git.

towards the end of my pregnancy with dd2 i could barely walk, i often think they should be able to issue tempory badges.

Bozza · 25/04/2006 08:44

It is hard work being heavily pregnant but badhair has explained that there were loads of spaces within 20 paces. It is not going to do her any good in labour if she has got so lazy now. And that is without thinking about afterwards......

TwiglettTheWereHedgehog · 25/04/2006 08:46

no .. she's taking the piss .. being pregnant is not an excuse to use disabled bay

hunkermunkfish · 25/04/2006 08:47

Bet it's her first pregnancy.

She'll get her comeuppance when she realises that her child is viewed as yet another snotbag when it's born

(But yes, report her ass, hunker adds to the chorus)

And pg isn't an illness, but it can cause them.

jenkel · 25/04/2006 08:47

Its wrong, I never used a disabled space when I was pregnant. However, I once complained to Sainsburys when I was heavily pregnant and with a toddler and seen somebody obviously not pregnant or with kids park in a parent space, they told me to that if all the parent spaces were full I could park in the disabled spaces and the same for disabled people when all the disabled spaces were full. If its a private car park there is no law that says that you cant park in a disabled space without a badge, it is just down to common courtesy. So based on that I wouldnt report her.

pinkdolly · 25/04/2006 09:26

Report her,

I am 27 weeks pg with 2 children under 4, spd and a spinal problem. However, as I don't have a disabled badge, there is no way I would park in a diasabled space.
All to often, spaces for disabled drivers and people with young children are abused. And it really winds me up.

I have, on a number of occasions confronted people about this. It's just wrong.

I dont think disabled drivers should park in parent spaces and parents shouldn't park in disabled. And, how many times have I seen parents use the spaces when their children are old enough not to need them.

In my personal opinion these spaces ought to be better controlled, so you go ahead and report the snotty cow!

milward · 25/04/2006 09:29

report her - space was for disabled & should be respected.

Kelly1978 · 25/04/2006 09:33

lazy git def.

I longed to use those spaces when pg with the dts, and struggling with a 2yo and 4yo. I had a collapsed lung and pelvic pain and could barely walk at all. I didn't tho, and it sounds like she had no reason to at all.

Freckle · 25/04/2006 09:38

Can't you create a sign next to the disabled bay to the effect that anyone parking there without a valid blue badge will be clamped? Might make her think twice - even if you haven't got a clamp .

Bobley · 25/04/2006 09:40

Just because she is pregnant doesn't mean she can use the disabled space!!! - How stupid!

If it was a Mother and Baby space then that would be different!

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Angeliz · 25/04/2006 09:43

Lazy cow.

Cappucino · 25/04/2006 09:45

'lazy git'. I have a disabled dd and I've been pg twice - there's no comparison. if you're disabled you need the space, or if your child is you do. if you're pg you just get a bit tired walking.

daft bint. I never, ever used dd's disabled sticker even when I was pg if I didn't have her with me.

however unfortunately many people think that parking in a disabled space is absolutely fine and on any given day you'll find at least a couple of cars in the disabled bays not showing a badge. no-one polices them.

Cappucino · 25/04/2006 09:48

unless of course you're in a wheelchair or crutches
(just read thread a bit more carefully)

SoupDragon · 25/04/2006 10:23

I remember from another thread that there was a poster online you could print off and stick on cars illegally parked in a disabled spot. If you can print it on an A4 sticker that's hard to remove, so much the better.

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