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When should baby sleep in nursery?

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AC786 · 04/01/2013 19:31

My husband has built our baby's cot in the nursery and I am rather nervous about putting her in a room on her own, given the cot death advice. At what age would you allow your baby to sleep i their own room?

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Gingerbreadlatte · 04/01/2013 19:36

Official advice is 6months.

Get a crib or Moses basket to allow baby to sleep in your room when Newborn. Or co- sleep if that's your bag.

llamallama · 04/01/2013 19:38

I moved my DD out of our room at 6 months though found it very difficult at first, it was the right move though!

FrustratedSycamoreSnowflake · 04/01/2013 19:38

When you are ready.
Dc went in nursery from 1 week because I literally couldn't sleep with her in the same room, I woke at every snuffle and movement.
Dc2 at about 5 months because I was lazy breastfeeding and couldn't be arsed to get up preferred to co-sleep.
I don't think there is a right or wrong answer.

dishwashervodkaanddietirnbru · 04/01/2013 19:39

both mine stayed in our room for over 6 months as advised to help prevent SIDS - I think they moved when they were around 8 months old. We managed to fit the cot in our room (just) by putting it along the bottom of the bed after they grew out of their crib.

SauvignonBlanche · 04/01/2013 19:40

No earlier than 6 months.

Lucy411 · 04/01/2013 19:48

My lb went in at 4 months but regularly comes back to my bed! He's next door and we did have a walk through from my to his room but have since changed it into a toy/towel cupboard, I don't think it matters as long as your comfortable x

Lucy411 · 04/01/2013 19:49

That sounds bad, I don't think the age matters to much as you know your baby and babies sleep patterns and what suits you :)

Posterofapombear · 04/01/2013 19:50

Official advice is 6 months. I didn't risk it.

hattymattie · 04/01/2013 19:52

Official advice from mother of 3 - 3 months. We moved house whilst DD2 was little and because of building work she was in with us at 6 months - standing up in the cot looking at us and being generally cheeky at 2 am. DS - third child - straight into his own room at 3 months - like this they establish their own sleep patterns.

hazeyjane · 04/01/2013 19:57

What do you mean, 'official advice.... 3 months'?

Official advice wrt sids is sleep in same room as adult for 6-12 months.

munchkinmaster · 04/01/2013 19:59

I think the official advice is one year! We did 6months as creeping about and waking baby doing my head in.

MulledWineAndScully · 04/01/2013 20:02

Official advice 6 months but we only made it to 3.5 months. This was due to DD waking at the sound of a gnat's fart and none of us getting a wink of sleep. When I shamefully confessed to the HV her response was "oh don't worry about it, I only lasted one night" :O

Skiffen · 04/01/2013 20:08

This thread has a lot of information.

ecuse · 04/01/2013 20:13

My 20mo is still in with us! Although that's more the circumstances of our 1-bed flat than choice really. But I do love having her in with us and I'll miss her when we finally move and she gets her own room.

IneedAsockamnesty · 04/01/2013 20:20

I don't do babies in own rooms until they are 1 year old.

LikeCandy · 04/01/2013 20:43

I'm glad someone posted this (thanks OP!) because ideally I want to keep baby (due April) in with us until at least January 2014 - I know it's crazy to plan this early but I want 'her room' to still be available as a 'spare room' for next Christmas!!

Does this sound feasible? Or after 6 months do most people transfer baby to a nursery?

Skiffen · 04/01/2013 20:52

Like - I moved DD1 out when she was 6 months on the advice of HV. Soon wondered why I was so much tireder than I had been and realised that having to get up and walk to her room etc was awful. When they're in your room you can pick them up and get back into bed to feed without really waking up. DD1 was in with us for a year and DD2 goes down in her room but spends a good chunk of the night in our bed at 18 months.

IneedAsockamnesty · 04/01/2013 20:54

It very much depends who you ask likecandy.

On here loads of people say they move either under 6 months or at 6 months but in RL I don't know anybody who has moved them into there own room under 1 ( or who will admit to it).

But then again most people who are friends of mine with babies I know well enough to talk to about sleeping arrangements I know through cot death support groups so tend to follow all SIDS recommendations through to the max recommended time or beyond.

Junebugjr · 04/01/2013 21:03

Dd1 - 4 weeks old- not much room with us, and she was more or less sleeping through the night. The house was shaped so we could see straight in her room though, and we had a breathing monitor etc.
Dd2 - 13 months, co sleeping. Would not even entertain sleeping by herself, let alone be put in another room. If she woke in her cot I could feel her looking at me as if to say 'what the hell am I doing in here woman!!'. She also didn't sleep through for a year, which was hell of a shock after DD1.
Sometimes the baby decides. But 6 months is usually fine.

JassyRadlett · 04/01/2013 21:07

LikeCandy, we moved my DS at about 7.5 months - we were just back from a long trip abroad and I was going back to work, so felt like the right time. Transition wasn't a problem at all (except it felt odd having him so far away at night...)

LikeCandy · 04/01/2013 21:21

Thanks all for the replies.
Whilst part of me feels that we should decorate the nursery and at least have some furniture in and ready, I know people will want to come and visit (we're a half day drive away from family) so I'd like to keep a double bed in there for as long as possible!
But I'm sure if / when baby decided she needs her own room she won't mind if it isn't 'ready'!
I'll leave it up to her!

Twattybollocks · 04/01/2013 21:34

We did 6 months. After 3 months I started to want to read in bed before sleep as opposed to just becoming unconscious the second I was horizontal and dd would wake when I even so much as turned the page so i used to carry the moses basket into her room and settle her to sleep in there and then carry the basket back into our room when I was ready for lights out and sleep. She went into her own room properly in the cot at 6 months give or take a week.

itsmyfirsteek · 04/01/2013 22:09

I'm going to sounds os stupid now but can someone answer this for me please. I know that the advice is 6 months to reduce SIDS but how does it reduce it? Thanks

Twattybollocks · 04/01/2013 22:12

I seem to remember its to do with the noise of the parents breathing/ snoring that stops babies from falling into a very deep sleep that is the key thing.

IneedAsockamnesty · 04/01/2013 22:17

Because the breathing reflex does not work quite as it should in tinys and the parents breathing creates a prompt.

The advice is 6-12 months not 6 months or at least it is according to CONI

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