Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester and even graduates cuddling there babies!!, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Me too grainmum, I feel huge! and bump really sticks out - it almost looks like a point. when I tell poeple I am only 20 weeks i get all the typical comments of 'what, really' are you having twins', or 'but your huge!' got to love people's levels of tact!!

Oh Alpha it just sucks doesn't it? As soon as you're pregnant people seem to think they have a licence to comment on your size.

I was getting those comments at 20 weeks, but I've hardly grown any in that time so now I get "you're so neat" or "is the baby small?" Now I've had lots of growth scans because DS was prem, so fortunately I know damn well the baby is actually on the big side of the scale. But if I didn't know that, comments like "the baby must be awfully small" accompanied with a worried face, would freak me out!!!

Grr. Rant over. And now I have to do the school run and encounter the worst offenders.

It does get me down every now and then, I was conscious enough of my body and weight before this as I never lost all the weight from DS1 so was a size 14 before falling pregnant when I'm happy at size 12, but then I have to remind myself that we are blessed to have got this far after the losses so try to ignore everyone!
Good luck with the school run!!!

I hated the size comments. I was very small with both. When people commented I'd sometimes say something facetious ("I know, I'm starving myself so baby is smaller and easier to push out"), and sometimes the truth (" I am aren't I? I'm being monitored at the doctors are concerned").

The car seat bases are great. Make getting the seat in and out much easier. If you can get adaptors to put the car seat on the buggy that's les things even easier.

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The only comment I got was from someone telling me I was glowing, and looked really healthy. THAT kind of observation I like!

Ah that's nice mrs R.
Ds, almost 2, has just come up to me kissed my belly and called 'hello baby' into my belly button! Very cute!

Ah that's nice mrs R.
Ds, almost 2, has just come up to me kissed my belly and called 'hello baby' into my belly button! Very cute!

My goodness I have such a wriggly baby in there. DS was like this and he can't sit still for 2 mins. I'm in for another crazy kid, aren't I?

Aww that's so cute alpha Have one here too backward, going to miss his not-so-little wriggles inside me! Had a bit of a false alarm on friday, woke up feeling really really energetic, took dd to nursery, had to clean, did washing and then took dd/dog out for a long walk in park. Started having bh and pain in my back. Thought this is it!! Got home, had a load of pain/pressure, pretty much doubled over in pain, I honestly thought my waters were going to to go. DD excitedly packed her overnight bag for grandmas and then it all stopped after an hour Then felt really grumpy and exhausted for the rest of the day. Never mind!

See gem, cleaning is bad for you.

ha ha yep definitely!!

Hello, can I join you? Pregnancy #15(!) for me! Am 4+3 with this one (4+5 with ovulation dates). Have lost the last 9 between. 4/5 weeks, but this one feels so different, scorning sickness, nausea, heartburn the lot. And a strong line on the test- has normally started to fade if not disappeared by now have 1 dc already who was my 5th pregnancy.

Apologies for spelling and punctuation on post, am on phone!

Hi jolly and welcome! Sorry to hear how hard it has been for you to get your 2nd dc, fx this is your time and we will be here to support you all the way. With your history, do you get any extra tests? Have you been given a reason for the losses?

I have received my birthing ball in the post- what do I do with it??? Baby is back to back apparently so have been kneeling leaning over it but when I sit on it am I supposed to bounce? Rock? Any ideas? 35+4 today, come on baby!

Gem, here's hoping next time is the real thing! Good luck :-)

Welcome jtw, congrats on your BFP and sorry you've occasion, so many times over, to be on this thread. It's hard for me at 'only' 2 m/c to really fathom all you've been through and how rotten this week must be for you after so many losses all at the same time. This is a great thread for support, though, and has been a good source of support for me through my pg 'black spot' (around 6 weeks). Hope it is for you as well and wishing you all the best with this pregnancy.

Hi all. Been lurking for a few weeks. Now starting to panic. I have my 12 week scan next Wednesday and am totally petrified. I convinced myself I wouldn't get to this stage and just concentrated on not having a messy miscarriage over Christmas and new year so as not to spoil anything for my ds. I spent the festive period as sick as a dog and then had my booking in appointment the first week in Jan.

The midwife was lovely and supportive re my concerns even though I felt like an utter fraud going to see her. I wanted to be careful to not sound like an utter nut case!

Anyway, still dog tired and boobs sore but horrific nausea seems to be disappearing. I know that's "normal" but with my only successful pg I was sick til 26 weeks - that's my normal!

My dh tells me he's 95% excited and convinced all will be well, but I just can't see it. The idea of getting another pitiful look from a sonographer makes me want to hide in the corner. I don't want to spend £100 on a private scan.

I know there's nothing anyone can do, I just needed to rant.

Sorry to be "me me me!"

welcome Mrsd! There's no real way to get through this difficult time - just trying to distract yourself I found was best - make sure you've got something planned to do tomorrow. Remember that you're more likely to have a normal scan than a missed miscarriage and try to hold onto that thought. Keeping everything crossed for you!

Also there are lots of positive stories on this thread (and everyone has experienced similar feelings). For me I had a miscarriage in July and now have 20 week scan tomorrow - feeling lots of movements so I'm actually feeling quite positive now.

Hi All,
Had 20 week scan today, very healthy little boy who appears to be a little camera shy apart from in one area! Put it this way even if we hadn't wanted to know what the gender was we have worked it out!

MrsD it is a scary time and lots of people on here will understand. We had a perfect and easy time with DC1, miscarrying never crossed my mind, then when we decided to try for DC2 I was knocked for six by 3 consecutive miscarriages. With my current pregnancy i was convinced at every stage it would go wrong and like grainmum now 20 weeks and just had 20 week scan with lots of movement so finally confidence growing. With all my miscarriages through I knew before the scan each time, likelihood is you'll be fine for your scan, but do come and chat whenever you need, lots of hand-holding and people who understand in here!

Alpha great news on your boy! I am looking forward to the surprise but very envious of all those who know what they are having, can't believe this baby is due in 4 weeks and I don't know who they are!

Mrsd there's nothing you can do but rant. Is it this coming Wednesday or the following one? Glad you have a supportive mw, it can make all the difference when someone understands why you are neurotic! Come on here and rant as much as you like, we may not have answers but I have found such reassurance on this thread that I cannot believe it has got me through the past few months, I have come to really rely on posting here!

Grain good luck for your scan tomorrow, are you going to find out what it is?

Congratulations on your excellent scan alpha and good luck for tomorrow grain

Once again, thanks for the kindness ladies. 1001 The scan is a week on Wednesday, 23rd. I know it's natural to be nervous and really, nothing is happening to suggest anything is wrong; but after two missed miscarriages, that won't be convincing me!

Sometimes my mind starts to wander and I imagine what it will be like to tell people number 2 is on the way. All I can do is think positive and hope that by the end of next week I can be shouting from the roof tops!

hey mrsdmess, my 12 week scan is the 23rd as well, Mmc 2 years ago, am absolutely terrified.

just mrsd, stupid kindle

Hope your scan went well grain.

State thanks for updating, lovely to hear lily is doing well, nothing like a success story ti give everyone hope!

Just checking in, how are you all doing? Did I let you know we were discharged from consultant care! Just the community midwife for me! The baby is showing no sign of going anywhere so they were pleased to stop the regular scans.

Feeling very organised, clothes are washed, Moses basket is here and a stash of nappies have landed.