Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester and even graduates cuddling there babies!!, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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001 That sounds about right!

Gem I'm starting to get days like that, I swear the baby is playing with my cervix as the electric shocks I'm getting are distinctly uncomfortable.

Back to work on Tuesday, just 4 weeks until maternity leave - can't wait!

Hi all, mind if I join? I'm currently 12+2...had a mmc in July...spent many horrible weeks carrying around my dead baby whilst still experiencing symptons. It was awful. I'm really scared at the moment. I wasn't offered an early scan as I had no pain/bleeding this time...have my first scan tomorrow and I'm convinced it's all gone wrong again. I'm suffering from HG however it's started calming down. HG doesn't guarantee baby will be ok...I had it last time too. I guess I just need someone to hold my hand...someone who understands what I'm going through.

Hi Reebok. Sorry you had such a difficult time last pregnancy, many of us has a mmc with no pain or bleeding so know that this in itself is not reassuring, will be thinking of you today, let us know how you get on. What time is your scan?

Thanks 001.

Hi Reebok. I also had a MMC in July, discovered at 10 weeks at a private scan. It's a horrible wait until the 12 week scan in a subsequent pregnancy and not many people understand what it's like - we didn't tell anyone that we were pregnant, but even DH couldn't quite work out why I seemed to be so down and negative. Really hoping that all goes well for you today. I've got my 20 week scan next week and although the statistics all say that the risks are much much less now I still have times of being stupidly anxious!

Good luck for your scan tomorrow, Reebok, mine was a mmc too but I did get an early scan this time around - not that it really made much of a difference as I still worried about the weeks between the early scan and the 12 week scan, then between 12 and 20... Really, just so so hard.

Just dropped DS off at school and it's bliss. 2 weeks of him not in routine is VERY stressful! Feet up with breakfast before I start blitzing the paperwork in my bedroom!

Thanks ladies. It helps to know that others know what I'm going through. Barely slept. 001, I didn't have pain/bleeding last time either but had to have an early scan as I had HG and being as sick as I was according to a+e was sympton of ectopic. This time, I asked for an early scan and was refused. You're right grain and backwards...this wait has been awful and doesn't help that I've been on bed rest since 6 weeks and signed off work because of HG.

001, my appointment is at 12.20...will let you all know how I get on either way.

Sorry, it's today! Well hoping to read your good news this afternoon! :) x

hi all,
Just checking in as haven't been on thread for a while. Welcome to the new ladies, sorry for your experiences and what you have been through. You will find a lot of support here.
Good luck Reebok, thinking of you. I miscarried in april, june and august, but am now happily and healthily 19w2 days (not that I'm counting! ). the 12 week scan is so nerve-wracking but also made so much more wonderful when you get that smile from the sonographer and you know all is ok.
20 week scan next week - I am still really anxious about this one and grainmum know exactly how you feel! I know stats are in my favour but very nervous! Also over the last 2 weeks I seem to have gone from looking 3mths pregnant to 7 mths pregnant! Midwife says little one is all at the front but i do look like I have rather large football smuggled under my top!

Oh Reebok good luck today - I'm looking forward to hearing good news from your scan later on

My bargainacious find of the weekend - these dresses from Asda.

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They're not maternity but they are soooo stretchy and soooo comfortable. I'm usually a size 18 and got them in a 22 so they don't cling to every lump and bump. They look fab with leggings and boots and I can just see me living them over the next few weeks as my maternity jeans which I adore, are no longer very comfortable.

I'm sooo happy!! Baby is doing fine! Heard heartbeat and it was wriggling around! Never seen anything more amazing on my life!

wonderful news Reebok!! xx

That's great news, I'm really pleased for you! The high is wonderful isn't it?

Great news Reebok, glad you had a happy scan!

Brilliant news Reebok!!

Thanks everyone. It was amazing and has made suffering from HG totally worth it! I couldn't believe my eyes when it started moving. I cried my eyes out like a baby.

So good to see so many of you doing well :)

Congratulations reebok! Fantastic that the scan went well - thats 1 big hurdle over - and you can look forward now to the 20wk one. I'm so pleased for you.

Thanks 001 I'll try the denial route and see how that goes. :) Its good to know I'm not the only person worrying about it all!

I'm now 4+5wks, so feel much more pregnant now I'm almost 5 weeks. I'm trying to take it easy, sleep loads, eat well and just keep my fingers crossed, as realistically thats all I can do!

One thing is periodically bugging me though and I don't know if anyone has any experience of this? ... DH has had 2 lots of semen analysis done, the first one was deemed 'normal' by testers/GP, but 'borderline' by consultant - so she asked him to do a 2nd, some 4/5 months after the 1st. The 2nd came back with the comment 'suitable for ICSI' - & problems noted with low amount (about 1/2 of 1st), count (something like 7.8mil, 1st was 41.8mil) , viscosity and PH (8.5 both times).

But... the 2nd test was done the month before I got pregnant last time (which ended in mmc) - so its possible/probable/likely(? I'm speculating here) that there may have been a problem with the baby due to his sperm that made it non-viable?

I only got the test results (test was done in April) in December, as we cancelled the consultants appt in July as I was pregnant, then I buried my head in the sand for a while hoping to get pregnant again, then when I called in Dec to rebook the appt they couldn't book me in til the end of Feb, but gave me DH's test results.

... so having heard the results I didn't really expect to get pregnant and have been researching IVF/ICSI etc, but now I am...

...so, is there a chance that in the 8mths since the 2nd test DH's sperm are fighting fit again and that this baby has a chance of being ok? DH has been on a health kick for most of the year - taking vitamins, trying to eat well and has completely given up drinking. Or after a SA result like that am I kidding myself to even hope this baby will be ok?

Sorry, that's ended up being another essay. I hope it makes sense! And if anyone has any experience/advice I'd be grateful. I'm toying with the idea of trying to persuade DH to do another test (if gp will let him) to see if he's improved any...

that's fab news reebok, don't have any advice ir experience about the tests etc leeloo but wish you well x

Lol, thats ok. As I was typing I did think it'd be unlikely anyone could help, but its cathartic to write it all out anyway. :)

Thanks gem. Sorry leeloo no advice here either but hopefully someone will be along soon with some help.

And thanks leeloo! Yes first hurdle has been passed so now I can look to the next one. :)

Hi all,
Feeling really prepared now! Have got a car seat in the car (courtesy of a friend who has leant me a maxi cosi with a fixed base thing which looks excellent), nappies and clothes all put away in spare room which baby will sleep in eventually, moses basket coming in a couple of weeks from my sister, yay! Last time, went to get in the car to go home from hospital and had forgotten to check how to loosen and tighten car seat straps so spent about 15 mins fiddling with stuff so trying to solve any problems ahead of time.

Saw midwife on Monday, asked her if baby is on its way but no such luck, really mored of pregnancy now, want to meet the new addition. DS is convinced it is a boy, more specifically a baby named Joe after we visited a friend with her new baby called Joe so have been chatting about how it could be a boy or a girl and that we willl choose a name when it arrives. My DH's family is full of boys so am assuming another but have no idea, some people say they have an inkling but I have no feelings at all, can't wait to find out though!

leeloo sorry, another one with no advice but thinking that way can't hurt. In my last pregnancy I was given a downs risk of 1 in 260 which although not counted as high risk was way higher than any of my other pregnancy figures so I have sort of convinced myself there was a chromasomal abnormality, even though the post mortem came back negative, as it makes me feel better like there was nothing I could have done about it. My dad had died a few weeks earlier and I had had a few drinks and cigarettes so was looking to pass the buck...

Hope all is well

001 the carseat bases are fab, never had one before but its made life so much easier this time, we have a britax one. My ds insisted Lily was a boy and he was calling him Noah, he was a bit disapointed when he wasn't!

Lilys doing great, put on 1lb in 9 days so I assume that means the bfing is going ok :) she's now 9lb exactly.

I love my carseat and base, was brilliant with DS1. As we had a bit of time at home last we've just started getting the baby bits out to look at what needs replacing and what doesn't though I am a bit worried we have 21wk scan on monday so I hope we've not cursed ourselves!
Also saw a great bargain on a co-sleeper crib which i was desperate for this time so brought that as well! Keeping everything crossed for all positive news on monday. Little ones kicks away frantically frequently so hopefully he/she is not is too bad a shape. I am convinced it is a second boy, DH is convinced it is a girl - at least one of us will be right!
Glad everything is going well state.

alpha hope your scan goes well on Monday. Mine is on Tuesday, looking forward to it and not too worried - yet! I'm getting bigger by the minute - I think I'll have to relent and get some more maternity wear.