first time and cant relax!

[smiler389]

Hi I'm new to musket and feel a bit daft. I'm 28, married and a teacher so feel like I should be able to cope. I'm nearly 10 weeks and nausea is getting worse daily. I'm off today as didn't feel I could make it through the day. I'm so anxious that I haven't seen my baby ab d no one knows if it really is there ( stupid I know). I don't have anyone I can talk to so just after some reassurance really.

Hi smiler, it is so weird reading you post because it sounds exactly like one I would have written lol! I am also 28, married and a teacher and taken the day off today due to feeling nauseous!! I am 6 weeks with my first and haven't even heard anything about a booking appointment or scan yet. I'm so paranoid, I can't seem to relax or feel excited about the fact that I am pregnant because I am so worried something will go wrong. I have booked a private scan for 8 weeks in the hope that it may put my mind at rest at least for a while before my 12 weeks scan. I know I shouldn't stress but the more I think I shouldn't be stressing the more stressed I get lol! Are you having many symptoms? I woke up today feeling like mine are wearing off (which of course has only worried me more). I have read they come and go - it must be the first time ever I am wishing for myself to be sick just so I feel a little more reassured things are ok! Good luck with your 12 week scan, let us know how it goes! xx

It's a real challenge smiler I'm the same. Nearly 7 weeks and fretting on and off. Feeling sick but haven't been sick, so don't have that as reassurance. I had a previous early mc so I think I'm more prone to worry, even though I've had a 3+ on a digi test (more than last time)... but now there is no way left to check things are progressing!

Am seriously thinking of buying a private reassuarnce scan but it's £80 and I'm not flush. Plus DP says wanting it is being negative. Tis very difficult. Good luck to all on here.

Ceebs I love this forum! wish I'd been on it earlier! my symptoms have changed from being just sore boobs and tummy pains, then nausea set in and the last two days I've been really dizzy and headache. have just painted my nails to try and perk myself up.

Will def let you know how scan goes. same to you with 8 weeks!

Feel I can also confess my 'I'm expecting ' app addiction. it compares each week to a fruit so my bean is now a cherry.

what do you teach Ceebs? I'm secondary English!:-)

Hi Bravelilbear good lick to you too. I can see the argument for early scan being negative but I don't think OHs really understand how scary it is to be hoping so much but not knowing what is going on.

we didn't plan this, wanted promotion and new house before baby but over the moon to be pregnant!

Money aside I'm sure you'll make the right decision. good to hear from so many people feeling similarly.

*luck!

I'm an Early years teacher so the opposite end of the scale to you!! But I think that has a lot to do with my worries as the moment as we have chicken pox and all sort going around at the moment and I am trying not to make it too obvious in class how I am suddenly running a mile from any child who coughs or sneezes lol!!
I feel like I am wishing the next 6 weeks of my life away, I only found out a week ago and already it is so hard not having told anyone! I really want to tell my parents but I am torn as I don't want anyone to know if something goes wrong. Have you told anyone yet?
This forum is great and so reassuring to see so many others who appear to worry just as much as I do! I think the next two weeks before my early scan will be longest ever, I just hope work keeps me busy to TRY and stop thinking about it all!! xx

Ceebs I admire you I could never teach the little ones ( hope I'll be a good mum though!) I plaster a few days before I rangmy mum in a hysterical panic about not being ready for baby. so then I had to tell my dad and then DH 's mum. we also told bros sis and our respective besties. I have also told my head of faculty as I hated lying about time off. I decided that even if something goes wrong I'd want the people I love to know. still lots of friends who don't know and that is hard.

You're right to stay away from chickenpocks etc.
I'm hoping to get my head down next two weeks and not worry but I do think it's important to be aware and be sensible.

I read someone's post that said they struggled though whole pregnancy as a teacher but get treated badly when she returned. someone said to me recently look after yourself because no one else will. very true.

take care everyone! :-)

smiler I felt the same as you before my first scan! I'm 28 and have been married 5 years too.

I was 13+6 by the time I had my scan and it was honestly worth the wait because we were able to see so much and got a really clear picture that looked properly like a baby. I was a week out on my dates so hadn't worried about asking for the scan to be brought forward - luckily I was still in time for the nuchal test.

I was quite anxious with emotions up and down in first trimester - burst into tears a couple of evenings because i felt so tired and overwhelmed by the whole thing, but having the scan was like turning the corner and I feel much more confident now (16+3 today).

Hopefully once your symptoms ease and you've seen your baby it will give you a confidence boost too :)

thanks lauraellajane I'm hoping so too. congratulations on your pregnancy too!

Smiler I'm not pregnant at the moment, have a 20 month old and currently trying for number 2 :)

Well, I just bit the bullet and have an early scan next Wed. I've still not heard back from MW. I just want to be able to relax over Xmas knowing its not ectopic or whatever...
It's £99 so I've asked DH to make it our Xmas pressie

rockchick1984 aaaah good luck with trying for number 2! pregnancy/ labour obviously haven't put you off!
Thanks again for your advice on mw s. I've (we've) decided to wait for 28th. think today's just been a bad day!

Scubasarah ooh exciting! good luck! let us know how it isxx

Hi everyone, how are you all getting on? My symptoms have eased/ changed a bit this week which is making me feel equally stressed. Different feelings in tummy, field almost empty and I'm really full of wind. Sickness is better but s till very tired.

The head and deputies at school guessed I am pregnant which annoyed me at first but I'm now glad school know one.

Anyway, still waiting nervously for scan. Hope you're all ok

Ha ha! I'm 28, a teacher and been with my partner for 9 years. I wasn't ttc and this pregnancy wasn't planned (for at least another couple of years). We still live with my parents so I was dreading telling them and I got my teaching job because I was covering maternity leave and the lady before fell out/ didn't come back. So, I convinced myself it would cost me my job too (irrational, I know). I panicked for weeks but once everyone knew, they were genuinely happy and excited for me. That being said, it has only been the last couple of weeks that I've started to get excited (honestly!!!) I just wanted to say that your not alone, I know how you feel and that its natural to worry. Also, I was terrified there was no baby at the scan, so much so that I couldn't cry or be excited as I was too worked up that I had imagined it. I'm 17+0 today! X

Hi Bunnychan thanks so much for your post. It really helps to know there are people in similar situations!

Congratulations! It's a little miracle isn't it! [Smile]

I think I will ne happier once I've sewn our LO on the 28th..fingers crossed. I'm scares of getting excited encased it amounts to nothing.

One of my friends guessed last night just by looking at me so I'm hoping that's a good sign!

I can completely relate to the feeling of not being able to relax. I had an mc last year and worried right up to my 12 week scan that the same would happen again especially as I had absolutely no symptoms, very pleased to say that it didn't and I got to see baby!

I'm nearly 23 weeks now and still haven't relaxed completely. My current worry is that I haven't felt movement yet, hoping that's due to it being my first and that I have an anterior placenta.

I think it's important to relax and enjoy it as much as possible so I'm trying to stop worrying. Good luck to everyone with scans coming up, hope you have lovely boring pregnancies and happy healthy babies.

Gosh I can sympathise with so much on this thread - I am 31 and a teacher and am currently 7+5 weeks pregnant. I had a miscarriage in January and has taken us almost exactly 11 months to get pregnant again and I am worrying about everything!! Just want the next 4 weeks to rush by so I can have my 12 week scan and hopefully then know everything is ok.

Any of the other teachers on here had to leave a lesson to be sick yet? I haven't yet but I've come pretty close a couple of times. Am doing something I never do and teaching sitting down some days! (I am secondary school so bit easier than those of you teaching the littlies)

Having worried myself all the way up to 23 weeks I'm going to relax and enjoy it now. I had an mc last year so was very nervous and despite having no pregnancy symptoms (other than a growing bump) all seems to be fine.

I was worried about not feeling movement until Sunday when I started to feel some lovely reassuring flutters. Had an MW appointment today and heartbeat was good and strong so now going to relax.

Hope everyone can start to relax a bit. Having worried for weeks I now wish I'd started to enjoy things sooner. Wishing everyone worry-free pregnancies x

Thanks for the advice teapig and eggym . I went to docs yesterday over some pains which turned out to be wind. Lol.

I've been teaching sat down as well. It's so hard! Lots of media going on this week too.

Good look with upcoming scans and pregnancy! Keep in touch!

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Its so good to hear all your thoughts and stories. I just had a positive pregnancy test after trying for a year and a half and was so excited. Went to gp to make an appointment with mw etc and let them know the news. I felt so stupid and gp said I was barely pregnant and not to get excited. Now I am so depressed and down when I should be happy. I am terrified that I'll never make it to 8 weeks let alone 12!

Hi Smiler, nice to see more teachers pg with their first! I am a teacher (Early Years like Ceebs), married, 27 and expecting the miracle child the doctors told me I would never have (cue a very smug look from me, tee hee!). I am now 28 weeks and finding it impossible to believe I have less than three months to go until I am a mummy... My maternity leave begins in 3 days and work have actually been pretty good on the whole - my nursery team have been very understanding and my nursery assistants picking up some of the slack re: heavy lifting etc. My headteacher was less than impressed but lately even she seems to be caught up in cooing over my lovely bump

I promise it does get easier - the weeks until your first scan seem to take FOREVER (it didn't help that I found out I was pg at the start of the summer holidays so had six weeks off to worry and stress about it all!), but once you have that scan it makes it so, so real... the most amazing moment of my life, I'm not ashamed to say I bawled my eyes out with relief (having had 3 prior early mcs).

I told my parents about two weeks after I found out - I gave myself a bit of time to get my head around it (and convince my husband it was actually happening this time), and then I told them after having been for an early scan. They were over the moon. Yes it is risky, but if anything should go wrong (which it probably won't!!!), I think I'd rather have my parents in the know and ready to support me and pick me up than have to deal with my emotions on my own IYSWIM.

Anyway, sorry for the long ramble, just nice to read a happy familiae story. Good luck with everything, keep us updated :)

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Smiler glad to hear your pains were just wind!! I am so aware of every tiny pain and twinge I guess you're the same!

Abby please don't feel down because of the doctors reaction. I have been to see so many unsympathetic / insensitive doctors over the past year with my previous miscarriage/ fertility issues / current pregnancy - you just have to remember it's all just a job to them but to you this is the most important thing - and though it is early days and of course we're all nervous we all have every right to be a little bit excited too.

Anyway, just waiting for the midwife to turn up in 20 mins for my booking in appointment - feeling nervous for some reason. Or maybe its just morning sickness...

I'm a year 1 teacher but haven't had any morning sickness so I haven't had to worry about that at work. I can get away with sitting in my lessons as we work on the carpet and then in little groups. I don't think any of my children or their parents have realised yet, which I'm pleased about but bump is growing at an alarming rate. I'm dreading the 'but your not married' comments from our devote Muslim parents. I'm really embarrassed about it lol! X

Abby I'm sorry your doctor said that to you. I was only 5 weeks when I found out so know how nerve racking itvis...as I've said I don't think I'll feel ok until I've seen himher.

Try to be positive and enjoy it. The midwiFe told me to trust that the nausea ane sore boo bs were sign enough that I was def pregnant.

Take carexx