40+8 aaaaaargh please help!

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

I am 8 days overdue. I have lost my plug, a bit yesterday and a lot today. I have some pain but nothing notable. I have been walking loads all week, bouncing on a gym ball like a demented toddler, and doing the rocking pelvis thing the MW showed me.

Why wont it come out? Im booked in for induction on monday. But really want to go myself. Any advice?

Well if uve no problems n want it to happen naturally cancel ur induction

High BP or I would :( but they wont let me!

Orgasm :)

It's more than likely you will go into labour, you may even be in the latent stages now.

Nothing you will do will make this baby come before it's ready, so try and take the pressure off of yourself. Labour isn't happening because you're not doing something specific, the fact is you don't have influence.

Try and switch your mindset and enjoy these last few days before the madness starts. I know it's hard, but changing how you feel stops you feeling quite so wretched and desperate.

You don't have to be induced if you don't want to be. Research expectant management and see what you think.

Good luck - it will happen

you don't have to accept induction.

tell them "no"

I declined induction and did it all on "expectant management" (dd born at 40+15)
I didn't have your symptoms until I was about to drop.

can we count this as your Live Birth Thread?

(just because you have high BP doesn't mean you don't get to choose what happens to your own body)

You poor thing. I know its the absolute last thing you want to hear but you must try to relax. Your body will be much more receptive to going in to labour if you aren't all tense and full of stress with willing it to start. (How you go about that at 8 days overdue I don't know! )

Good luck. Whatever happens, you will have your baby very, very soon

have you started tidying yet?

have a huge dinner, go for a walk and then have a sit down.
not because it will bring the baby on, but because you won't get another chance for at least 4 months....

There is no such thing as they won't let me. Your body, your choice.

Is your raised BP an historical thing, or a recent thing? Could it be White coat syndrome?

There are a load of overdue ladies on the November 2012 antenatal thread. Come and have a moan with us.

I know I need to relax. Its just so hard. Everytime I stop thinking about it I feel a little twinge and its back in my head again.

I dont think I could orgasm even if I tried!

DP thinks Im in early labour because I lost the plug and had some pain. Hes being great. But its so frustrating thinking I am so close and yet its not happening!

I had high BP with DD too. I think its white coat syndrome because it always goes down the second time they check it.

:o I am trying to enjoy the peace and quiet while DD is at her dads.

there you go then, that's your reasoning.

tell them to stay out of your fanjo.

That made me laff a lot nickel 'GET OUTTA MY FANJO'. I like it...!

I had White coat syndrome high BP towards the end of my pregnancy. I was worried about there being a problem and was desperate for a hb ( I was 9 days overdue), so I ended up working myself up into a stew about it.

If they are worried enough about your high BP that they want to induce you on Monday, I take it they've been round numerous times this weekend to check your BP???????

Nope. They are big on lecturing me when Im in. But I never see the same person and its all very impersonal.

I had a sleep and now the baby is kicking loads. Theres some pain but its hard to tell if the babys movements are the cause or effect! Definately not enough pain to be labour!

Can't help other than to say I sympathise with you! I was induced at 40+11. Those last few days felt like an eternity. But try rest as, like earlier poster, you won't have much chance after baby arrives!!

Make sure you find out what pain relief will be available on the antenatal ward if you are induced. If they say just tablets then think carefully - my actual labour (4 Oct) was less painful than the induction with propess! It is only my own experience but I will be refusing induction in any future pregnancies, unless they will provide gas and air, though I was induced only for post dates, not medical reasons.

Im a bit confused about induction actually.

They told me to phone on mon and check if there is a bed. Then go in at 4pm. Does that mean I get induced on mon or tues am? Does DP stay with me?

DP just phoned to ask and they said to phone first thing mon and they might want me in earlier. If so i will be induced on mon. If not i stay over until tues. So how much is DP allowed to be there?

If you don't want to be induced then don't be forced into it. If medical information indicate that it's the best thing for you and/or the baby, then fair enough. But don't be ruled by their dogma.

If they were truly worried about your BP, they would be coming to take readings over the weekend. They have gone through their checklist and the next stage is induction. They haven't taken your individual circumstances into consideration. And for them to say that you will only be induced if they have a free bed confirms that they are not concerned about your BP.

Anyway, after my ranty outpouring, chances are you will go into spontaneous labour anyway

If you have any pain try to stay upright, especially during the night when the hormones that trigger labour are at their highest (at least that's what I've read and all my labours and many other people's I know were during the night). Walk, do some pelvic rocking so that contractions don't stop. It worked for me, but it could also have been a coincidence. But I had also had a sweep a few days before it all happened and was fed up of the pain stopping as soon as I went to sleep at night, so I chose one day that I stayed awake and kept moving when some minor pains started.

They are probably saying induction because hospital policy that they have to protect themselves. If you want more information then google the NICE guidelines about induction. I wish I'd known them before I was induced.

If you haven't already google sure start centres in your area so you can have a geeky excel sheet of places to take the baby when you want to get out the house

The birth is just a small part of your new journey into motherhood and it will all be worth it when the baby is snuggling into you or when they give you their first smile

WHO (World Health Organisation) defines normal gestation as 38-42 weeks so technically nobody is 'overdue' until 42+. In the absence of other actual problems, I would be reluctant to accept an induction. Induction tends to lead to other interventions. My first baby was born at 42+0 with no problems, I was not pressured to be induced, I said I'd rather not be but had an appointment to discuss it scheduled for that day.
If you have lost the mucus plug, I think you're definitely on your way, that was the first sign with all of mine, look forward to reading your good news, good luck!

My DH was sent home when visiting hours were over ie 8pm. He was allowed back at I think 8am next day. I had been induced at 3pm and contractions began while I was asleep, becoming very painful about 2am. I was 0cm dilated though so no pain relief allowed as I wasn't technically in labour.

Another tip if you are induced - get a tens machine and keep it with you...I stupidly forgot it was in a bag DH took home with him! Once he was back it was a godsend, though they don't work for everyone.

Good luck for a natural labour or a smooth induction - whatever you decide will be right for you on the day :)

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