Fantastic 40+ Mum to be - part 2

[Hpbp]

Let's keep on chatting !
Awaiting to hear from you all.
Midget, how are you feeling after the sweep ?
Exexe, are you happy with the new kitchen ? Very glad to see you back on here.
Warm welcome to the only Dad we have on the thread, sorry I could not remember your name as I write this.
Have a lovely Monday. Pouring rain in Paris today.

Midget, sounds promising, baby is engaged so the contractions will follow, no doubt. Hey hey, baby will be in your arms very soon !!! I am so excited for you. Will keep my fingers crossed. Come on, baby, it is time to come and say hello.

Oh Midget, those final few days are such a slog - all your symptoms sound promising...Things Are Going To Progress Quickly For You...I can feel it in my water.
Thanks for the kind wishes Riverside (love the name!) - yes, six babies is tough at times, but we have a lot of laughs too. Each pg has been v different. This time i will be having my first CS, so I am reading everything I can from u lovely ladies who hv had CS. I requested one cos I had such a miserable experience with my last vag delivery (first experience of birth in Canada).
My biggest problem at the mo is work related - am here on a visa so hv to work full-time and if you do not want to do manual labour/heavy lifting while pg (I work in healthcare), then it is not just a matter of getting a sick note from a doctor and maybe visiting Occ Health...no, so far I have had meetings with my GP, my Ob/Gyn, someone from HR, a Union Rep, Workplace Health and still the msg isn't getting through...leading to a worsening of my backpain and SPD. Sorry, am feeling a bit homesick for the NHS and midwives at the moment !!! Thankfully am not far off from 29 weeks, so the End Is Nigh!!!

I had pessaries then breaking of waters. Still needed the drip. My cervix was not as favourable as mine though, so hopefully ROM would push it just enough to start it proper. A shag is a good idea if you are up to it.

Still uncomfy, and quite teary at times, but my new nappy came today, so that cheered me up a smidge.

VQ feel I should try the shag but feel so bloody site from all the sweeps it may just kill me! I am hoping to avoid the drip at all costs. I may request a CS if we get to that.

loving all your positive messages - I am starting to believe it may not be bad which is pretty amazing considering I know better! You are all lovely.

crazy 6? Bloody hell. That is all

Right off to double check bag, check DD has everything sorted and listen to some hypno crap.

midget I am inclined to agree. Have the ROM, but if they say drip, say ELCS. At that point you can say you gave it a bloody good try! I am guessing a shag is preferable to a section or drip, so worth trying to find a bit of enthusiasm. Lots of pillows is my recommendation, let him do the work for a change, and remember all you really need is his fluids. It does not need to be romantic. You do not even need to be awake

Valium Queen ! You are so funny ! Not even awake, poor guys....

Midget, really hope this is it! Thinking of you although not the shagging part.

like your style VQ romantic lady!

no seriously i remember trying to get my DP to shag me last time so i know you're being fair and accurate! wierdly one does sort of feel like it oneself, but for the DP it's not gonna be their best shag ever.

midget good luck good luck!

VQ and Fireflies ? oh god I really am pregnant, just burst into tears reading your messages

You're right, Im worrying without actually finding out all of the options. You do make me feel better about the ELCS, I feel it's right for me so I'm going to try to stand my ground with it. What is co-sleeping btw?

Thanks for being excited for me Firelies ? Im really excited myself.

One other thing, I've not actually told the father yet. I wanted to wait until I knew everything was ok, and now I'm really nervous about it. I will definitely tell him as he has a right to know and make a decision to be part of this or not, but I just can't decide whether to tell him now or after the birth.

noodles I think you should tell him now as it would come as an awful shock if he was told after the birth. It would not be the best start to any potentially supportive parenting role. Only you can make that decision though. I would think the longer you leave telling him, the harder it would be.

Noodles I agree with VQ. I'd tell before but leave it at that. Not that it's any of my business though!

Lots of waking, mild contractions, no bloody baby. Packed my bag and off to triage to evict this little midget. Things I hope: 1) I am able to stop them giving me the drip 2) there is a bed for me in the labour ward and they don't keep me hanging around for ages 3) I am home soon with a healthy baby obviously 3 is the only one that really matters.

Feel really emotional. Saying goodbye to DD was awful, had a good cry when she left for school with her little suitcase. And she kept talking about when our dog died - kids say the strangest things eh?.

Anyway, I will post in when I can from the inevitable hanging around getting frustrated element. Here's hoping baby midget is in my arms soon x

Good luck Midget

Thanks HP

Oh midget poor you saying goodbye to DD! That is the bit I am dreading. But remember you are doing this for her and for your little family. She will survive, and will be so happy to have a sibling who will be her closest friend her whole life. It will take a while for her to realise that though probably.

Be strong. You can and will do this. Eagerly awaiting news x

You are right VQ but it was by far the hardest thing. it all changes doesn't it when you have DC's that you treasure so much?

No room in the inn for midget baby Jesus. Labour ward full. So have had swabs, Cannula fitted, finding a ward to look after me until there is a midwife free. Having quite painful contractions though so still hoping that I could do this on my own if they keep me waiting long enough . Also thinking I really don't care how he comes out as long as he comes out healthy. X

That is all that matters midget but it sounds promising. I bet an ELCS is quite appealing now in retrospect! Hope there is soon room for you.

Thinking of you Midget. Got a bit teary at your post about saying goodbye to your DD. I think it's just hit me that I won't be with DS for at least a couple of nights when I have the ELCS. I've never left him for more than 2 nights in 8.5 years and that was only once, and I didn't like it! It's usually just one night when he has a sleepover or stays at my parents. I know he'll be fine and I guess I'll have other stuff to think about.

good luck midget i still have a theory baby midget will pop out quickly at the last minute! what a wait you're having. your DD is going to get something lovely out of this - and baby midget is going to be lucky to have an older sister - there was a study about how older sisters are really good for you.

i am suddenly having a road to damascus moment after talk about toxoplasmosis on the April thread. I've been eating runny egg yolks every day - it's been a craving, a near-obsession. Now stopping. Also bagged salad - gonna have it, but gonna wash it first. Pleased to see i've not actually been breaking any other rules.

noodle and knicky and cadmum and any other people at a similar stage - what are you doing?

and midget good luck again.

GRADUATED
10000Fireflies, baby firefly born July?
Hpbp, Anastasia, born August?
bytheseaside, lovely little girl, 25th/26th September name TBC
Littleredmonkey 43, DC1 Dylan, EMCS 4th October
Fjordmor 41, DC1, girl born 3/10 by CS

PG
Firstbubba 43, DC1 due 2/10?
Midget 41, DC2 Due for sweep 9/10 or ELCS 19/10
Exexe, DC3, due for ELCS 17/10
Mrs?Oldandcobwebby?45, DC1, due 20/10?
ValiumQueen 43, DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knottyhair 44, DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl (Rosa)
ClickingTock 40, DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise (although sonographer has probably spoiled it...)
Eagleray 41, DC1 due 18/1 Girl
Riversidelibrary 42, DC1 due 29/1, Boy
Knickyknocks 40, DC2 due 17/3
TheNoodles, 41, DC1 14/3
MrsWooster 45, DC2 due 31/3/13 (a palindrome!) girl
Cadmum 41, DC5 due 06/04, living in Thailand
somewherebecomingrain 40, DC2 due 11/4
Scarecrow22 42, DC2 due 27/4
BadBuddha 42, DC2 due 5/5
Onemoreforgoodmeasure 40, DC1 due 06/06

Midget - thinking of you! Just managed to get on with my phone with my left hand during a brief break in the feeding/tantruming, in which I have to continue to hold DD to keep her asleep. Not sure how I'm going to manage the loo & food soon - guess I'll have to unleash the screaming again. Anyway, fingers crossed for an uneventful delivery for you. I'll check for news whenever DD allows (or when DP's home from work). Hi to everyone else xx

A little bit of screaming won't hurt fjord it is important you look after yourself too x

Echoing VQ, Fjord, remember crying is the only way baby communicates with us at the beginning. I know it is hard to hear the screams, it sounds like they suffer sooooooo much, but they can wait 2 or 3 minutes. DS1 used to wake up screaming as soon as I had shampoo in my hair....
Somewhere, runny eggs could have given you stomach ache, glad they didn't, but not toxo. But defo, wash salad, fruit, hands, avoid touching cat and their poos, hence soil, and rare red meat. I am not immune and it was a bit of a concern during the 2 pg, but apart from the above, I did not follow any specific care. And I did avoid toxo. Still not immune today ! No matter how much rare meat I eat when not pg...

Knotty, midget, I hear you, it is hard to leave the eldest child to give birth. And this was just the beginning AFAIAC. The guilt keeps growing, even more after the arrival of baby. We have to keep in mind that in the long run, our children will be the best support to each other later and it is one of the reasons we wanted more than one child. No doubt it is a hard time for the mum as well as the first child.

Midget, thinking of you.

Confirming my graduation on 2/10 boy 9lb 2.5oz Jamie