Fantastic 40+ Mum to be - part 2

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Let's keep on chatting !
Awaiting to hear from you all.
Midget, how are you feeling after the sweep ?
Exexe, are you happy with the new kitchen ? Very glad to see you back on here.
Warm welcome to the only Dad we have on the thread, sorry I could not remember your name as I write this.
Have a lovely Monday. Pouring rain in Paris today.

Yeah to me the idea of a kick count did not make sense - he'd be absolutely still for at least 2 days then suddenly kick like crazy. A pattern of sorts but not one that told you much between bursts of activity.

This time I'm not worrying therefore - maybe I should.

Literally 2 weeks ago Knicky was talking about the kicks she was getting and I was worrying then I got some.

There seems to be a lack of nuance in the kicking wisdom. Unless you and I are in a tiny minority.

Xx

Or LOs are very special

I've got to say LO kicking is sporadic to say the least. Not felt a thing this morning. Other days, I've had a few minutes of feeling LO kick, but then it goes all quiet for ages and ages. I'm trying not to think about it too. I guess I'll take more notice of it at 30+ weeks (blimey that's only 5 weeks!) - and any worries then I'll talk to the MW, but find it terribly difficult at 25 weeks to start counting any kicks as suspect at this stage I'll just be winding myself up if I perceive the kicks to not be enough (have no idea at this stage how many your supposed to feel.......). somewhere is quite right there is definitely a lack of nuance when it comes to kicking wisdom.......

scarecrow fab to hear that MS may finally be on it's way out. I think it's possibly one of the worst symptoms to have in pregnancy and you truly don't know the misery of it unless you have it for weeks on end like many of us poor ladies have....and apparently have to try and keep our lives going somehow. Rotten.

knotty 17 sleeps?? Wow. Time is starting to fly past. LO will be here before you know it. A new sofa? Make sure you have some 1001 spray in the house, suspect you might be needing it over the next few months/years

Counting down to DD and DH going to nanny's. Think my 24 hours of freedom starts at 11 this morning. I'll be using my time wisely and have decided that although there's some housework to be done, that this can be done at anytime. This is the second night since DD was born that I've had it all to myself and I'm intending on taking it very very easy. If I can't do it now, suspect there won't be another opportunity for a long time. Now where are those sloppy tracksuit bottoms......

knicky at sloppy tracky-bums

Listening to DD boss her grandparents around downstairs - defo next best thing to a real retreat. Now that's why PILs were invented...

scarecrow you make me laugh out loud! Love it - definitely the reason why PILs were invented....think you should take your time going downstairs this morning!!

Okay, we've been here 41 hours and I've Had Enough!!
Give me strength , ,

morning all hope everyone is well.

parents in laws - aren't they helping with the kids and giving you time to sit down scarecrow? or are they insufferable even if they do this?

i only have a MIL and she has the nicest most comfortable living room ever. Sometimes she's really depressed and it's hard going but when she's more cheerful we get on great.

knicky how was your freedom?

i had a nice weekend - children's party on saturday. Then on Sunday my sister and an old friend and I got together with our five under-fives. For some reason we have lots of capes and all five went to the park on scooters or bikes wearing capes - like lots of little ETs from behind. They looked ridiculous and gorgeous.

BTW when i said i felt sick it wasn't like proper MS - it was just a sort of low level queasiness - just annoying cause i would like to be able to take supplements but they seem to make me queasy. scarecrow glad you are feeling better - it's probably 95% gone for me now.

Re supplements i think i've got to the point where the benefits outweigh the cons so am taking spatone. I do feel more energetic than i remember feeling in my first pregnancy so i think it's helping.

knotty it's nearly time! glad you are getting some gratifying nesting in eg new sofa. Xmas decorating sounds lovely - gonna get on to it myself soon as DS so keen.

I'm starting to nest and it got me thinking - first pregnancy i was due to move a month before the birth so no nesting was possible, or at least it was very disrupted. I think it made it harder to adjust to motherhood.

I'm in straightened living circumstances now which i won't go into but i'm nesting them to smithereens. I'm organising DS's toys into categories and putting them into containers. I've got big plans for the stuff on top of cupboards. I'm going through all the drawers. Last time i couldn't do this - no point before the move. And too overwhelming to do it after the move as i just didn't know enough about where things were or the layout of the house to make decisions.

Anyone else had disrupted nesting?

epic post - apols.

xxx

straitened not straightened - we're not living on a ruler

Evening ladies! Had my amnio today, feeling very relieved after it & hoping the results will be reassuring.

Hoping everyone is keeping well. I'm shattered now the nervous energy has worn off - an early night for me , I think c

Hi Cheese glad to hear the amnio went ok. Hope you are resting comfortably now - did they tell you when the results will be available?

After I had mine, I bought a selection of Greggs confections and took myself off to bed for the rest of the day.

Scarecrow - your weekend sounded stressful! Hope you are safely back home after your in-law visit...

Somewhere - I have been doing nesting of sorts for a while now, mostly consisting of getting rid of tons of things, and decorating the room the baby will eventually use. I don't feel at all inclined to make it 'nursery-ish' though - more concerned with clearing some space and making sure all the shitty building jobs are done before the baby is here! I have no idea how people cope with house moves at this stage of pregnancy, but it seems that plenty of people do it! I do find though that I very much appreciate being in the comfort of my own home and having access to things such as comfy sofa, bed, nice shower room etc.

Knotty - two weeks today! Are you enjoying the new sofa?

Hope the rest of you had a nice, stress-free weekend? My new(ish) car arrived on Sat and had a major stresser driving it around trying to get used to it and also park it! I think I get by a lot on routine, and trying to drive a new car is frankly scary. Feel a bit more used to it now and am actually enjoying driving it.

DP and I went to the supermarket on Sat and I was getting a bit stressed/stroppy with trying to get all the shopping done, then came across a lady doing a prosecco promotion (with little thimble-sized free samples). I forgot myself for a moment, my face lit up and I went over to try one. Then the lady says "are you allowed?" "Yes" I replied and grabbed one, then had DP grabbing me dragging me away saying I was making a show of myself. Oh dear. I drink only very small amounts at the mo, and certainly don't ask for permission before I indulge!

MW appt tomorrow - these appts are coming round so quickly now, and getting more frequent!

thanks eagle - I've hardly moved from the sofa - although about to change into my jammies! I should get the initial results by the end of the week & the full results within 2 weeks. I think it will be ok - I just need to know for sure.

I never lose the taste for alcohol when pregnant either - am looking forward to a glass of bubby on Hogmanay & Christmas day - yum!

Glad you are comfortable Cheese - I may have told you before, but the consultant said to me that he recommended resting for a day or two, but if I chose to go hiking instead it wouldn't make any difference. I do think it is nice to be kind to yourself though and put your feet up and have some quiet time after the stressful build-up to testing.

I also bought an ipad on way home from hospital as knew that this would help a lot with the resting, if the Gregg's nosebag didn't do the trick

Hurrah for little alcohol treats! Let's hope we can both enjoy a little drink during the festive season without any well-meaning friends/relatives doing a cat's bum face at us (yes, talking to you DBiL)

cheese well done on getting through that. Now rest, rest, rest. And all digits crossed for results.

Riverside how are you and your family getting on. Still thinking of you lots.

I'm not usually one for Royal gossip, but you've got to feel for poor Kate and William having to go public so early on in the pregnancy, and in such horrid circumstances.

rest up, Cheese and thanks god the actual thing's over.

Re the nesting... I am the loony mover this time round. We've been festering in rented for a year, nearly, and officially get the keys to the new place on Tuesday 11th, and move in on the 14th. With half our stuff still in store and all the out-laws coming for CHristmas dinner, it should be a restful time coming up. Still, not like I've got anything else on my mind. I'm thinking of getting married, just so me and DP can get divorced, get the sack and then kill someone to get the full house of Stress Inducers. At least I can have a snootful on Christmas Day and then eat my weight in choc. Oh, hang on...
Ho Ho Ho.

Scarecrow, hope you're back home now, and good luck with the scan on Thursday.
Knicky, hope you enjoyed your weekend of freedom!
Somewhere, love the idea of all those little ETs .
lotsofcheese, glad the amnio went OK, and fingers crossed the results are fine.
Eagleray, a thimble sized Prosecco sounds fine to me! I'm out for dinner on Friday and I plan to have a whole glass bad woman. As for "are you allowed" - WTF?? Hope it goes OK with the MW today.
Same here, Riverside, thinking of you my love.
MrsWooster, good luck with the move, and hope everyone pulls their weight and helps out.
The new sofa is laaaarvely - reclining seats so the 3 of us are in the lounge like proper couch potatoes. Although when you press the button to come back up, I can't help feeling like a vampire in an old film rising out of a coffin.

Have our pre-op meeting tomorrow morning to discuss what will happen at the ELCS. Getting excited, although last night I was fully reclined, eating a mince pie & cream, watching Homeland and felt a bit tearful thinking "this time in 2 weeks I'll be in a hospital bed away from DP & DS." Must concentrate on the fact that I'll be cuddling DD I suppose!

Thank you all for your kind words, they are much appreciated.

Mum's funeral is booked for Monday. My older brother has flown in from Sydney and has been looking after Dad this week, which is a great relief. I'm back at work crossing over with my maternity cover this week.

Tonight is our first NCT class (I missed last week's) and I'm hoping it'll get me moving forward again. DH is being wonderful. LO is still very active which also helps a lot.

Lovely to see new names on the thread. Sorry I don't have the focus at the moment to catch up properly with everyone's news.

best wishes riverside totally understand.

lotsofcheese good luck good luck and hope you are relaxed and resting

mrswooster at least it's not a month before you give birth but yes my sympathies! hope the new place is great

xxx

thanks for the good wishes, much appreciated! eagleI'll have the preliminary results by the end of the week & the full results by the end of next week. I do think things will be ok, I just need the reassurance.

we went in today, having got key from solicitor on the proviso we don't do anything weird, and I nearly did give birth on the spot... THe tenants have not cleaned at all, there's even food left in cupboards and the owners tat is still all in the attic, as is some of her old furniture. I am legendarily a slattern but would blush to leave a place in such a state. Humph.

MrsW - ye gods! Crap left in the attic is the biggest pain - I
remember when I moved into my house a few years ago I discovered an old mattress, giant magazine collection and a wasps nest big enough for a human to live in. Utter nightmare to remove. Are you able to get the owners to clear up?

Riverside - glad you have the support and some things such as NCT to provide a little distraction. Hope the funeral goes ok x

Knotty - am loving the vampire description!

MW appt went ok today, although MW unfortunately dropped my wee sample on the worktop in the consulting room and it went EVERYWHERE. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry but did say sorry even though it wasn't me who had dropped it as felt so awful (it was on carpet too!) She managed to whip out a testing stick quick as a flash though and test the puddle sat on the work surface - all clear!

Have been getting terrible bouts of heartburn these last few days - seems to be triggered by empty stomach, and cured by eating something, at least for a little while. Am on the Gaviscon and thanking my lucky stars that this is the only real discomfort I have suffered so far in this pregnancy (unless you count paranoia and worrying as discomfort!)

That is shocking eagleray and mrswooster. We are renting out our house and we cleared every corner of it including the attic, and paid a professional cleaner to clean it as well before the tenants arrived.

eagleray i definitely do count paranoia and worrying as discomfort. But you do sound physically quite good with your tomcat rovings!

I am doing lots of swimming and my weight has stabilised. I'm quite relieved about this - if i'm not putting on weight then i'm actually losing a bit no? believe me i can afford to.

we are still financially in purgatory waiting to hear if my DP has got investment but i suddenly don't care - one way or another i'll get a year at home and then if i need to go back to work full time in something low paid i'll just have to do it. I charge a relatively high freelance day rate so if i worked all the time i'd be very comfortable, but there just isn't enough work at that rate so the net result is poverty.

I'm fairly confident i can get a lower paid job in my industry or at least a lower paid contract.

At least this one is a girl and they cope better with separation. And in fact if DP still isn't bringing in money HE can do the childcare - he is v hot on not putting them into childcare too suddenly too early. DS will be at school by then so he'll be ok.

xxx

Just a really quick one to say hello to you all. Moved back to London, lots to sort out, and no more Mum to cook meals ! Trying to cope with a 4 yo and a 4 mo, oh joy !!!
Cheese, glad the amnio went ok, waiting for results can be nerve breaking but hopefully all will be ok
Knotty, 12 days to go ! Thinking of you ! New sofa, hum, you will enjoy that if not already !
Eagle, meeting up can be organised pretty soon. The BJCM GT is brilliant, love it. I am sure it can drive by itself !!!

Hi all. I joined recently, but am just back here to report that I miscarried a week ago :-(. It took 2.5 years to get PG and then I lost it. I knew the miscarriage risk was high at 40 but I was thinking positively. I wish you all the best of luck. I'm off for TTC advice now...

Oh Rebecca,I'm so sorry. Life is so unfair sometimes. Sending you love & strength. There is good support from the "miscarriage & pregnancy loss" section - the ladies there will support you, if you feel you want to use the board.

Also to say the initial results of my amnio were good - no Downs, Edwards, Patau syndromes. The consultant is pretty confident the 2nd lot will come back clear too. I'm not counting my chickens!

It was a sobering appointment today. Over the last 3 months, my focus has been on m/c & chromosomal abnormalities. And it's been pretty stressful.

Today we had a frank discussion about the likely course of events in this pregnancy. Having had PE severely & early in my previous pregnancy, she was very clear that I will not get to term & I'll get "something" - either high BP or PE again.

So I'll be packing my hospital bag from 20 weeks & hoping like hell that whatever I get, it will be much later & effect baby less severely.

I'm so, so sorry Rebecca - that is so tough, especially after it took so long to get pregnant. Wish you lots of love and hope you recover and come to terms with it ok, and lots and lots of luck with trying again. I still think thinking positively is the right thing to do, as things do work out ok for most of us, although obviously that can be very hard to do at times. Really, really hope to see you back here soon with good news x

That's great re the initial results Cheese - am so pleased for you. I don't have much knowledge of PE but am familiar with that feeling of thinking you are over the biggest hurdle, only for the next one to loom large... I guess they will be monitoring you closely - will be keeping my fingers crossed for you that you have as much of a trouble-free remainder of pregnancy as possible.

Hi BBD and welcome back to the UK! I bet you will miss your mum, but hopefully the daily presence of DP will help. Glad the BJCM is going well - mine is assembled and sat in the basement, ready to go, but with no real purpose, for now. Would be lovely to meet up some time :-)

I had an old friend visit this eve - known him a few years, then he kind of disappeared once he was in a relationship (as people often do). They had a baby 5 months ago, and he recently heard I was pregnant so popped round with the baby to 'show me what I am getting' (engineers, bless them with their practical ways). It was a bit scary as realised when he handed the baby over that it is actually one of the handful of times in my life that I have held a baby, and the first baby I've had contact with while I've been pregnant! Bizarrely, I have no worries about what to do with my own clearly I am mad and have a big shock coming