Fantastic 40+ Mum to be - part 2

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Let's keep on chatting !
Awaiting to hear from you all.
Midget, how are you feeling after the sweep ?
Exexe, are you happy with the new kitchen ? Very glad to see you back on here.
Warm welcome to the only Dad we have on the thread, sorry I could not remember your name as I write this.
Have a lovely Monday. Pouring rain in Paris today.

Thank you for the kind words. Mum has finally been moved to Kings hospital but still no confirmed date for the bypass. Very frustrating. At least this hospital is only 90 mins from home so I'll be able to visit after work during the week, not just weekends.

Welcome rebecca and many congratulations on DC2. How are coping so far, any MS?

knotty interested that you got to visit the hospital, my local one won't show pregnant ladies around as they say its an infection risk. Instead they give us a DVD showing the labour and mlu units and describing the equipment.

Have my anti d 30week jab tomorrow. Did anyone else get one? Any side effects?

Riverside - sorry to hear your mum is still waiting for an op date. I hope she doesn't have to wait too much longer, and good to hear she is closer for visiting. Regarding hospital tours - there is a regular session which is on an antenatal course info sheet given to me by the MW. Problem is, all the sessions are during the day and I can't take any more time off work - rang them up to ask if I could visit at a different time and they said no! Was thinking about complaining about the antenatal courses as they are all so bloody inaccessible!

Rebecca - hello again and congratulations! So sorry you lost your baby to Edward's - those early weeks of pregnancy are hard but great to hear you are happy and positive (I was just positively mental for the first few months...)

Knotty - glad your hospital 'dry run' went well - how many weeks will Rosa be on 17/12? Hopefully she will stay put until the big day.

Baby Eagle has been going nuts today - the movement has been constant and I have no idea where she is getting her energy from. It seems that up until today she was quite happy to sit there and count her toes and twiddle her earlobes (I have seen her do it on the scan) and then all of a sudden she has decided it is more fun to bounce off the walls and try and find a way out! First sign was yesterday when a foot-type object kept appearing on the surface of my stomach, and since then she has been jumping around like crazy. She also feels more bony too, as if she has suddenly hardened off. I have a MW appt tomorrow morning so will see if she has any ideas why the movements have increased so much.

Hello all!
Im 40 with a five year old, its nice to know how many older Mums there are, I was suprised that my GP didn't recoil in horror and immediately list a lot of complications because of my age...instead it was 'take your folic acid and away with you' !!
I'm about 16 weeks and feeling fine pysically, I've had a few wobbles mentally but thats a whole other thread
Pleased to meet you all in advance...

Hey blundermum welcome! This is a lovely thread. How are you doing?

It's been lovely and busy on here!

A big welcome to Rebecca and blunder - lovely to have you on board. Rebecca those first 12 weeks are by far the most stressful - I was very aware of my age (40), and very worried about the increased stats on abnormalities. It must be more so for yourself, having already been there once with your previous pregnancy. I do so hope that the 12 week scan gives you the relief and reassurance that everything looks fine.

blunder - I've been much the same as you - it seems to me that it's ME who is making a fuss about my age. The midwives and doctors all seem to be a bit non-plussed - one of them even said that they used to have a 40+ clinic at my hospital, but there's too damn many of us (which is fab IMO!)

somewhere forgive my late congratulations - but....CONGRATULATIONS, a little girl (well 90% sure anyway....) Wonderful news. My DD is just lovely, very caring and I'm terribly proud of her. I can't help about the sleeping thing for girls as DD didn't seem to sign up to that train of thought that girls sleep better. That said, I'll cross my fingers that for you it's true. I'm hoping to go with instead...bad sleeper....2nd one good sleeper (surely that must be true??!!)

riverside yes, I'm an anti-d lady! Already had one jab this pregnancy due to a slight amount of bleeding around the 16 week mark. No side effects at all - not even a sore arm. Had the anti-d jabs with DD too, and can also report no side effects then either - again no sore arm. You may have had it by now, but if not, hope it goes OK. So sorry to hear your mum hasn't got a date yet. She must just want to get on with things now.

AFM, the little man is getting much more lively. I'm getting big kicks now. Can't believe I'm in less than 6 weeks I'll be my third trimester. I've done no shopping for DS yet, think I'll wait till Christmas is over, then hit the shops. On the shopping list is new changing bag, buggy board for DD, new changing mat and new mattress for moses basket and crib. Sleep suits from DDs younger days are thankfully mostly white, but will have to think of getting a couple of blue ones aswell.

How's everyone else's shopping going? Much to get still?

Hi all. My 1st time a MN thread. I've skimmed thro the last few pages and felt you we have stuff in common
I'm 41 expecting my 1st 12 June 2013. Just had wk 11 scan.
Anyone else out there have disappearing twin syndrome? Am feeling worried that it'll have an impact on the wriggling one.
Will be seeing a consultant not MW at antinatal appts.
Any advice?

Hi Siri1 what is disappearing twin syndrome? I bet if you search the threads on mumsnet there will be something on it - if not start something and I'm sure people who have shared this will find you.

Welcome - lovely to meet all you new ladies - wishing you all strength in those early weeks as knicky says they are the hardest.

knicky I think it is a pretty rock solid equation that the second one will sleep better than the first if the first was a bad sleeper, so feeling confident for you on that front! I also have that equation in my favour.

When does the third trimester start - 27 weeks or something? Well done you.

I am so excited about having a girl I just want to meet her NOWWWWWWW. We have a name, even my DS is addressing the bump by name. Getting lots of movement but gentle movement - although a foot does seem to be permanently in my ribs.

what is the anti-d jab?

xxx

somewhere yep, think you're right the 3rd trimester starts at 27 weeks. I'm starting to feel decidedly stttrreettchy now. Think he's really starting to put some growth spurts in. Oh, anti-d jabs are for ladies who are rhesus negative. They give it in case baby is rhesus positive. I've got a leaflet on it, but to be honest, I only glanced through it and don't really know the science behind it. Think it's the jab is given in case there's any transfer of blood between mum and baby.

siri I don't know much about disappearing twin syndrome either. Defo do a search on the talk thread.

Ooh did I mention I went to see Skyfall the other week? Loved it - though think somewhere mentioned some time ago about Daniel's make up on the posters for the film. Got to say think the make up artist went a bit heavy on the mascara and eyeliner for Mr Craig at certain parts of the film. Nice body and all that, but lay off the damn Rimmel....I just don't men attractive when wearing lash lengthening black mascara..... especially given he's so fair. For gods sake at least go for brown/black shade

blundermum, what are you expecting to do for the birth? Have they said it's OK to try for a natural birth? I was an emergency C-section last time (with quite a traumatic time due to other complications), so they're letting me have an elective c-section this time if I want one. I can't decide whether to VBAC or not, but am leaning towards not. After what happened last time, I think I would be so tense I would never dilate!

You are 8 weeks ahead of me... glad you are doing fine and obviously got through the nuchal stuff and blood testing OK. I just got my scan date (at Addenbrooke's) so looking forward to getting that one out of the way!

There is just sooooo much to worry about that I end up just switching off (probably best!)!

Siri - hello and welcome! The only people I know who have lost a twin have done so when having ivf (and have continued successfully with a singleton pregnancy) but I know it has definitely been discussed recently on other MN threads.

Somewhere - I am impressed that you have a name lined up already! I am really struggling with names - got a shortlist but now have to get it past DP, which won't be easy... I am getting quite impatient myself - only 8 weeks to go, but I am sure it will drag at the end!

Rebecca - I think MrsWooster is in the same situation as you, ie contemplating a VBAC - there was a bit of a discussion on this thread about it just a few days ago. Regarding being tense, have you considered hynobirthing? I am doing a course at the moment and although clearly I can't tell you yet what effect it has had or how useful it has been, all the midwives I've spoken to have been very positive about it. Statistics show that it can shorten labour and lessen the requirement for intervention (apparently something to do with the fact that if you are relaxed and less fearful, your body is more able to get on with the job of giving birth).

Knicky - am loving your make-up advice for Mr Craig - I do hope he is reading and taking these comments on board....

Three joiners. Welcome, welcome to Rebecca, blunder, and Siri. As Somewhere said you will find it super friendly. I joined in early weeks when couldn't moan in RL but now love coming on for all sort of chat, support and giggles. It is my treat when I get on the train home each night.
Siri my sister was told she prob lost one of twins in her second pregnancy - doctors explanation for bleeding in first trimester. She had a good pregnancy (baby wise) and her son is utterly gorgeous and fine (he is batty and creative, but medically normal!!) from a quick Google the advice seems to be that it is more common than people realise in 1st trimester, and usually perfectly safe. Given you are early stage that Shd be reassuring. Funnily I had a huge bleed (for few days) in my second week, so early I presumed it was an early period and I was not pregnant - later it worries me but I actually consoled myself that that was the most likely explanation. I have no idea what reason was but 13 wk scan as good as cd be at 42yo!
Riverside so hope your mum comfortable and gets date soon. I know so many people who have had multi bypasses and gone on to have long happy lives, but I just know I would be worried if you. We are all rooting for your mum and family.
DD entertained us the other day: when my husband tried to pick a farm animal stamp out of the box she took it away and said "I deci(de)". Not sure if we have been too indulgent, though she is pretty sweet natured most of the time (maybe I'm kidding myself ;)). But flip she's going to have some personality on her by 14...

Good luck with baby shopping (don't forget eBay, Freecycle, etc.. Excellent sources), and with d-jabs... Bit spooked by DH's flu at weekend so booked flu jab for week today. Will I feel grotty after? Hope not as have rare night out that eve.

By the way, has anyone worked out how you put two little people to bed at the same time? I'm guessing I'll have to move baby to 6.30 and leave DD at 7pm or baby at 7, DD move to 7.30. Prob is DD on her knees by 7pm most nights! She often now asks to go to bed!!

rebecca (which incidentally is one of my very top picks if have DD2!) I am supposed go to VBAC clinic. Was initially only considering ELCS after failed labour and huge blood loss in Cs last time. Then consultant half persuraded me to try VBAC. Now DH and close friend horrified and almost made me see sense: as didn't go into labour last time will prob end up with CS anyway, ESP as they give you max 8 hours to start pushing ns chances of that for a "first" labour are slim. Plus if have blood loss again prefer do so in controlled calm of ELCS rather than EMCS. So my overview is not totally decided but erring towards ELCS.
Btw, I'm 18 wks, due 22 April
It's prob worth going for discussions so fully armed with facts. But choose what is right for you, not for them.

Sorry Scarecrow - I got you confused with MrsW re the VBAC - that's the last time I trust my addled memory

By the way, the advice you require re bedtime for 2 small ones can be found here - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/1616761-Bedtime-craziness-with-3-yr-old-and-5-mnth-old

No idea how I came across it or even bothered to read it as I have no DC! must be a housework avoidance tactic

scarecrow 5 weeks in I've still not managed to work out how to put 2 little people to bed effectively. Tonight I bf dc2 whilst reading to dc1 and currently neither are asleep but at least they are both in bed

Midget

Scarecrow i know what VBAC is = but what is VBAC clinic?

rebecca i am in same position as you (EMCS last time) and will almost certainly go for ELCS. The only thing I've read about VB that made me want it was some research floating around on the internet that squishing the baby's head is good for their intelligence. But there's a million tiny things that influence intelligence - also the consultant looked at me like i was mad when i mentioned it as a reason to try for VBAC. I really can't see any other reason for it - ELCS is the safest surest way to go.

I do understand the dilemma - i take every opportunity to give my no-nonsense justification for choosing ELCS - methinks I do protest too much.

however i'm interested to know more about VBAC clinic - does it involve lots of prep and working out why VB didn't work last time?

knicky i'm feeling s-t-r-e-tc-hy too

xxx

I'll look for vanishing twin syndrome elsewhere. In my case,we had 2 heartbeats at wk7 but only 1 at week 8. The twin that didn't make it is still there and slowly shrinking. Luckily there are in separate amniotic sacs so risks of l

ps eagleray we've knicked the girl name we had for our first baby - who came out a boy. in fact we've nicked a name we wanted to use but were unable to because I was still speaking to my mad sister then and she had a friend with that name and using it would upset her . But now we are totally estranged that's not a consideration.

you are good with the old links.
xx

Oops... Loosing both now small.

Went to see Skyfall twice, great distraction the night before a scan!

Am also starting to think of names (a bit early but fun)
Alright for girls names but no ideas for boys at all, the few I like or that are family names are all high up in the charts. Want something a bit individual but not too individual (if you know what I mean). Where are you all getting inspiration? A friend of mine is part Danish do her sons had to have 'strong' names. I wouldn't want to saddle mine with a name shared by too many school friends as myself and my husband had. Arrrgh!

somewhere its funny how much other people have strong opinions over your child's name. Mind you, there are a couple of names I used to like but after meeting someone with that name that I didn't take a shine to, it put me off. How shallow am I?

Ta for reassurance scarecrow22. Its good to hear others have made it through to a heathy baby. What we all want, eh?

Morning! Somewhere, thanks lovely, yes I'm trying to relax a bit but have spent the morning kneeling on the floor trying to do some Christmas wrapping. I really want to see Skyfall but I'm not sure how long I can sit in the cinema for - is it a long film?? Riverside, we didn't have a tour of the hospital (they don't do them here either) but we just went to make sure we knew where to go, what change for parking etc. Eagle, Rosa will be 39 wks exactly when I have the section. Hope the MW appt goes well today. Welcome to Blundermum and Siri1! I think 40 sounds quite young, I'm 44. And as for name inspiration, my DS chose Rosie for a girl and we just decided to do the Italian version to match DS & DP's names. Scarecrow, your DD sounds lovely! I did feel rough after my jab but my friend didn't so fingers crossed for you!

siri sorry crossed posts
i'm sorry you have lost one of your twins.
it does sound like it is really common and won't affect the other baby - i have looked it up on internet too.
but those are stressful weeks so wishing you peace and calm and that all goes smoothly - i'm sure it will
xx

Welcome and congratulations to blundermum and siri1, lovely to have more fantastic mums to be.

Blundermum I was surprised how relaxed my GP was at the first appointment too, I guess it really is so much more common to have babies at our age now.

siri1 I had a friend who very sadly lost one of her twins in the second trimester but successfully delivered the remaining baby, who is now a lovely heathly two year old boy.

knickyknocks the anti-D went fine thanks. I asked the midwife beforehand whether I would get a sore shoulder again and she said "definitely not, because it's going in your bum!". Our shopping is almost done for the big items (furniture/bugggy etc) but almost non-existent on the small stuff, just one darling teddy bear babygro.

Scarecrow Hope you don't catch DH's flu bug, that would be a nightmare, fingers crossed.

AFM we finally have a date for Mum's triple bypass, tomorrow at 7am, which is a huge relief. I'm taking the day off work to keep Dad company, and hopefully we'll manage to distract each other a little from our worries.

LO's arrival in nine weeks is one thing that is keeping me sane and grounded. Plus DH has been brilliant, he's done all the cooking for the last week and been looking after me whenever I just need a hug.