Fantastic 40+ Mum to be - part 2

[Hpbp]

Let's keep on chatting !
Awaiting to hear from you all.
Midget, how are you feeling after the sweep ?
Exexe, are you happy with the new kitchen ? Very glad to see you back on here.
Warm welcome to the only Dad we have on the thread, sorry I could not remember your name as I write this.
Have a lovely Monday. Pouring rain in Paris today.

welcome likesox and congratulations! Am keeping my fingers crossed it's a sticky one for you.
somewhere - I missed that article in the guardian about that woman being misdiagnosed with PND, when in fact just exhausted. I was similar to you, in that, it was me who did most of the night feeds, and I entered a level of tiredness that I'd never encountered before. DD was not the best sleeper in the world, and there were days where I was literally dizzy with low blood pressure from sheer exhaustion. At my lowest point, I remember just sobbing begging to sleep (and ironically, had a bit of insomnia for a short time when DD arrived.....felt like I was always on tenterhooks waiting for her to wake and cry again.....) I'm really hoping this time it'll be different, even a marginal shift towards a better sleep would be appreciated. Scarecrow's thought of a sleep nanny is a very tempting prospect this time, though I suspect I wouldn't go ahead with it either.
I agree that this time feels very different to last time. I don't think I appreciated what an amazing period of life pregnancy is. I certainly didn't really think about DD being a real person, whereas this time, I know what a lovely wonderful person I'm growing. It's all so much more real this time and I'm already feeling huge love for munchkin.
riverside ooh, your diabetes test sounds much more civil than the fasting, drink a load of gloop, blood test experience! Fab to hear that you loved your big day aswell. I hope the sun shone for you both (and will continue to do so!)

Working from home this morning, then off to London to a meeting, which will no doubt be both dull and unintelligible. The agenda had 27 attachments for god's sake! There had better be some bloody good biscuits there, or at least a nice pastry or two. Got to get through the damn thing somehow.....

VQ congratulations!

Test number 2 the same.
OH took it all very calmly and seems very happy this morning. Is all a done deal to him and babe will just miraculously arrive and of course all will be well.
Told him we'll just have to wait and see, which non-plussed him a little, but can't fault his attitude really. Am sure it will be much harder to tell other people, and family, but that's all for the future.

likesox today you are pregnant, and happy let that be your mantra. Enjoy it and dare to have hope. Looking at us should help with that.

DS has put on 6 oz since Saturday! HV happy to not weigh again until 6weeks jags, so we are very relieved.

marvellous VQ.

knicky good perspective - don't expect miracles from this baby, but just to be a leetle better with the sleep than DS1.

scarecrow and knicky my mate got a sleep nanny and her DS seems to be sleeping through from 5 months. I was stunned by her audacity - shouldn't she suffer like the rest of us? But maybe I'll do it next time.

lovely likesox! this is the place to come for morning sickness and hormonal first trimester moans.

congratulations riverside.

i've had a little nap (priviledge of working from home) and feel stunned and like i can't move my face. so gonna duck out. hello all x

xxx

Hello everyone, I have not been very talkative lately but still following your progress. I must say I am delighted to see that all pg are going well although GTT sounds like a nightmare for most of you except Riverside. Maybe Riverside you have a special treatment due to your very recent wedding ! Also glad to hear that second scans brought only good news. What a relief ! Well done, Ladies.
It is the first time I hear about sleep nanny. What is it exactly ? I am curious to know how sleep is dealt with by professionals as DS1 was and still is a bad sleeper but DD2 is the opposite. And VQ has some tips too as her DDs are good sleepers, if I remember, and baby J seems to follow the same path... Golden milk, hey ?!

On this side of the sea, nothing to report. Life is easier with DH around. He mainly looks after DS1 so I sometimes miss my cuddle time with DS1. Oh well, he is here only for one week, I will be patient and share DS1 with him !
Baby Anastasia is doing well, starting to respond to smiles, which is lovely.
I am also looking a bit better after myself, had a facial, a body scrub and will meet hairdresser very soon. This is the first time in 3 months, I feel like being human again on top of being a pair of boobs !!! Don't get me wrong, I love BF but some days, I seem to be nothing else but boobs :)

VQ, sending lots of virtual gifts to baby J. And hugs to you.

BTW, to all Oct new mums of little boys, I am going to get rid of some baby boy cloth (those that are too boyish and can't be used by a baby girl) let me know if you need anything specific and I ll be more than happy to share. DS1 was born late Oct 4 years ago, it is about time I clear a bit and I need space now that this second baby is a girl and her Dad has started treating her as a princess...

somewhere please let us know you are okay when you feel up to it. Was a slightly alarming description. Take care.

Somewhere, hope that you've recovered from the museum visiting. I'm 41 and my EDD is 31st Jan 2013.

oh no am fine dears! just sleeping in the day knocked me out. touched by your concern .

went to an election party last night. bit boring as no results until long after we all had to go to bed. i myself was outstandingly boring after my knock-out nap.

Anyway am pleased Obama got a second term. Was not keen on that Mitt Romney or those teaparty types. I've looked at the election thread and it seems virtually all MNers support Obama so I hope this is not controversial.

Ok so he's not perfect but he is the better choice.

xxx

ps knackered today.
hpbp that sounds enviable re having various attentions paid to your body. ikwym about BF - i'm not actually looking forward to it so much this time round.

a sleep nanny - well i think they are also called maternity nurses or something and you can hire them to come in and stay with the baby for one night or many nights and kind of assess your baby and what you need to do to get it to sleep through the night.

i met jonathan dimbleby's son once who as you can imagine is v rich and he and his wife had a maternity nurse working the nights for months .

my mate just got one for one night.

xx

GRADUATED
10000Fireflies, DS, 21 June 2012, EMCS
Hpbp, 41, DS1 almost 4yo, DD2 Anastasia, 29 July 2012, VB
bytheseaside, DD1, 25th/26th September, EMCS (six weeks early)
Firstbubba, DS Jamie born 2 Oct, EMCS
Littleredmonkey 43, DS1 Dylan, 4th October EMCS
Fjordmor 41, DD1, 3 Oct, EMCS
Midget 41, DC2 16 Oct VB, but EMCS for placenta
Mrs?Oldandcobwebby?45, DD1, ELCS 19/10
Exexe, DC3, due for ELCS 17/10?
ValiumQueen 43, DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Jacob

PG
Knottyhair 44, DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl (Rosa)
Crazyforbaby 44, DC6 due early Jan
ClickingTock 40, DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise (although sonographer has probably spoiled it...)
Eagleray 41, DC1 due 18/1 Girl
Riversidelibrary 42, DC1 due 29/1, Boy
Swanlike 41, 31/1
TheNoodles 41, DC1 due 14/3
Knickyknocks 40, DC2 due 17/3
MrsWooster 45, DC2 due 31/3/13 (a palindrome!) girl
Cadmum 41, DC5 due 06/04, living in Thailand
somewherebecomingrain 40, DC2 due 11/4
Scarecrow22 42, DC2 due 22/4
BadBuddha 42, DC2 due 5/5
Onemoreforgoodmeasure 40, DC1 due 06/06

DH and I agreed we wouldn't purchase any baby things until the third trimester, so today we had our first baby shopping day. We managed to chose the cotbed, nursery chest of drawers and after much walking between Mamas and Papas, John Lewis and mothercare we finally ordered the baby style Oyster. Very happy.

Hope everyone else had a good day too.

VQ thanks for advice re nappies. I will take the next lot that get offered and start reading up on it.

Sorry you are sad at the lack of acknowledgement of Jacob - sounds like the support is coming from unexpected places! It is probably partly down to being the third. On a vaguely similar note, I always felt that my older sister got everything given to her as she was the first, even continuing to adulthood (she had her college education, first car, gap year, wedding and major baby stuff for her DC1 all generously contributed to) and I have had nothing really (but am clearly stronger for it!)

The present stuff can be a minefield though - mentioned to my mum the other day that I had got a posh first size snowsuit off Ebay for next to nothing and she was really upset as apparently she has already bought a snowsuit for the baby and now I have ruined it. oops...

Sox welcome and congratulations on the bfp! As VQ says, dare to have hope. I recall those early days as long and hard, but at some point they join together to become weeks and then months

Riverside glad you had a lovely wedding and honeymoon. That's v interesting re your GTT test - no idea they did it differently in other areas. Not sure I could be trusted to eat exactly 75g of carbohydrate tho...

Well done on all the major purchases today! I have mentally chosen what I want, in terms of the big things, but haven't yet got round to buying.

Somewhere - am with you on the Obama celebrations - was really nice to wake up to the good news this morning!

HPBP - that's so nice that you have DP around for a little while, and that you are having some time to treat yourself. I had a few nice things such as facials and pedicures booked a few months ago, but had to cancel them all when I realised how many hospital appoints I was having to attend. I will probably try and treat myself late Dec/early Jan as will during that time have a bit of time on my hands!

My mood has been generally bad this week - finding more and more things to do and less and less time to get them done. Work is very quiet but I am constantly having to make up time because of stupid appointments (I am not entitled to time off as such) so end up with very little time to myself.

Some good news though - I bought a sparkly maternity top off Ebay and it fits! (mind you it is masssssive) So at least now I have something nice to wear on nights out...

I think at 22mo DD a bit old for maternity nurse ;) a neighbour has recommended a lovely sounding woman who from what I gather is no nonsense but not Gina. I think she spends time talking to me and DH, including observing us for a night (put down and how we deal with problems, in our case mostly 5am on), then talks us through her observations about why problems might occur or not get resolved. For example she pointed out toy friend (who is lovely enough to agree and not have minded) that she and husband let DC do anything she wanted: because she was basically good an sweet and an only child they had not notice this trend. The sleep nanny suggested she did not know how to handle frustration! Whatever, my friend says it worked. I'm hoping we'll do the minimal package - so she then guides us through another night/morning, and then is avail on the phone for a few eves/days to advise on progress.

Am prob going go for it. So much money for something I think I should be able to do, but DH and I cannot agree Andy mood at home and work seriously suffering. I was up at 5.20 this morni g listening to DD cry for me and didn't get back for work til gone 10pm.
Will advise on success - or not. Please cross fingers for me.

Nearly 17 weeks pregnant.... Shouldn't people be standing up for me on train now? I just got virtually barged out of the way for an empty seat just now!! Bah! Might succumb to one of those "baby on board" badges. What do you think?

Talking of baby on board, DD and I were in our den this morning (where we now spend most of our waking hours at home ;) ) and she said "goo goo": when I asked if there was a baby with us she said yes, when I asked where she pointed to my tummy. Is it really poss she gets this? I've said it a few (3-4?) times but kind of assumed she wouldn't understand. Must get "There's a House in Mummy's Tummy". What were other books you guys recommended way back on thread? Concerned it's a bit early?!

Have good days.

Ohhh. Awake in the night with nausea - settled with toast. I'm only 4/5 weeks - its too early for morning sickness! I hardly had any at all with DS - one week when we were driving through France and I discovered fresh croissants kept it at bay!
OH is laughing and talking of twins, damn him. It hadn't even dawned on me - I am a non identical twin. I hadn't realised until I googled it that it became more likely as you got older!
Have completely gone off coffee, which I know is a good thing really, but what one earth do I drink? I've never been a squash drinker, too much fruit juice I find acidic... Plus people keep making me them as I normally drink as many as are offered.. Far too soon to tell anyone and I wouldn't want the hassle re. work and horses anyway - I have to do what I do pregnant or not...

Nice to come on here at least and have a chat so thanks for that. I do hope people will be happy for us when they find out, will they??

sox morning sickness is good but so wierd. I am still fascinated by how awful i felt. I'm glad toast helped. I went off coffee too this time and I think that is a sign of potentially quite bad MS as i didn't go off it first time round when my sickness was much less.

i still can't drink coffee really although i feel much better generally now.

What do you drink? Tea? i drink a lot of half and half orange and water - i find juice much too sweet but if diluted it is refreshing and crave-satisfying during pregnancy.

do tell us about your cravings, mine during the height of my nausea was nachos with salsa, melted cheese, guacamole and sour cream.

now having a wierd pot noodle penchant.

scarecrow do report back. i am interested in this as i do not for a moment think my parenting is perfect and i do also think we screwed up my son's sleep training totally.

can you ask her if she does it for four year olds? where do you find these people?

i have no money but that is allegedly going to change.

VQ i have a sister who has never come to see either my son or my other sister's son and daughter. ever. in five years. having said that she is a very vulnerable, disturbed person and we are quite releived and not at all offended.

Where I did get upset was that my (non-crazy) sister got the entire EXTENDED family fawning on her when she had her son and then they all ignored my son. I know they're not bad people so i think there is a diminishing returns thing when a child is seen as 'just another' rather than the first.

xxx

Hi Sox, 4.5 weeks is, sadly, not too early for ms! No recomendations re the coffee, I am afraid, tho if ms does take hold then you won't care as you distastefully sip ginger ale to reduce the nausea...
I feel your pain re twins - I really liked the idea first time round but absolutely shat myself when I started with early ms and read the same google pages you have obviously seen and I am not even a twin... If it is then, after the first terrifying years months, they'll be a fab blessing.

Not feeling so bad this morning after a queasy patch last night. Was up early (OH couldn't find a cat) and had toast straight away. I have got a rather crampy, twingey feeling though, which I definitely didn't have last time around. Like sharp stabbing pains above my pubic bone. Hey Ho. What will be will be I guess.
Suppose I will have to ring the Drs soon - I was hanging on thinking things should be more definite and not wanting to go to early and look silly!

Without sounding too awful DS was a horrid baby - through no fault of his own bless him. He was a bad and grumpy feeder, colicky and cried for hours on end. My mum - who had brought up all her siblings, and had twins herself, despaired in him as you could never please him. Just his personality I think as he's still not got the easiest character at times - he's naturally rather pessimistic and sensitive. The one thing he did do was sleep quite well which was a god send as if he was awake he was usually crying!!

Having seen all my siblings have children, and had one (the first) myself I would agree that the attention lessens as the numbers increase. Mine was probably 'ruined' in all honesty - as were other first borns. The younger ones were less spoilt and doted on and are, dare I say it, the nicer for it maybe in the long run.
I don't mean that to sound too harsh - but I can't seem to write it any better so am just going to hit 'post'. Forgive me!

just had a massive pregnancy cry at the john lewis advert

remembering that they are not like tesco, they really do represent some of the finest values in capitalism. although i also take it with a pinch of salt.

anyway forgive me i'm pregnant.

I haven't seen it yet but still fill up at the thought of last year's ad, so it doesn't bode well... You Are Not Alone!

And if anyone could tell me why I am watching One Born Every Minute AGAIN instead of going to bed, I'd be most grateful.

mrs w because you are a masochist. Go to bed woman.

but the laydeee had a likkle baybeeee!!!

Chortle. Ladies u do cheer me up xx