Fantastic 40+ Mum to be - part 2

[Hpbp]

Let's keep on chatting !
Awaiting to hear from you all.
Midget, how are you feeling after the sweep ?
Exexe, are you happy with the new kitchen ? Very glad to see you back on here.
Warm welcome to the only Dad we have on the thread, sorry I could not remember your name as I write this.
Have a lovely Monday. Pouring rain in Paris today.

VQ and LRM - hope you are both being good and resting in bed with babies close by and hopefully being waited on!

Knotty lovely I'm sure the Japanese would say that augurs tremendously well.

Eagle ray lovely! How wonderful to see your child's face xxx

Still on phone no long rant from me. Am doing ok a bit of headache and nausea after I overdid it at the science museum yesterday taking out my ds and godson who were terribly cute together. Godson left with his
Mum and I atu

Stupidly stayed another hour or more in the frenzied heaving might club atmos of museums at half term. Today paying price!

Hope all well vq glad u home want full vq styles update when you have mojo x

Night club not might club

I'm back and feeling almost better. A day of rest has helped, and being discharged by the midwives.

They weighed baby Jacob on day 6,8 and 10. Overkill surely. The midwife today said he has done really well to put on on day 8 and stay the same on day 10. I was gutted initially, but she explained babies have a growth spurt day 8 to 10 so a stable weight is equivalent to a gain at other times. She felt it was a bad move to weigh on day 10 as it often leaves mummy feeling disheartened.

I have not seen the same MW twice. Probably a good thing.

My BP was slightly raised today so I need follow-up at GP.

DH is shattered and snoring beside me. Just as well I love him.

DS is a joy. An absolute joy. It is amazing that even with number 3 the love is still there abounding. The girls adore him too which is a relief, and they are also closer to each other now it seems. The youngest, my baby girl, seems to have aged and grown overnight. She was so small and young, and now she is this hulking lump with amazing vocabulary and kindness. Mostly.

hey VQ love that 'mostly' and 'just as well i love him' there's a longer story there if you had the time to tell it!

glad Jacob is putting weight on.

hope you are coping with the tiredness. yesterday i was showed to my DP a comment on an article on the guardian about a woman who was diagnosed with PND when she was in fact just tired (i was never diagnosed but i know i was depressed and very f-g tired, so tired i basically looked mad for 9 months)

Get this, my DP said 'but tiredness wasn't really a problem for you was it?'

uuuuuh????

feeling the baby move quite robustly and feeling much more love than i ever did with the first. I felt a sort of remote affection and confidence in the first and was sure i'd love it but didn't at that point.

lovely to hear about your bottomless capacity for love VQ

scarecrow how are you how is your sickness?

xxx

I love this thread. It is like a warm hug each time I read it.

I have greatly enjoyed my due nov thread, but it will likely dissipate now babies are here. I found that with april 2010. This, however will live on I think.

There is something special about talking to older mums I think. Not just the fact that we listened to the same music in our youff, but a certain maturity, willingness to see others point of view etc.

Had a fairly good night last night. Jacob is a star, and is very good with his feeding. The washable nappies and wipes are doing wonders for his sore bum, and he is sleeping. With my boob in his mouth, granted. I do not like co-sleeping and need to get him in his moses basket. He did one sleep in there overnight which is a first. I just do not sleep well for fear of squashing him.

Lovely post VQ . Somewhere, you must have soldiered on and not let your tiredness show !
Went to a mate's house for fireworks & chilli last night stuffed myself with 2 platefuls and I was told about a friend of a friend who was due the same week as me, but had her little girl a couple of days ago, weighed 4lb 11oz. really must pack my hospital bag. Piddling down here. Need to do a bit of clearing up this morning then BIL, SIL and niece & nephew are coming over for cake this afternoon. Hope you all have a lovely Sunday x

VW and LRM, and anyone I forgot after monster catch up just now - do hope you are taking it easy, and getting help. You will help everyone longtime if you are a little bit more assertive (or pathetic - whichever gets more help) now. We ladies need to learn to ask for help! I too pretty rubbish but was v I'll a few years ago (before pref with DD) and kind of realised I should have said help a lot sooner, so am consequently a lot more complainey honest now...

which leads me to my near birth twin ;) Somewhere and your DP!!! What??? My DP wondered aloud about fact he "might" have to cancel a work trip ending on my due date...but even he now sounds a new man ;) Promise if you over do it next time you'll tell him - or at least us? I've been there and it is ghastly (though does end when you get it right).

We've had a pretty good week ( helped by only working 2 days) and much MS and most headaches gone. DD been waking horribly early since clocks went back though (4.53 last Sunday - torture), but finally made it to 6am today. I developed a real hatred of clock changes last week and, having been a bit PO- faced about that "Go The To Sleep" book, did lie in ghastly denial one morning, to my shame actually thinking "just shut the up" last week. She is like my heartbeat, and golden and sweet, so I feel a monster admitting this, but I guess sleep deprivation is actually a form of torture for a reason. Sigh!

Okay, precious nap time after a lovely family morning swimming. Take care all, and happy Guy Fawkes, or whatever.

VW supposed to be VQ. Obvs.

I have been called worse

Oooh, do tell

Also, loved your description of the boundless love for DCs. You have a wonderful way with words, witty and moving by turns. Rest lots.

I was reading a thread about the humiliations of childbirth the other night and noticed that a certain Midget and VQ had posted their own contributions! Laughed so much reading the comments that I wasn't sure if I was going to pee myself or split open...

The weekend seems to have been a mixture of frantic nesting and tomcat wanderings. Every object in house is being scrutinised and either chucked in a binbag or photographed and put in the Classifieds if it can't justify its usefulness in 10 seconds flat. Dragged DP out on Sat eve, first to cinema, then dinner and then stomped about town trying to find a pub/bar that was interesting enough until I realised I was in agony from walking so demanded to be driven home (with a stopoff at the shops for a twix on the way).

DP has spent most of the weekend hiding from me as he wants to lie down and rest all the time (hmmm thought that was my job) and has this evening managed to step on the hem of the curtains with muddy shoes and also cook some fish and stink the house out. He's gone for the week now, so am enjoying the peace and quiet.

VQ - glad all is well with you and Jacob. Have been pondering over washable nappies as had several offers from friends of outgrown ones, although wonder if I should wait until I know how much washing I can take on!

Hope you all had a great weekend - night night

GRADUATED
10000Fireflies, DS, 21 June 2012, EMCS
Hpbp, 41, DS1 almost 4yo, DD2 Anastasia, 29 July 2012, VB
bytheseaside, DD1, 25th/26th September, EMCS (six weeks early)
Firstbubba, DS Jamie born 2 Oct, EMCS
Littleredmonkey 43, DS1 Dylan, 4th October EMCS
Fjordmor 41, DD1, 3 Oct, EMCS
Midget 41, DC2 16 Oct VB, but EMCS for placenta
Mrs?Oldandcobwebby?45, DD1, ELCS 19/10
Exexe, DC3, due for ELCS 17/10?
ValiumQueen 43, DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Jacob

PG
Knottyhair 44, DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl (Rosa)
Crazyforbaby 44, DC6 due early Jan
ClickingTock 40, DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise (although sonographer has probably spoiled it...)
Eagleray 41, DC1 due 18/1 Girl
Riversidelibrary 42, DC1 due 29/1, Boy
TheNoodles 41, DC1 due 14/3
Knickyknocks 40, DC2 due 17/3
MrsWooster 45, DC2 due 31/3/13 (a palindrome!) girl
Cadmum 41, DC5 due 06/04, living in Thailand
somewherebecomingrain 40, DC2 due 11/4
Scarecrow22 42, DC2 due 22/4
BadBuddha 42, DC2 due 5/5
Onemoreforgoodmeasure 40, DC1 due 06/06

anyone I've missed? swanlike what's your due date (and age as we like to know here)

scarecrow thanks for your comiserations re the DP. Unfortunately I stupidly picked an entrepreneurial personality type to shack up with. He is incredibly sweet and loyal and loving and quick witted. But he has led us a merry dance, albeit quite glamorous and creative, over the past few years. We are in total penury although investment in his new start up is allegedly just round the corner. i hardly dare give all the details.

is your DD around 2 years old? that's when they do that waking early thing - it's terrible, my commiserations! only plus point is getting to the park as the sun comes up. hope you feel more rested soon. also pleased your MS and headaches getting better

I am starting to cry a lot. We saw a Royal British Legion OAP with poppies outside M&S. I got my DS to give him a pound for a poppy and explained this was 'for people who were very brave and risked their lives to keep us all safe a very long time ago' and i could hardly get the words out I got so choked and emotional.

Starting to nest - look at piles of clothes and think 'hmm wouldn't it be really almost FUN to go through those one by one and put away all the ones i can't wear whilst pregnant'. thank god. the nesting thing is the only thing that really has a chance of counteracting baby brain.

hope all you ladies are well.

eagleray you are most interesting with your wanderings and tomcattery. can't relate there (though sounds fab) but do relate on the nesting. Funny about the behaviour of your DP. Just what you need!

xx

scarecrow thank you. I used to work in the Prison Service, and when I left to work for the NHS, I was asked how my first day went. I said it was wonderful as nobody had called me a c**t all day

eagle accept all offers of nappies! In my experience I have less washing with washable nappies as you do not get the same leaks (and give them to me if you do not get on with them . Washable wipes will also save you a fortune. I have made my own and they are so much nicer on little bottoms.

VQ, I know what you mean! I worked in Probation, firstly in a hostel and then in a prison and yes, it is nice not to be verbally abused on a daily basis, or spat at as I was a few times in the hostel!
Just had my Mothercare delivery - am stupidly excited at the thought of unpacking it! I think we've got everything ordered/delivered now except for a new mattress & fitted sheets for the Moses basket . New furniture being delivered on Weds, so I can then get some washing done for the baby and start actually putting stuff away, rather than just stuffing in whichever cupboard it will fit. Eagle, sounds like you're being very disciplined with the clearing out. Somewhere, I know what you mean about the tears! I tried to read Michael Morpurgo's "Best Christmas Present in the World" to DS (bit early I know!) and couldn't really get the words out, I was too choked!

knotty I love getting baby deliveries. I am waiting on some teeny tiny washable nappies for J for overnight, plus a couple of accessories.

I know this probably sounds really bad of me, but I am a bit sad at the lack of cards and gifts for DS. I guess it is because he is my third. With my first, and even my second we had loads of gifts. My mums friend who I barely know, gave us £20 and a lovely changing bag which was so unexpected. My parents bought the double buggy, so extremely lucky there, and my aunt sent voucher for M&S so I bought some long sleeve vests for with the gro bags. Nothing from my brothers or inlaws. They have not been to visit either, which I guess has its positive side. It is not the gifts as such, but the acknowledgement that he is here. One of my brothers and his family have yet to meet DD2.

Hello all - almost too frightened to post on here.
I joined mumsnet some time ago, and was on the TTC thread for a while but found it too stressful and thought I'd just give up thinking or reading about such things and get on with life. I have plenty going on and saw it as a bit of a whim, maybe.
Now my period is late, having been regularly 'early' for the last few cycles, and I find a faint positive staring at me in disbelief! Not FMU, but first chance I had in peace to check.
Am 40 with a DS of 13. Eeek. I have a very physical job, my own business, no staff, an OH who works away and several horses which are young and I ride every day.
Tricky.
But Hi!!

Hi likesox! Congratulations, and how exciting! Are you going to do another test??

likesox fabulous! keep us posted! xxx

Thanks knotty and somewhere. Yes definitely need to do another test!
But I've googled myself silly for the moment and read far too much scary stuff, so I'm off to muck out the horses and think of other things and try not to panic.
OH not here at the moment so will scare him later!
Is such early days I feel like I should try not to think about it too much.

Welcome likesox fingers crossed to a sticky one. I am guessing it would make your life complicated, but there is no nicer complication

Welcome likesox (keep wondering where the virtual gap is ;) ) - you could not be in a friendlier - if slightly bonkers - place here. And so young . Do let us know how you get on with second test. I told my husband by saying "the good news is we can have safe s*x for eight months", to which he grumbled "it's a bit bloody late for that"!!

somewhere DD's just passed 22 mo.. Am seriously thinking of blowing some savings on a sleep nanny, but will probably never quite do it. In another piece of synchronicity I am also married to somebody warm and strong (mentally and emotionally) and interesting, but utterly useless with money (optimism and love of nice things) so squirrel money away in different accounts etc to subsidise our life. Overall I feel grateful for his lovely qualities, but do often occasionally despair. Oh, and I put away many of my maternity clothes at the weekend, though after big sort out of DD's clothes (have sacks of cast-offs, bonus of being last person I know to have kids) as well was heartily sick of nesting by last night.

VQ how did you make reusables. I got some off eBay last time but had terrible leakage. Even of wee. Would love to try again. Tips welcome.

Congratulations likesox let us know how test number 2 goes. Got everything crossed for you.

I am still amazed that I have DC2. If it can work for me it can work for any bloody body.

Hello I'm back from honeymooning in the Cotswolds! Wedding day was brilliant, can't remember being so happy for so long. I'd love to do it all again if it didn't cost such a bloody fortune!

Belated to VQ on the arrival of Jacob, I'm glad things seem to be calming down for you now.

eagleray your description of your LO's position in the scan did make me smile, I'd love to know how mine's sitting.

Belated welcomes to velo and likesox, do keep us updated on how you're doing, the more the merrier.

Baby wise I have my gestational diabetes test today but it's completely different to any I've heard mentioned on this thread on anywhere else on MN. No gloop or hanging around for hours at the hospital for me. Instead I had to have a breakfast containing exactly 75g of carbohydrate and then two hours later go to my local GP surgery for the nurse to take blood. Seems a much more civilised method.

(I was given a sheet with all the common breakfast foods and the amount of them that equals 15g, so all you need to do is eat five items from the list to get your exactly 75g carbohydrate breakfast)