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Did DH/DP cry at the birth

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KeepTryin · 09/09/2012 23:10

Did your hubby/partner cry at the birth and if so did he cry again for DC2? This will be my first birth but DH's second... Wondering if it's as exciting/magical for fellas the second time round?

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scarlettsmummy2 · 09/09/2012 23:11

My husband didn't cry at either, but neither did I! We were both obviously delighted.

sagelynodding · 09/09/2012 23:13

Yes! Both times were equally wonderful for DP. He cried, I didn't-I had done so much crying during pregnancy and birth that I had no more tears :) but you probably didn't want to hear that (sorry)

I didn't find the second time and less amazing than the first either.

Good luck OP :)

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EMS23 · 09/09/2012 23:15

I also have a DH who has a child from a previous relationship.
When I was pregnant with DD1 I worried about it not being special for him etc..

Actually, it was great as he was able to be that bit calmer, that bit more level headed when I needed it, not just during labour but also in the early newborn weeks when it was all so scary and new to me.

And yes, he cried at the births of both his kids and I expect he will cry when I drop DC3 any day now!

GlesgaRocket · 09/09/2012 23:16

Only one child, but my (now-ex) dp cried because i had a looonnng, painful labour and he said he couldn't bear seeing me in pain. He didn't cry when DD was actually born, and neither did i.
Obviously we were delighted and overwhelmed, but we were also both very relieved (me especially) and very, very, very tired!

ja9 · 09/09/2012 23:23

NO!!!! Much to my annoyance!!!!

weblette · 09/09/2012 23:37

All four of them!

readyforno2 · 09/09/2012 23:50

Real tears. Both times

Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 09/09/2012 23:54

My first, dh's 4!!!!!

Big military man....bawled more than DS!

midori1999 · 10/09/2012 06:55

No, I had a complicated pregnancy and he says he was too worried something would be wrong with DD/would go wrong. I also didn't cry and thought I would, but I think for the same reasons!

However, DH (also a military man, never even shows much emotion, let alone cry!) has spent much time crying about DD since. A lot of the time just when he's held her or she's looked at him and particularly when he had to leave her to go to Afghanistan. She is absolutely everything to him, it's not possible that he could love her more.

flipandfill · 10/09/2012 07:17

Yeah- more ouf of fear, we had an emergency section under difficult circumstances and he cried when he came into theatre as he was so scared..Must be really scary seeing that though. Midwife was lovely. Don't think he cried when baby was out- we were both a bit shaken

cupcake78 · 10/09/2012 07:20

Yes I should hope so as well after all that blinking pushing and pain it's the least he could do

Iggly · 10/09/2012 07:21

Nope no tears probably a massive sigh of relief! Actually after DC1 I was losing blood and quickly so the MW went into emergency mode and instructed DH to call 999 (home) - so no time!

After our second, he was very happy.

I didn't cry either TBH!

ZuleikaD · 10/09/2012 07:38

Nope, no tears from either of us. I found the whole thing so knackering all I wanted was a cup of tea and some toast, there was no energy left for emotions.

carrielou2007 · 10/09/2012 07:43

Yep ex p did both times, had never seen or known him to cry before and he has four children from his first wife so I was pleased and suprised. I remember trying to get dd dressed and I was all fingers and thumbs and he just sort of popped her in her vest and babygro whilst I ate some toast he had had a lot of practise

MrsPaynie · 10/09/2012 08:24

Nope neither me or DH cried at either the birth of DS or DD. the look of love he gave them while giving DS his first bottle or getting DD dressed while I sat and watched was enough for me to know how special he found the moment.

ItsMyLastOne · 10/09/2012 09:39

My DP cried when DD1 was born. I remember pushing her head out then seeing DP crying and shouting "what's wrong?" before realising it was just emotion coming out. Another push and I was blubbing too.

I'm 100% sure he'll cry this time too as, although he doesn't cry often, he is very emotional about things like this and can't help himself!

It was a beautiful, beautiful moment in our lives together and I'm sure it'll be the same again second time round.

Wantsnomore · 10/09/2012 09:51

Yep! All 3 times :)

Poledra · 10/09/2012 09:53

No, no tears. Though, after DD1's birth, my mum came to pick DH up from the hospital, and she told me later she could see his grin from the other end of the hospital corridor

picnicbasketcase · 10/09/2012 09:55

If he did, he did it without me knowing. I cried the whole time throughout both labours so I think he was too busy trying to get me to calm down.

claudedebussy · 10/09/2012 10:00

no, neither of us cried.

each baby is different and wonderful in different ways. can't compare any births really.

rogersmellyonthetelly · 10/09/2012 18:19

Blubbed at both until they peed on him which brought him back down to earth. He says he's wearing an apron this time as it seems to be a
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KeepTryin · 10/09/2012 20:06

Wow! Thanks for all your replies!
Interesting to hear about being so tired/overwhelmed.. I never thought about that side of things! I bawl at every birth one one born every minute even though half the time the mothers don't! Was just assuming I'd be hysterical at mine if I bawl over a strangers! Lol!
Lovely to hear the positive stories from partners who have children from previous relationships, will be nice to have DH calm and confident with a newborn whilst I'm figuring it all out..

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Pleasenomorepeppa · 10/09/2012 23:15

Nope!! Although he did cry when she peed on his PS3!!

ItsMyLastOne · 11/09/2012 10:36

I don't know that tiredness necessarily means anything. I was in labour for 68 hours, didn't sleep for those 3 nights, spent almost 5 hours pushing, but I still had plenty of tears when DD was born!
(I also cry she'd a tear at every birth I see on tv)

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