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What did your parents say?!

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WaitingFor12 · 20/07/2012 14:31

So what did your parents say when you told them you were expecting?!

DH and I have been married 1 yr, he is 34 and I am 28. Been together 6 years. Both luckily in stable jobs, and just moved into a bigger house in order for us to have a family.

So I?m 7 weeks now and we thought we?d tell both sets of parents last night. My mum calls for her weekly chat and talks on and on without letting me get a word in edgeways (as usual), goes a bit like this:

Me: well actually before you carry on I have some news
DM: oh what is it
Me: I?m pregnant
DM: HUH...WHAT did you SAAAY?
Me: I am pregnant
DM: OMG ? you?re pregnant? OMG, oh no... ? was it planned???!!!
Me: Hmm yes Mum of course
DM: well you don?t waste any time do you? what are you going to do about your job?
Me: err.. take maternity leave?!

Am I too early at 28, married, job and house...?!! MOTHERS!! just wait until she tried to enforce me to pick the names she likes!!

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hermionestranger · 20/07/2012 14:32

With ds1 mil: I don't want anything to do with that woman or her baby. We had been married 6 years nearly!

My mum with ds2 well that's going to be a nightmare an chaos isn't it. Married 10 years!

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WaitingFor12 · 20/07/2012 14:47

haha oh god, you can only laugh can't you?!

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Sproglet · 20/07/2012 15:18

Well me and my now Husband weren't married and I was 22yrs old with my first in a rented two bed flat if thta helps you to feel betterGrin

Cheekychops84 · 20/07/2012 15:18

Could she be I shock maybe? 28 is not too early I am
28 and on my third and really wish I had actually waited till now to start as I've been so more relaxed about it at this age. I'm sure she will start buying like made and ringing every two minutes Grin

marge2 · 20/07/2012 15:25

I was 35 and married for 3 years already. My Dad died long ago, so was not about, but my Mum was thrilled - hugs kisses many congrats etc....PIL were a bit Shock because DH hadn't told them he had had a vasectomy reversal. We had to explain very quickly that that was the case.

After that they were very pleased for us.

StaceymReadyForNumber3 · 20/07/2012 15:34

With DD my mum said 'no you're NOT' but I was 17 at the time and had only been with my XH (not married at the time obv) for 6 weeks

With DS all were really happy but we did have a lot of 'bad timing' comments as I would be 6mo pregnant at our wedding.

With this baby (with my new DH) we have been together 3 yrs and got married in feb, fell pregnant end of march both parents said we'd not wasted time after the wedding and was it an accident? DH explained very carefully it was a much wanted an planned baby and we had been trying for 14months and had 2miscarriages!

Shock makes people say stupid stuff!

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

B00Magoo · 20/07/2012 15:37

I wasn't married at the time. My mother said,"well that's the way to keep a man". I never knew my father,and have been with DH for 30 years now Angry

sammyleh · 20/07/2012 15:45

I'm also 28 years old, happily engaged, own my own home and have a fantastic job and was dreading telling my dad. As soon as we did, he just stared at us in shock. Not quite the reaction I had hoped for. Soon after though, he was very happy and started asking 'women like young and good looking grandads don't they?' he's a 48 year old widow. He said the only thing he was upset about was that my mum wouldn't be around to enjoy it with him... she died a few years ago and wanted nothing more than to be a grandma Smile

VegemiteSandwich · 20/07/2012 15:48

"wow, now I know how OUR parents felt when we phoned them up when we were expecting you". PILs also pleased for us.

It was a big relief as they (especially my parents) were nightmares during our engagement a few years ago. This has been much easier. Even their hints of "suitable names" are mostly names that we like, some even on our shortlist Shock

PollyIndia · 20/07/2012 15:49

Well I am single and was travelling in India when I found out, had been there for nearly 2 months. I called mum from India and she was in the iPhone shop learning about iPhone 4S. She was all jokey when she picked up, telling the shop assistant it was her daughter all the way from India, then boom, I told her I was pregnant. Not so jokey anymore!
It's fair to say it was a bit of a shock, but she sent me the loveliest email after saying she thought deep down she thought this was something I had always wanted, even if I didn't know it and how her and dad would be there for me 100%. And they have been!

PipIsOutNow · 20/07/2012 15:49

Ha I'm 27 been with OH for 6 years already have a 2 year old DS and my mums reaction was 'oh no'. She then continued to tell me that id ruined my wedding (booked for may so this dd wi be 3 months at time of wedding). Hers was the only negative reaction we received!!!

PipIsOutNow · 20/07/2012 15:50

Dc not dd don't actually know what it is yet!!!

JammySplodger · 20/07/2012 15:53

We just got from MIL "Oh that's nice. Cup of tea?" Think she was fed up of waiting.

Mama1980 · 20/07/2012 15:58

I called my mum 26 single total accident guy had just left the country-yep seriously!
Me wailing 'what am I going to do?!'
Mum 'have a baby'
Me still wailing 'but what am I going to do?!'
Mum 'have a baby' this went on for sometime -now we laugh about it. A few days later I flew home, mum helped me get on my feet....the rest is history -my mum is the greatest Grin

londonlivvy · 20/07/2012 16:23

I'm 37, been with DF for two years, we're engaged, getting married next year. We decided to crack on with trying for a family as am not that young.

I phoned my mum. chat about the weather etc. Then
"I wanted to let you know that I'm pregnant"
LONG pause. At least a minute.
then
"I'll get your father"
WTF? I felt like I was fifteen and accidentally pregnant.
My father then said "WELL DONE" and "you must be delighted your ovaries are still working" or some such remark.

Both responses better than one of my clients who said "But you're not married". I said "No. But fortunately we're not in 1954 so it doesn't matter".

Pickles77 · 20/07/2012 16:29

My dad 'wow congratulations to you & Xxxxx'
Me: actually dad he's throwing me out
Dad: well congratulations to you, dog me and your mum. Come home now! Grin

His folks- well you need mental help if your even considering keeping 'it' (at 21 weeks)
They still call dd the situation.

NICE Grin

StaceymReadyForNumber3 · 20/07/2012 16:32

Aw pickles your dad sounds ace!

Pickles77 · 20/07/2012 16:37

My dad is amazing Grin im very lucky

PollyIndia · 20/07/2012 16:40

God Pickles, his folks sound charming.
I don't even think my ex has told his mum!

Pickles77 · 20/07/2012 16:42

Oh polly they are delightful, really and truely. They must be so delighted about the pompous arrogant arse they raised as he is a clone! Grin
Blimey im in a good mood today- im laughing about it!Grin

ithastobeNAICEham · 20/07/2012 16:45

With my first DD, "mum, I'm pregnant" my mum saat there going "oh god, oh god, oh god, no no no no no no" she then went into her bedroom and started researching abortions!!

My ex's mum's reaction wasn't much better!!

With my current pregnancy, (8yrs later) my mum's reaction was consiberably better! She had just found out my DSIL was pregnant with twins and my mum said she was going to move abroad... Unfortunatly she is yet to carry that out Grin

diddl · 20/07/2012 16:48

Everyone was delighted.

FIL clapped his hands & just about danced around the room!

Orenishii · 20/07/2012 16:51

My mum was delighted but said I was clever. As in,

Mum I'm pregnant
Oh congratulations - clever you!!

I was a bit Hmm at the clever bit - I didn't realise it needed any kind of talent, exactly... Grin

Pickles77 · 20/07/2012 16:53

naice how did you deal with that?

Imnotaslimjim · 20/07/2012 16:56

My Mum "isn't it a bit early to be telling people" 12 weeks with pg number 6 (first 5 unfortunately hadn't stuck around) We'd had scans and everything!

His mum was much better, gave me a hug and congratulated us!