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Wrong sex!!

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silvachick · 06/07/2012 13:01

A colleague of mines niece had her baby yesterday a much anticipated girl. Only it wasn't a girl it was a boy! The Sonographer had been wrong. Cue emergency clothes buying and re-painting of the nursery. I had never heard of this happening before. Think I will just keep it so I can find out for myself when they ask at my 20 week scan!

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BlondeWithFreckles · 07/07/2012 06:56

The best time to tell is between 12-14 weeks. On the fertility board that I go on (won't mention the name here) there is a sonographer who does guesses. Sometimes she will say that she can't tell, but most of the time she will give you a 'guess' as to gender, and she has never been wrong.

Ilovedaintynuts · 07/07/2012 07:10

blondewithfreckles the best time for predicting gender is not 12-14 weeks. As ANY sonographer will tell you. However there are some people who can guess gender at this time by looking at the 'nub' or the 'angle of the dangle'. Even those who who are good at guessing still only get it right about 80% of the time. The genitals are only fully formed from 16 weeks, before then is inaccurate.

The problem comes when the gender is given by the absence of boy bits. With both my girls I needed to see the vulva myself, and I did. So I knew they would be girls when they arrived.

Whether it is the vulva or penis and scrotum, both are very recognisable and can't be mistaken for eachother!

BartletForAmerica · 07/07/2012 10:16

I am assured by a friend who is a Consultant Obstetrician, so does lots of scanning, that it is often possible to tell the sex at the dating scan at 12 weeks.

In my last pregnancy, the fetal medicine consultant told us the sex at 14 weeks and showed us what he thought were girl bits. We did indeed have a girl.

BeattieBow · 07/07/2012 10:26

my dh told me i had a boy when the baby was born! He was wrong as she was very definitely a girl, but it was rather a confusing few moments.

TodaysAGoodDay · 07/07/2012 10:32

This happens quite often. I have a friend who's had 3 kids. DS was supposed to be a girl. DD1 they got right. DD2 was supposed to be a boy.
It's not a exact science, and nobody should base their clothes/nursery on what a sonographer has said. You can only be sure if you've had a more invasive test like CVS or amnio.

Catsu · 07/07/2012 10:35

I was told boy at a scan and then had another scan later where they said girl!
She was a girl but I didn't believe it until she was born!

D0oinMeCleanin · 07/07/2012 10:43

I was told by my cousin who is a midwife, if you're told you are having a boy you are having a boy. If you are told you are having a girl it might be a boy with it's bits tucked up between it's legs.

Catsu · 07/07/2012 10:55

Lol that wouldn't have worked for me then, I was told boy and it was a girl!
I was told boy at 15 week scan though, and apparently the hormones can make the bits look swollen either way until 16 weeks and so is harder to tell accurately (that's what I was told later anyway!)

COCKadoodledooo · 07/07/2012 11:19

I have 2 friends that were told they were having girls that went on to have boys. One took it in her stride, swapped pink clothes for blue and asked her dp to give the nursery a new coat of paint before her and baby came home. One really really struggled, severe PND and months to bond with the child.

At the 20 week scan with ds2 the sonographer told us she was not allowed to give guarantees, but "that's not likely to drop off between now and October". It didn't

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SwissArmyWife · 07/07/2012 11:47

I'm 22 weeks and have been certain it's a boy right from the start - at the 20 week scan the sonographer said "It's likely to be a girl", which shocked me. After a bit more looking she said "Oh hang on a minute, it's a boy" and zoomed in on his bits so we could see. I thought, I bloody knew it!

Still have the gut feeling it's a boy, so will be extremely shocked if I have a girl! She'll have to put up with being a little rock star for a while

mrswoz · 07/07/2012 12:29

Ooh you are all making me nervous with your tales of them getting it wrong lol.

I have DS and DD, was told this one most likely girl, the sonographer obviously said don't rely on it for sure etc. She spent a couple of mins looking between the legs for us, they weren't fully open but weren't tightly shut either, we could see one clear line - my first thought was, that's the line down the middle of the scrotum, (wishful thinking as I would have prefered another boy) but sonographer seemed to think it was far more likely to be a girl's 'line' down the middle, tho I couldn't see the 2 lines either side that you'd normally expect, neither could she as she did comment on not being able to see three lines.

I have sold all the boy stuff oh and most of the unisex stuff too. It is going to be THE most memorable day of our lives if a boy comes out in September!! I honestly don't care either way now, this is my final baby and it's a pregnancy after a mmc last year, been my healthiest, fittest, most comfortable pregnancy so far, so I'm just overjoyed at the thought of actually having a real little baby in 11 weeks!

Cheriefroufrou · 07/07/2012 12:32

don't boy bits look more like girl bits on the scan, and girl bits look more like boy bits (they're swollen so labia look like testicles and clitorus looks like a penis)? so easy to get wrong

I was so paranoid about this, not because of the nursery or clothes (I'ld use them anyway), just because I'ld got used to this little identity

I'm gonna have a babybond scan this time to double check that the 20 wk sex scan was right!

Cheriefroufrou · 07/07/2012 12:34

I would have stuggled I think if they had been wrong about DS, the sex scan helped me to bond with the baby, "it" wasn't a hypothetical "it" any more, it was a little boy and I began to imagine him, and we named him, and I felt more connected with him.. I think I'ld have felt that that bonding was "un done" if it had been wrong

FoxyRoxy · 07/07/2012 13:18

We found out at 18 weeks we're having a boy, the picture is very clear and every scan since has been the same. If its a girl then bits will have to have fallen off! It's quite common though apparently.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers · 07/07/2012 13:32

Oh noooo so much money wasted on buying blue paint! Because boys can't have a pink room

Cheriefroufrou · 07/07/2012 13:41

as soon as I was big enough to choose the colour of my room (when we moved when I was about 2ish) I asked for a blue one, and picked a blue bike

DS will only use pink toothbrushes

if you do "waste money" changing a room to pink for a girl or blue for a boy, its certainly a waste cause once they can talk theres a good chance that they'll ask for it to be changed back!

RuthlessBaggage · 07/07/2012 13:59

When we were asked if we wanted to know the sex with dc2 we said only if it was really obvious.

Her reply? "Oh yes, it's obvious. And he's really quite well endowed." It was hilarious. She was right on all counts.

Another time I think I would say the same - I only want to be told if you're absolutely certain. Because it does massively affect my bonding and I think I'd feel cheated? or tricked? or something if I had what felt like the wrong baby at the end of it.

Groovee · 07/07/2012 14:07

My friend was adamant that she and her dh saw a willy when they had a scan at about 18 weeks. They were both very surprised when out popped a girl. The Sonographer said it was the umbilical cord but they were sure they'd seen a willy. Lets hope neither decides to retrain.

But it did happen to another friend that she told us she was having a girl but on delivery it was another boy. She was stunned.

LadyofWinterfell · 07/07/2012 14:12

Ds (DC3) was supposed to be a girl. I asked at my 19w scan. I had to have several growth scans after that but never asked again, not sure why! After 2 DDs i wasn't bothered really, and bought unisex clothes as my gut told me they were wrong.

I was still very surprised after the birth and had to keep checking he was definitely a boy!

terilou87 · 07/07/2012 17:27

this happened to my cousin, was told baby was a girl but turned out was a boy. but at scan they always say there not 100 percent. iv had 3 children and all have been correct. if your worrying you could have a 3d scan this would show for certain

Cheriefroufrou · 07/07/2012 17:30

my scan appointment letter says its not 100%, they say it again on the day

I had a later scan with DS but because it was due to worries I didn't think to "re-check" and kicked myself after

I'm gonna have a 3d to double check with this one even though I think they're gross

whatlauradid · 07/07/2012 17:42

It happened with a friend of mine. Her son was stuck wwearing pink babygros and sleeping in a butterfly moses basket until she could buy more.

juneau · 07/07/2012 17:43

This happened to a colleague of mine. He was expecting a 2nd DD and she turned out to be a boy - he was ecstatic!

raininginbaltimore · 07/07/2012 18:09

We have been told a girl this time (we found out with ds and they were right). We were shown the 3 lines, but I am still worried they got it wrong. We haven't got rid of any boys clothes and all the girls clothes we have, have been given to us so no great loss.

I hope it is a girl, just because I always thought it would be another boy and have got used to the idea of a girl now and have bonded with her.

My sister is a midwife and delivered a boy that was supposed to be a girl this week. Apparently the mother cried.

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