1 in 4 chance of down syndrome in a mess can anyone help?

[Coxy7]

Hi

I'm 38 and have been trying for a baby for 5 years we have just undergone Ivf treatment and I'm now 12 weeks gone. Yesterday we went for a private 12 week scan but the results came back 1in 4 chance of downs.
The nuchal translucency behind neck came back as 3.8, bladder size 12.8 megacystis plus baby has a leak in the heart.

Were going back today for a cvs and should get the results on Friday but things arent looking good..
Been crying all night and am in a complete mess

Can anyone shed any light

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I cant offer you any advice I'm afraid, but sending you my best wishes and a huge hug. My DP's boss was told when his wife was pregnant that she had over 50% chance of having a DS baby, when he was born, he was absolutely fine. Hope everything goes well for you on Friday xx

Try posting on the Antenatal Tests/Choices board. Lots of people on there have been through the same experience.

Remember there is still a 3 in 4 chance that it is not Down Syndrome.

Thanks grace

Just went to the website but you cant post if you're waiting for results but they have a help line which you can call for advice..

Once I sop crying I'll call them.

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Couldn't read this and not let u know my experience. Almost 12 months ago I went for 12 wk scan and got a nuchal result of 3.6mm, this put us into a complete head spin and we went straight for the cvs, this came back all clear and I now have a gorgeous 4 month old DD. Just keep in mind that the measurement is only .2mm above guidelines and the leaky heart valve, which they also found on our scan, will in all probability have grown out by 16 wks as this shouldn't really be looked at until then. I'll be thinking of you and good luck.

Thank you vicKster7

Any good news is hope for us....
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Hi Coxy, this is the Antenatal Tests board that grace meant I think, it's another section of mumsnet specifically for this. You might find some helpful posts on there.

It sounds like you have found ARC, I know many people have found them helpful.

As Grace says remember it is still a 75% chance that everything is ok. Fingers crossed tightly for you.

Thanks minepie found it

Just got home after having the cvs now have the dreaded wait but al least it's only till Friday

Just wanted to send best wishes and a hand to hold. I had an amnio a few months ago after an increased DS risk reported at the 12 week scan and blood tests. All was fine but I clearly remember what a horribly stressful time it was. I really hope your results are back quickly (thought I would lose my mind waiting for the phone to ring) and that the news is what you want to hear. In the meantime, take good care of yourself, get as much rest as you can and do whatever you can to distract yourself (rubbish tv and chocolate played a big part in my life for those days). I sincerely hope all is well for you xx

Yes do rest and take care of yourself, don't do anything too strenuous and try to distract yourself as fluzle says! I had a CVS a month ago after a high risk result, results came in all clear after 2 working days. Really hope you get the same.

zoey that is not very nice or helpful. I can't imagine anyone not being 'in a mess' if they had the news that there was a high risk of the baby having a life-limiting, untreatable condition.

Well that's helpful zoeymlucas

That's an exceptionally unhelpful and unsympathetic post zoey. Have you been in this position yourself?

Most people are upset if they believe their child may have an abnormality and the OP is perfectly normal in being upset.

And very easy for Zoey to say, not being in this extremely difficult position herself.

Things happen for a reason? What "reason" would that be then?

Zoey you could have told op about your friends situation in a much more sensitive and positive way. Why did you choose to male your point in such a rude judgemental way? What did you hope to gain other than upsetting someone? Were your friends not at all worried or anxious when they found out their children may have downs? Downs often comes with other health risks such as heart problems, anyone told their unborn child could have a heart problem would be rightly worried.

Zoey really really unsympathetic and unkind. Do you not think she is anxious enough without you trying to make her feel guilty about being upset to find her child may have Down's Syndrome.
OP with my 4th child we had to have an amnio as calcium spot on heart and some other indicators pointed to Down's but all came back clear and he is perfect. Good luck and whatever the result you sound this much for wanted baby will have a lovely Mum.

Ummm Winky how do you know I havent or am not in this situation.

The reaon would be that thats the way that child was meant to be its nothing anyone has done or not done or can change they were just meant ot be extra special.

And I will think you will find I am entitled to my opinion as much as the rest of you! I wasnt saying she shouldnt be anxouis or worried but just asked why she was in a mess, she is still carrying a beautifukl baby and that the stress of being in a mess was bad for her and the baby regardless of anything!

Read your post back to yourself zoey, do you HONESTLY think it didn't sound rude?

I think you all need to step back everyone is entitled to there opinion which is the whole point of this site and if people are not willing to received various opinions this isnt the place to be!

Maybe what she put was slightly hard but her second post explains better and makes sense - I am giving the benefit of doubt it didnt come out right but do actually get her point and for all you know, could be a help to someone as sometimes seeing things in black and white help however hard.

You all seem to assume her opinion is wrong but thats her opinion and maybe yes it was harsh and worded wrong some of the language is not suitable on here (I see MN has now removed one post!!!) - everyone deals with things different and reacts different which is the whole point of posting on this site so you can get that different views

zoey- you are being massively insensitive.

Waiting for the results of a CVS is sheer hell. I am talking from experience. We had a high risk of Downs and had a CVS. As it was, our baby didn't have Downs, but a very serious chromosomal abnormality. Should I have been delighted? Was that extra special?

Sadly we terminated the pregnancy after hearing the endless list of life threatening problems she would have. The opinions of people like you haunt me and my husband nearly as much as the little girl we never met.

Have a heart before you judge from your lofty tower. I hope you never find yourself in this position.

OP- it's 3 chances out of 4 that all will be well. My heart goes out to you.

I think she meant mess as in she in a mess of emotions not in a mess as in a mess (sorry cannot think of word right now some one fill in gap)

YouOldSlag - your opinions and choices in life dont make other peoples opinions wrong as does other people opinions dont make your choices wrong. Nobody is ever going to agree on everything in life and think and feel the same way about things thats why everyone is different.

I was in your situation years ago, one of my twins had a high risk of DS, the other was normal. I now have healthy 14 year old twins, but those few days were the worst of my life.

I am thinking of you and wishing you all the best.

Sorry but some opinions are just wrong and insensitive and frankly, not very intelligent.

I don't think there is a single person in the world who would not be affected by the possibility of their child having any kind of unexpected issues.