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Opinion on wearing a bikini when pregnant?

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Marls001 · 20/02/2006 00:10

I am due Sept. 7th and this is my second; I have a 2 1/2-year-old. Just had a conversation with the women of my reading group which greatly upset me - they had just found out I was pregnant and the conversation went to how bad pregnant women look in bikinis!! Well, I wore one all summer in 2003 with my first, and was looking forward to it again this summer. I never thought to feel embarrassed by my body when I was pregnant that time, but now I'm not so sure. Even my mom was saying that if you're somewhere where you don't know anyone then it's okay but otherwise you're "letting it all hang out" and she thinks it's unattractive. New news to me. In 2003 I just thought I looked cute. Maybe it'll look cute anyway and I'm overworrying but now I don't want to be known as the gross one around the pool ... !

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Hattie05 · 20/02/2006 00:38

Around the pool = fine in my opinion.

In the supermarket = not so fine

Sorry but you stated you wore one all summer. Personally i'd wear one when at beach or pool with no worries in fact, think its more attractive than a swimming cossie with pg bump!

mszebra · 20/02/2006 05:20

i think it's great for pgos to be in bikinis. Show that it's a normal way for a pgo person to look.

Klara · 20/02/2006 07:07

sorry - but funny you should ask this - I saw someone at the pool yesterday in a bikini who was probably about 7 months and it looked DREADFUL. Having said that - I think that was probably more to do with the fact that her bum had grown and as such the straps were digging in at the back and that her cups were liteterally running over. Fine if you have the body for a bikini normally I guess, and also if you buy a bigger one to accomodate your expanding assets, and also - only if you don't have a map oif the UK roadsystem in stretchmars on your tum ( Like me).

I'm all for pregnant women looking fab, but don't think that means you have to let everyone see everything....

klara

Filyjonk · 20/02/2006 07:28

I think its the one time you can wear one and its not your responsibility if you look a bit...ahem...not so good. (not saying you won't look good, but you know what I mean).

Go for it!

suzywong · 20/02/2006 07:31

I agree with msz

In fact I said that aloud to a woman on the beach the other day. She looked at me like I was a nutter.

Papillon · 20/02/2006 07:35

I wear bikinis when pregnant - just asked dh what he thought and he had a confused face like whats the problem with that and you look great!

I think it looks quite sexy actually

beansprout · 20/02/2006 07:38

Go for it. I get sick of being told when we can and can't wear our bodies. Nubile young 20 something? Get yer kit off!! Preganant woman? Ooh, no, we don't like that so much, cover it up would you love?

Most women have issues around their body image and I believe that is, in large part caused by the fact that we don't actually know what our bodies are supposed to look like at different ages or at different times e.g. when pregnant. I'm really not sure why we think a pregnant body can be offensive! I can't be doing with the body police.

beansprout · 20/02/2006 07:39

What we can and can't wear on our bodies!! Sorry!! A bit early for typing!

Imafairy · 20/02/2006 08:10

It's funny that you posted this - I was about to post on the very same topic!! I'm 6mths pg with #2 and off on hols next week. Last time around I wore a bikini, and didn't have a problem with it. I went shopping at the weekend and tried on tankinis and they just didn't suit me at all, so I'm back to bikinis - although I was wondering why you NEVER see pics of pregnancy bikinis in any of the brochures.
As with everything everyone feels obliged to share with you when you're pregnant, listen to what you want to, and ignore most of it.

katzg · 20/02/2006 08:39

i wore a tankini when pg thought it was the best solution, it allowed both my bump and boobs to grow

hunkermunker · 20/02/2006 08:41

What would a pregnancy bikini look like?!

biglips · 20/02/2006 08:45

Stupid women!!!!

i wore a bikini when i was 28 weeks (i looks more like 38 weeks cos i was big) when i was on a cruise and around the pool (but when the sun was out and hot i wore a wrap to cover my bump)

Go for it!!! as i didnt care less!

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 20/02/2006 08:48

I also wore a tankini... much more flattering i felt but then i was the size of a house and had an AA route map to cover!

jellyjelly · 20/02/2006 09:47

I think it looks great if you are obviously pregnant but not so much when you are at the i havent pigged all the pies( i wore one at approx 16 weeks and i got so many funny/dirty looks because they thought i was fat not pregnant)

Kelly1978 · 20/02/2006 09:50

I wore a bikini when I was pg first time, got very tanned, and when my tummy shrunk back it went seriously dark.
I didn't the last two times, second one I had stretch marks, and third was out of season, plus a twin bump is def best covered!

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 20/02/2006 09:52

I dont think you should worry about what other people think, what gives them the right to decide whether or not you should wear something / whether it looks nice. If you are comfy in one then wear it. People give to much time to glamourous magazines which distort the view of what women are 'supposed' to look like. I wear what I want regardless of what people think of it (short bright red skirt anyone? )

coppertop · 20/02/2006 09:57

I agree with beansprout.

Why should other people be allowed to dictate what you wear just because you're pregnant?

hunkermunker · 20/02/2006 09:58

Seriously, a maternity bikini - I'm intrigued as to what it would look like.

donnie · 20/02/2006 10:03

go for it! agree with the body police thing - who exactly says what you can and can't wear when up the duff?
I personally think you should go for the bikini.

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 20/02/2006 10:08

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bubbly1973 · 20/02/2006 10:17

thats all very well showing a pregnancy bikini, but you'd have thought they would grab a pregnant woman and not a slim, perfect size nothing woman

bubbly1973 · 20/02/2006 10:19

when i was pg the first time around my fil said that i should wear looser clothes (i thought i was) but bump was so big in the end that no matter of clothing was going to hang down, it was going to cling, so i felt paranoid after that! so i know what you mean about not sure whether to wear one or not, but i say go for it marls001.

this time around im pg and its my last so i dont care what comments i get, im showing it off the way i see fit!

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Marls001 · 20/02/2006 18:07

LOL - Thanks so much! I truly appreciate all of your truthful, sometimes angry (I think rightfully - am dealing with that emotion with this myself) and sometimes hilarious feedback. Normally I don't care what others say ... this has been a soft point for me, I guess. I am the youngest in my reading group by 9 years and am new to this area, having moved from a much larger city - so that added to my own insecurity in this matter as well as the fact that one of them even said it she hoped I wouldn't wear one in front of her children!! Whatever that means. I don't have stretch marks and have always been a size 8 - am active and exercise often, more so than most people in this area, so it shouldn't be a horrendous sight ... I don't know why they might have said those things other than to be ugly about it, but at the same time the group has been nice and welcomed me wholeheartedly in other ways, so it was very confusing. Also, they had JUST found out I was pregnant before the bikini conversation. My dh says he thought I looked great last time but that we might take this more provincial area into account (though he doesn't think it is a big issue).

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