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What were your first thoughts after "shit, its positive!!"?

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CupOfBrownJoy · 14/04/2012 17:49

Got my BFP this morning (honestly I've been announcing it all over MN, every single MNer probably knows by now Smile ).

I've never even poas before, ever. So my first reaction was just pure shock, I got the shakes really badly. Called DP in and could barely tell him! We just stood there and hugged and said "shit!" a lot.

My first thoughts were, oh my God 9 months without alcohol!! - including my hen do and our wedding...
Second thought was am I going to fit into my wedding dress?
Third thought - I bought 2 pairs of new trousers last week!!

So, what were the first thoughts to hit after you found out you were pg, and what were yours and DP's reactions?

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vix1980 · 14/04/2012 17:55

Mine if im being truthful was omg my life is over - not that i had much of a life anyway, we were renovating a house at the time so never hardly went out all money went on the house, but i had it in my head there was so much i wanted to do in that house before we settled down with kids and now i suddenly couldnt do any of it.

of course i soon realised that yes i could indeed still have bbq's and such with a baby (weird how a pregnancy brain works), and ive slowly come to terms with it. 31 weeks later Smile

dp's reaction was " does that mean we have to go to lamarrs classes" i cried cos i didnt know what they where, then looked them up and wondered how the hell had he heard of them!

p.s you can still wear your trousers for a long while yet, just hook a bobble through the loop round the button when they get a bit tighter, i did this up until around 16 wks, and congratulations by the way!

heartmoonshadow · 14/04/2012 18:00

First time I was just shocked and very pleased as we had an appointment at the adoption service filing paperwork 1 week later. It took us 7 years to concieve and I now have a wonderful DS fast asleep on the sofa after swimming. This time I was even more shocked as it took only 2weeks to conceive, hubby nearly fainted when I told him. Both times I didn't tell DH I was testing so he was absolutely not prepared.

This time like you I thought of the changes that would affect our lives, poor DS has no choice and will be a big brother it seems unfair in some ways DH and I chose to make such a permanently different change to his life. Of course then there was OMG giving birth again ahhhhhh! Hospital visits and admissions, pain and niggles but most of all a cute little baby to cuddle which makes it all worth it.

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CupOfBrownJoy · 14/04/2012 18:01

Fantastic tip, thanks!

I'm consciously trying to avoid the negative thoughts today - how we're going to manage for money, space, how I'm doing to square it with work (start a new job in September).

Just focussing on the fun bits for now :)

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signet2012 · 14/04/2012 18:04

TTC for 18 months (had a month "off" to get drunk and do other non baby friendly things) and POAS loads of times!

When got the positive my first thought was:

"what does two lines mean?!"

My second was

"how the hell?!"

My third thought was

"Allll that alcohol over xmas....."

AThingInYourLife · 14/04/2012 18:07

My first thoughts after "shit, it's positive" were "shit, it's positive".

And I just kept thinking that for a few days without much in the way of coherent thoughts in between :o

The second time it took fewer days for coherent thoughts to return. The third time I was able to be pleased as well as overwhelmed :)

Congratulations - you're in for the ride of your life :)

Purplehonesty · 14/04/2012 18:11

First time was oh shit can we afford/do this?

2nd was yee fecking ha and I hope it's a girl this time!

KatKyn · 15/04/2012 21:22

First time was shit, shit, shit, how on EARTH am I going to tell DH (we'd only been married for 2 months and he wanted to wait a min of 12 months before even discussing it). I was really quite pleased, delighted even. I then didn't know what to do with myself, as DH was working late typically so I had 5 hours before I could tell anyone. I also had some quick googling to do because I didn't really know very much about being pregnant!!

chipsandmushypeas · 16/04/2012 07:01

Cogratulations cup! I got my first ever bfp on fri the 13th!

My reaction was the same - couldn't stop shaking. Called my DP and he just kept saying oh my god over and over then we hugged loads. Was very lovely :)

Then I thought, can i still go on holiday or will I be feeling too sick?! (was planning a weekend break to Rome). Then I was thinking our lives will change forever now, which was a bit daunting!

When's your edd? Mines Christmas eve!

SuperSlattern · 16/04/2012 07:19

Aww, congratulations Smile

Well we had been TTC for nearly two years. It was between Christmas and New Year 2010.

As it was December I had got plastered a lot. My birthday, work do, BIL's 30th. Even two days before I POAS I demolished about two bottles of wine Blush . Tbh I had given up ever being able to concieve naturally.

I was sat watching the OBEM Christmas special bawling my eyes out while my DP was getting ready for a boozy lads day/night out. Then it dawned on me I was a day late and maybe I should take a test.

My DP didn't want me to, as he knew how upset I would be if it was negative. But it was POSITIVE. I cried, he cried.

It was the best feeling ever. Trouble was an hour later he was meeting up with his mates so I had no one to talk too about it until the next day!!

That little line is now nearly 8 months old, and she makes us smile everyday

MrsNouveauRichards · 16/04/2012 08:04

First time I didn't think I was, but had been feeling a bit rough and was due to start a new job on the Monday (this was the Fri)

I got the digital test and it said 4mins. Before I had even pulled my pants up it was screaming 'pregnant' at me. I was in total shock having been out the previous weekend getting very drunk (sambuca shots) and had been eating a lot of homemade chocolate mousse (raw egg) that week.

I spoke to my sister who was so excited for me it made me feel really positive, so when DH got home we were able to talk through it sensibly and positively. Dd is now 4yrs :)

javotte · 16/04/2012 08:42

Wow. Wow. WOW.
Then : OMG what will DP say (we'd been together for less than 2 years and even though we had agreed a long time before that we'd get married and have kids one day, it wasn't really on the agenda).
Luckily i've got the most mature, responsible husband and he was great.

Elloviekids · 16/04/2012 09:27

Looked at the calender and realised it was Friday the 13th arrrrgggghhh 9Mnths later she arrived Friday 13th scarrrrrryyyyy

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CupOfBrownJoy · 16/04/2012 09:36

Aww I love hearing everyone's stories.

My edd is December 19th - hope I don't go too far over and crash Christmas!! But what a fantastic Christmas present, I'm so excited....

I kind of wanted to tell everyone right away, but now (a coupel of days later) I feel more like I want it to be our secret for a couple of weeks... we'll see how long we can hold on!

DP has already told a friend of his he saw yesterday, as this friend's wife is also pg and we wanted to ask him what on earth we do next. I think seeing DP so excited is actually the best thing about it Smile

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CupOfBrownJoy · 16/04/2012 09:36

couple - oops! Blush

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georgie22 · 16/04/2012 09:46

I'd more or less convinced myself that it was going to take a while to conceive (took my parents 7 years) so I did a test as it was Valentine's Day and we had a nice bottle of wine to drink. I was a few days late but honestly expected the test to be negative and I had been drinking, eating goat's cheese etc. When I saw the 2 lines I sat there saying 'shit, I'm pregnant' repeatedly then told dh who was not even expecting me to test. I was then in overdrive arranging a GP appointment, planning etc. We drank the wine about 12 months later!! Congratulations - it's an exciting time!!

PrincessWatermelon · 16/04/2012 10:12

Congrats Cup! V exciting times ahead.

After 2 years trying and about to start IVF, when I got my BFP I was in total shock that it actually worked. So thoughts were along the lines of "Wow! It's real, it's really positive, praise God!".

DH, woken at 2am couldn't manage to understand or believe the 2 lines, and insisted on a digital test (which I naturally had handy!) and was thrilled and stunned when it read "Pregnant".

Still the most amazing feeling. Esp since we didn't imagine it ever happening without loads of intervention.

She's wriggling around at the moment - 10 weeks to go til I get to meet our miracle!

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CupOfBrownJoy · 16/04/2012 10:21

Oh that's fantastic Princess!

I keep remembering back to Saturday - the hugging and shaking, DP grinning all day, him trying to work (he has his own restaurant) and coming over to me saying "I can't concentrate!!!" - makes me smile Smile

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minipie · 16/04/2012 10:36

first thought was "oh thank god, at last!" (we'd been trying for 11 months with no success)

second thought was "right, no scuba diving then" (we were on holiday!)

third thought was "please please please let me not get AF" (as I'd tested 2 days before period was due so it could have just been a chemical pg).

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CupOfBrownJoy · 16/04/2012 10:49

I definitely had "thank God we're normal!" thoughts - took 7 cycles.

DP was embarrassingly triumphant that he'd managed to do something before his brother Blush - they're very competitive and DBIL has been trying for a while I think Sad

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MissCoffeeNWine · 16/04/2012 10:58

My four BFPs:

Oh shit my life is over.

I don't want another baby - I want to hold my last baby, not this one.

Worked out the age gap between the due date and DD.

No, I'm not, because I cannot stand to say good bye to another one.

That's one baby, two late miscarriages and one in my belly.

Shangers · 16/04/2012 11:02

I was about to go to the dentist and thought I'd better check as I knew they would want to do xrays so I did the test - was in a rush so nearly ran out of the room without looking at it - remembered to check at the last second and saw the line - I think I said a few choice words outloud even though I was on my own then refused to believe it until I had got DH home and frogmarched him upstairs to give me an opinion and make the (totally obvious if I'd been thinking!) suggestion that perhaps I should do the expensive test - pops up with a lovely little cross.... though to be honest we didn't really believe it until I got a blood test!

I'm due on 19th Dec too CupofBrownjoy..... bang go my xmas travel plans!!

buxton150 · 16/04/2012 11:06

1st after trying for 2 years. So I can get pregnant. OMG the wine!
2nd thrilled although sadly lost it.
3rd. Gosh, we must be fertile after all.
4th (16 weeks) OMG how will I tell dh, What will kids think? I will be 60 when this ones 16.
Really happy tthough now over shock.

mrsnesbit · 16/04/2012 11:16

"here we go again"
Sad
No happiness just dread and fear and agony and anxiety and distress.
My response has always been this way.

I do remember my first ever + though and that was utter utter joy & excitement, crying and amazement, absolute elation. I had no idea what was to come, not in a million billion years.

Belles71 · 16/04/2012 12:30

Exactly nine months after meeting my future husband, I POAS and burst into tears. We were planning to travel the world, work abroad, go on many adventures before having kids. But after two weeks of storming around in a sulk I got used to the idea. Three children later it's the best thing that ever happened to me. But boy, was it a shock!

floosiemcwoosie · 01/05/2012 13:25

aww congratulations cup that is wonderful news

First thoughts were omg, that was that bottle of champagne we had on the hot sunday afternoon.......................

xxxx