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Think my mucus plug has gone.... and I cant stop crying!

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sillymillyb · 10/03/2012 15:03

I've been a total emotional cow lately, due mostly to the fact that I am single and feeling a bit alone.

I've just been to the loo and there is what looks like jelly when I wipe (sorry tmi) I know that it could be weeks still, but I just feel so bloody alone cos normally this is the point you'd tell your partner and then your sort of, in it together, so to speak.

I'm scared of what is about to happen, and of being on my tod - because even if my mum or best friend is there with me, it's not the same, and I just feel so very alone.

Right. Must stop crying. For a start I need to finish packing my sodding hospital bag! Sorry for spewing here, I've isolated myself in RL and there isn't anyone I can really dump this on, it all feels very stupid to be so emotional over a sodding mucus plug :(

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OMGBFP · 10/03/2012 15:22

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

Sorry I know it's frowned upon on MN but tough shit :) Who have you got supporting you lovely?

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sillymillyb · 10/03/2012 15:31

ah thank you, things must be bad if were breaking MN hug rules (it was much needed though!)

At the moment I haven't really got any support, I've texted my best mate but I think she is at work (she's a paramedic) as she hasn't replied. I could tell my mum but for all she is going to be my birth partner, its not the sort of thing we would chat about if that makes sense? So um, at the minute, its you Im afraid! No pressure!

I just feel like Im being pathetic - and I could still be sat here in a week having reacted totally over the top :S

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Methe · 10/03/2012 15:34

(((squeeze))) for you :)!

Don't panic yourself, if your losing plug it could still be days away so don't go working yourself up in to a frenzy about it.

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sillymillyb · 10/03/2012 15:44

Thank you Methe you all keep making me cry!

On one hand I hope it is days away so I can prepare myself, but on the other if it started now at least I can stop with all this anticipation and finally meet my baby. I've had 9 months to get used to this idea - I'm not sure why the reality is suddenly such a shock!

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Thistledew · 10/03/2012 15:45

Of course you can tell your mum. You and she are going to share far more intimate moments when you are actually giving birth, so maybe this can be a start of your relationship becoming closer (if of course you want that).

I am sorry you are feeling so isolated. How about thinking positively about how there will be plenty of chances to meet and make friends with other new parents when your baby arrives. This could be a new beginning for you in many ways!

Bearcrumble · 10/03/2012 17:36

Lots of luck, milly - I don't have any advice because I've never gone into labour naturally but I hope all goes well for you. I think you should tell your mum, if she's the one who is going to be there with you.

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sillymillyb · 10/03/2012 17:47

Right, my mum is told! She is on her way to keep me company.... and apart from her panicking slightly (my sil gave birth aprox 4 hours after her show!) she has been fab :)

Thank you all for keeping me company while I had my wobble, I have calmed myself down and tried to remember my hypnobirthing. Other than period pains and this show though there is no reason to think that anything is happening now as such. I think I just felt like I was alone and that was / is bloody scary!

I will keep you all posted - though I can see this could end up being a long affair!

Thank you all again, I really went to pieces for a bit there and I appreciate the support x

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Yama · 10/03/2012 17:52

My Mum was my birth partner for dc1. Was lovely.

The first year of dc1's life was one of my happiest. I was single.

Yama · 10/03/2012 17:52

By the way, I'm happily married now so I'm not comparing that time with a shitty relationship or anything.

HappyCamel · 10/03/2012 17:53

All the best, let us know how you and your lovely new baby get on. You are very brave but it's great you mum is there and once you have your little one you'll never be alone again, even when you want to be

VickityBoo · 10/03/2012 17:55

Ah bless you, you've every right to be emotional.

When my plug went, I had my daughter the same day. Could be imminent, could be a while off. Good luck either way.

Flisspaps · 10/03/2012 17:55

Being emotional and period-type pains (as well as the show) are very good signs that you won't be waiting too long though - don't be scared! :)

VickityBoo · 10/03/2012 17:57

Hmm...yes mine started with period pains too.

Portofino · 10/03/2012 17:57

My labour started with strong period-type pains......

JustMeAndMyBaby · 10/03/2012 17:58

Hope your Ok and your mum is with you now. I'm a single mum to a nearly 10month old and you'll be fine. Im on a single parents group on Facebook pm me if you'd like to be added its a great group and I've found it more supportive than mn cos you really get to know people.

nickelhasababy · 10/03/2012 17:58

I cried when my labour started.
it's not unusual (and I had people I could turn to - i don't blame you for crying!)

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don't forget to take your phone charger with you!!
and your camera.

tentative123 · 10/03/2012 17:58

Hello
Glad you are feeling a bit more in control. I thought I'd let you know my mucus plug has gone today and I've been crying too. Not for the same reasons, more like any little thing, which is not like me, even in pregnancy. Its an emotional time.

I know what you mean about the waiting too - I really thought something was going to happen ( and told my mum about the plug, which is not usually our type of chat either).. but its all faded to exhaustion.. we shall see

Let me know how you are getting on

RandomMess · 10/03/2012 17:59

Hope it goes well!!!

slightlycrumpled · 10/03/2012 17:59

I had my mum with me for DS1, it was a lovely, lovely experience for both of us. I then was alone with him until I met my now DH, and whilst it was never how I had anticipated life panning out, I loved my time just DS1 & I. I loved it.

You will be fine, glad your mum is on her way for some company for you.

Nyac · 10/03/2012 18:01

Good luck sillymilly.

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sillymillyb · 10/03/2012 18:20

Ah thank you everyone.... you all set me off blubbing again! My mum is on her way - she lives about half an hour away, and I suspect getting rid of her again should this amount to nothing may be an issue. She is being really great, I think I just went into denial a bit about telling her.

Im glad to hear that people have had really positive experiences after being on their own with their babies - I am usually so kick ass about it (its the only way to approach it really), but I've been really wobbly lately, prob as the reality kicks in. Anticipation is a bugger!

Nickle I can see this turning into a thread like yours - I may still be here next week! Your photos of you and baby are gorgeous by the way, thanks for sharing them :)

Oh, and to add to the signs of imminent labour - along with period pains and a show, I baked this morning. Scones. And I hung a new washing line in the back garden. This is uber nesting for someone with as much talent for domesticity as me. EEkk :S

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slightlycrumpled · 10/03/2012 20:17

Sounds promising sillymilly!

Honestly, I think there is something that makes you feel incredibly vulnerable at this stage of pregnancy. I very clearly remember when DS1 was just a few days old having a moment of pure clarity that all would be ok. I felt like my old self, fatter, with sore bits & boobs, but me!
It can be an empowering experience.

OMGBFP · 10/03/2012 20:40

Sillymilly, your mum should be with you by now, really glad about that :)

I can also add in that I was as good as single for my DD's first year and it was totally magical and I enjoyed it so so much :)

Do you know what you are having? :)

SoozyWoozy · 10/03/2012 20:52

Good luck!

Have another, shameless, rulebreaking (hug) to keep you going!

(Rules are made to be broken!)

slowginny · 10/03/2012 20:58

Books place for an update, cracks open a G&T and waits....

I've got an 11mo and I've been single since the off. I've lost count of the number of friends who quietly whisper they wish they could have their babies all to themselves, you are in for an absolute treat my lovely. Life is going to be reeeeeallly good from here on (or in a few hours' time).

Wishing I could do it all again and goes to look at snuggly DD in her cot.

Hugs xx

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