Due in October 2012 Part 2

[YompingJo]

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

that's right cheered me up marie!! See everyone, the positive benefits of caring and sharing on MN!

mirikat, I feel the same way! I hate the loneliness pregnancy brings :(

Chrissie & trilottie, congratulations and welcome trilottie, can you afford a private scan (£80-£100)? Chrissie, you don't tell us how old you are. I suspect, from the fact that you are the first among your friends to get up-duffed) that you are not an ancient hag like myself. Maybeyour pregnancy wasn't planned? You're worried your mates might be jealous/see you in a different light now? You're not sure if you wanted this baby just yet? Whatever the reason you feel so isolated, remember you're entirely entitled to feel strange/low about this whole new, enormous and life-changing experience. In time you will embrace it - I promise. Be kind to yourself and, more immportantly, tell those family members/close friends who value and love you. How' things with your partner/husband? Good support there? Come on now, love, fill us Mumsnetters in and we'll lighten your load. Promise

So here's the thing....I just rand the midwife and told her I was unhappy waiting until 9th March for my booking-in appointment when I will be 9+4 (I was fretting that my first scan would then be at 14 weeks or something ridiculous). So, she has booked me in a week earlier - 2nd. March. I feel a little better knowing I'm seeing her a week on Friday.

I am now officially worried about Turnwest

Hi Trilottie. If your hospital promised you an early scan, could you try phoning the EPU and see if they will be sympathetic? I am in a similar position to you - mmc discovered at 12 week scan. I am constantly wavering between wanting an early scan for reassurance and not wanting one in case it is bad news (DH is away and I am not sure how either he or I will cope while apart).

The only other option is a private scan. Where I live it is £100.

Milk! Why so lonely, darling? Spill the beans whilst I put the kettle on for us all a nice

Hey and welcome to the newbies!

I was thinking about turnwest not heard from her in a while. Hope she's ok.

Had my consultant appointment. Am having my cervix scanned to see if it's ok. Also had an internal and now having painful cramps . Still getting the spotting after sex or bowl movements and consultant said if the spotting becomes worrying I can have more scans.
I don't want anymore tho. The scan only reassures you for the moment you are on the bed. Will see tho. Prob change my mind if I'm feeling particularly neurotic

Marie! Simply loving the public poo debacle. I'm afraid I'm having a fit of Schadenfreude over here! (Ha! Ha!)

missbone, I've just lost the will to do anything during the day, then by 6pm I'm exhausted and want to go to bed. 2bh I need to hire someone to kick my ass!

Welcome newbies :)

I can sympathise with the feelings of loneliness. May be because I had PND after DS2, it still doesn't take much to tip the balance, and I need to keep myself busy in order to stay sane. Also, remember your hormones are all over the place and you may well feel out of sorts and even do things slightly out of character.

Well, I have booked my reassurance scan for 7th March (DS1's birthday) when I will be 9 weeks. (MW appointment not til I'm 10+2 so not holding out much hope of actually getting a scan at 12 weeks ) In hindsight, that may not have been the best move, in case it's bad news. However, as it's at 1pm, it will give me time to pull myself together, put on a brave face and take DS1 out for a fantastic birthday dinner. (Sorry for the negativity - after last time I am dreading another MC.) And if it's good news, it'll be a double celebration :) BTW, it's worth shopping around. An early scan at the private clinic near me is £50. I am saving my Groupon voucher for later on in my pregnancy (hopefully I'm not being foolishly optimistic)

It's soooo hard not to tell everyone early isn't it? An old friend phoned this morning to see if I wanted to meet up on the spur of the moment (normally only see her once a year so a lovely surprise) We went out for lunch at Harvester and I was eating fine then suddenly had a mouthful of pasta salad and knew I was going to be sick, so had to peg it to the bathroom. Then felt I had to explain to her why I had suddenly stopped eating my meal. Luckily we don't have any mutual friends so I know she'll keep it to herself and it felt so good to have someone else IRL to get excited with and she was genuinely delighted for me, despite being single and longing to get married and have a family herself. My Mum and FIL whom we've told were pleased for us, but not excited. Am crossing my fingers, legs and everything that this baby sticks and praying every night that I will have a healthy baby and pregnancy, if it's meant to be.

Afternoon all!
I am laughing my head off at marie's poo escapades.
I had 6 days of constipation but have managed to do lovely satisfying poos for the last three days so long may that continue!

Had yummy pancake with mushrooms and the pancake with strawberries and sugar and lemon last night, and then went to bed at 8.30pm!
Would have had a fabulous night's sleep if it hadn't been for the fact that I work up six times and needed to go and pee!

Today I had the most bizarre and worrying symptom (at least I hope it's pregnancy related otherwise I'll be pretty worried.) For about an hour my vision went really funny. You know when you look at a bright light and then look away you still see the image for a while? It was like that, but it lasted for ages, and I hadn't been look at any bright lights! Totally freaked me out!

Fairy sending you all my good wishes and Sassee we didn't talk but my thoughts are with you too.

Take care all!

33, 7 weeks, 1st baby

Hi ladies, welcome newbies and a hug to all those in need of one.

Marie I am fine thanks - feeling much better as had been constipated for a couple of days. Had 2 cups of hot water and lemon today and it worked a treat - feel like I've lost half a stone! :o

To the peeps feeling lonely and down - can you tell anyone about your pregnancy? We were going to wait till 12 weeks blah blah but with DH going away I told my parents and have since told friends. I'll be 8 weeks on Fri. Still considering early scan to see if the whole thing is real - friend is a nurse on a gynae ward and offered to get me in for a scan in her teabreak but felt a bit guilty somehow. So might just book a scan for next weekend at which point I'll be 9 weeks all being well.

Fairy and Grandoldduke keep well. Sorry if I'm leaving anyone out - I can't keep up -so many posts!

Haggis don't worry - I have had both symptoms. Sick of getting up to pee at night. Also I had the scary eye thing about a week and a half ago - seems to be a migraine. Apparently some women have their first ever migraine in pregnancy. Thankfully haven't had another one since so fingers crossed you won't either.

Oh - on itchy legs got some cheap cocoa butter stuff and seems to be helping - fingers crossed!

For those of you worried about your bopoking in appointments being too late to get your scan's at 12 weeks - My booking in with MW isn't until 10 +1, but I got a scan appointment for 12+1 about a week after I first went to see my GP.
He got me to fill in some paper work (a pink form, but not sure if that's specific to my area) and that was the trigger for the scan appointment (I know because when I went to EPU they asked if I had my appointment through yet and said they send them out when they get the pink form...)

May be worth checking with your GP if there's anything you can do to get the scan sorted befoer your booking in appointment?

Oops...a bo-poking appointment would be interesting

Has anyone had their booking in appointment yet? I have mine tomorrow and I don't know what to expect.

heehee I have had my booking in appointment. They go through your history. Previous pregnancies etc medical history talk about antenatal choices and screening and will book your scan if u havnt already.
hth

MissBone and Running Thanks for your pointers, I have rung the surgery back again and explained as you did that my booking appointment was too late and could they fit me in earlier, (I may have added a week onto my dates to make the point) and she happened to find me an earlier appointment 2 weeks yesterday, and said the midwife could ring me tomorrow as well! Feel a lot calmer now. I think i'll wait til she rings tomorrow then think about the private scan or EPU route. Here a private scan is £100 or £145

Thanks bubblebell1. I'm quite excited about it although worried about having my blood pressure measured as it always shoots up when I go there. I've been sent home with a machine in the past to prove I have normal blood pressure but my current surgery don't do it. I so want to be able to use the midwife led unit at my hospital as they are building and extension with 10 birthing pools. I suspect I won't be allowed to use it if I have high blood pressure.

trilottie....YOU GO, GIRL!!!

Duke, darling, how are you today? Been thinking about you x

Thanks Angelico
Glad I'm not the only one with the funny eye thing!
Glad the cocoa butter's helping with the itching, I had the same problem and vaseline intensive care aloe vera seems to be helping. Though I just shouldn't think about it because legs have started itching now!

Hmmm... maybe I ought to go and see my GP. I figured he'd just direct me to the MW so didn't bother going to see him. Maybe he could get me a scan appointment. Why isn't there a standard procedure for this that's the same everywhere? I was in a different county for pregnancy with DS1 and most of DS2 (was registered to give birth in 2 different hospitals at one point as it looked like I was too late to see a consultant in Leicester... madness.)
HHHB I have the opposite problem, incredibly low blood pressure. Last time MW said she had no idea how I managed to have such low blood pressure and still be vertical! Does lead to light-headedness, but makes me lower risk for other pregnancy related things.

Now I'm wondering about pushing my booking in appt with MW forward a week. The receptionist said they like to see you at about 9 weeks but I'll be 10+2 at mine. Clearly the woman can't do basic maths

Thinking about Duke and Fairy too.

Hi everyone, just back from a lovely holiday in New York celebrating our 5th anniversary and catching up on all your news. Thinking of those who have difficult times in the last few days, and also many congratulations to those who have joined the thread while I've been away.

New York was awesome - but sightseeing is hard when you're so tired! We'd booked the trips months ago so didn't know I'd be PG, but I had to have cat naps every afternoon. Luckily the nausea has subsided but I had terrible wind on the plane back (what is going on inside me?!) and had to keep trotting off to the toilet - didn't quite make it every time, which was very embarrassing!

I have an early scan on Saturday - good luck to all of you waiting for yours. MissBone I saw your questions about MMC and early scans. We had a normal 12w scan last time, then unfortunately a later scan showed that the baby had died at 14w - but the doc did tell me this was VERY rare, something like 1 in 200, and that most people have a sign that something is wrong and most MC happen 'naturally'. I've chosen to have an early scan this time as I am a little more anxious after our experience last time, but I know seeing a HB early won't change anything that might happen further down the line. What will be will be and all I can all do is hope for the best.

Now to the unpacking and washing... what larks, not!

PS - Angelico I have itchy shins too - started while I was away, I wondered if maybe I had bed bugs / fleas! Feel better now