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Can dh stay during induction

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ciwi · 14/02/2012 21:27

hi, I am being induced for medical reasons at 38 weeks and I am aware it can take a while. I was just wondering if my dh will be able to stay overnight with me if nothing is happening?

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swedie · 14/02/2012 21:29

I'm sat in the induction suite right now and the answer is no! Unless you get moved to your own room on labour ward he'll have to go. Sorry.

Bluetinkerbell · 14/02/2012 21:29

Don't have a clue ciwi but I hope so for you! Hopefully somebody who will know more, will show up soon to tell you!

DaydreamDolly · 14/02/2012 21:33

Sorry Ciwi, as Swedie says, husbands not allowed to stay unless you are in labour ward. When you go in to be induced you stay on the induction suite or postnatal ward.
I was induced at 7pm and DH sent home at 10pm, to return at 6am the next morning.
Good luck to you, and you Swedie!!

pingdriver · 14/02/2012 21:33

unlikely unless you are actually on delivery suite. Normally during induction process you on a ward and while they can be there during day, they will be sent home in the evening. we were told they would phone DH and call him in if anything happended which meany labour ward beckons........

melliebobs · 14/02/2012 21:35

At my hospital if your being induced birth partners can stay 12-8pm if nothing 'happening'

StrawberryMojito · 14/02/2012 21:35

It's unlikely that he would be able to stay with you. I was also induced at 38 weeks for a medical reason and my DP had to leave the ward at around 9pm, it was the same for the partners of most of the other women having inductions aswell. It was only the women whose labour was progressing following induction and were awaiting transfer down to the delivery suite that had partners who were allowed to stay.

IceCreamCastles · 14/02/2012 21:39

Must depend on hospital. I had private room on labour ward when I was induced at 39 weeks and dh could stay with me. I sent him home the first night as nothing was happening but he stayed the second (and complained about the uncomfortable chair he was expected to sleep in)

smokinaces · 14/02/2012 21:45

Depends on which hospital and why the induction is happening.

My induction (maternal distress) my ex partner (we were together at the time) had to leave between 9pm and 9am when I was on the ward. It was only when I went to the labour ward at 3cm that he was allowed to stay.

However, he's just gone on to have another baby at a different hospital who was being induced due to fetal problems, and was allowed to stay throughout the induction.

south345 · 14/02/2012 21:48

Not if nothing's happening, just hope your labours not like mine! Dp went home (45 mins away but also snowy/icy) he went to bed, pain started, rang him told him plenty of time then ds was born 20 mins later so he missed it! If we have any more I'll insist he stays! Good luck!

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ciwi · 14/02/2012 21:51

Thanks for your replies, I just assumed he would be able to stay and it was him that pointed out that he may not. Am going in at 7.30am so hopefully it won't be an issue but I have major anxieties about staying in hospital alone due to previous experience. Am a bit worried now.

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workshy · 14/02/2012 21:53

my DP (now ex) was sent home the first 2 nights but I went into active labour at about 8.30 on the 3rd night so they let him stay as long as he stayed in the cubicle and didn't say anything to anyone otherwise all the dads would want to stay!

DaydreamDolly · 14/02/2012 21:55

Ahh Ciwi try not to worry, you may get a sympathetic mw who will sneak you into a private room on labour ward if there's space
If not, take a good book, iPod, pillow from your bed at home, and try to relax as much as you can. When is your induction?

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ciwi · 14/02/2012 22:08

It's on the 29th but I will be in for monitoring before then so I think I might ask the midwife then if there is any chance they can make an exception. If not, I really don't know how I will cope. I have just read the information leaflet again and it says '1 visitor is permitted during your stay on the induction suite' that sounds like he can stay overnight doesn't it?

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Bluetinkerbell · 14/02/2012 22:17

ciwi I think you should need to explain the situation! If they are in any way supportive they should allow your DH to stay! If not, I will give them a ring for you! :)

smokinaces · 14/02/2012 22:18

It does sound more like a labour ward guideline than a obs ward guideline - we were on the obs ward (pre and postnatal care) and that says 2 visitors at any time bteween 9am & 9pm. Delivery Suite/Labour Ward says 1 visitor permitted only. So yes, does sound like it could be ok.

Sadly they very rarely make exceptions to a standard rule - if the rule is no overnights there will be no overnights.

If you are anxious, have you thought how you will cope post birth if you have to stay in for a couple of nights? As he wont be allowed to stay then either. Is it worth trying to think of some coping strategies now? (like ipods, phone, calming music etc)

FunnysInTheGarden · 14/02/2012 22:22

this time 2 years ago I had just been induced with DS2. DS wasn't allowed to stay.They gave me a diazepam and I slept until 6am, went into labour and DH was called. He arrived at 7am and DS2 was born at 8.10am. The best birth out of the two of them IMO. Ahhhhh and DS2 is 2 tomorrow...........

FunnysInTheGarden · 14/02/2012 22:24

DH sorry not DS. Too many boys in this family! OP you will be OK, once birth has started you won't care much!

Eclairwaldorf · 14/02/2012 22:28

I went in for a 10pm induction, and sobbed sobbed when they told DH to leave around midnight. Nothing to do with the fact that if hit me that I had to give birth. Soon.
Sorry that probably first help much. I think there usually isn't much room for partners on the ward etc or on rooms, do t think j gave ever heard of partners being able to to stay.

Hope all goes well OP

Eclairwaldorf · 14/02/2012 22:28

Oh Lordy sorry for all the typos.

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ciwi · 14/02/2012 22:29

smokin I am not worried about staying overnight once the baby is here and safe. I am worried about something going wrong and me being on my own iyswim. I will ask when I am next in and if he can't stay I will have to prepare myself for that.
Thanks blue I will explain and hopefully they will be understanding, if not, will get you on the case :)

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Whatevertheweather · 14/02/2012 22:36

Ciwi I would hope given your circumstances something could be arranged for you so dp can stay with you. With dd1 I was induced and it took 2 days to get going properly and dp had to go home.

But I get the distinct impression from the hospital that this time round they would be very accommodating of anything that would make it a bit easier. I hope that yours is the same love x

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ciwi · 14/02/2012 22:40

funnys that sounds like a lovely labour.
I think I just thought would be on delivery from the off, the leaflet makes it sound like I will have my own room so fx my hospital is one of the few that allow people to stay.

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FunnysInTheGarden · 14/02/2012 22:50

ciwi it was and here's hoping yours will be the same. Dont worry about it at all, they are very good at getting your DH back toute suite of necessary. DH left at 10pm with DS1 and was called back at 12pm as an emergency, although DS1 didn't arrive for another 5 hours. You won't be left alone, and best of luck with your birth.

howardsway · 14/02/2012 22:55

It can depend on the type of induction as well. DS2 was induced with syntocin which starts things very quickly. I was induced at night with no suggestion at all of DH going home. Good job as 1/2 hour later was in full on labour!

FunnysInTheGarden · 14/02/2012 22:58

Yes, howards I had a pessary both times, so a bit slower

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