Any older pregnany ladies out there?

[lincsslass67]

Just found out am pregnant at 44. (assuming test correct)
Really don't know what to do as early days.
Just trying to get other peoples experiences.
Will I have a nightmare time dure to my age?
Have 3 dc already 1 natural, last 2 cs.

That's pregnant of course.

Hi lincsslass and congratulations!

I'm 42 and 17 weeks pregnant on my first! As it's my first I have nothing to compare it to. The first trimester was exhausting, I rested and slept a lot and felt quite sick but am feeling more human now.

How are you feeling? Have you been to the Doctor...

scarlet

Thanks for your reply. I only did the test this morning and I am still dazed. Been feeling just like you do when your period is due but also a little light headed. So I thought i would do a test just in case. Also did feel a little nauseous too.
Think I need a little time to come to terms with it as not really planned. Can't imagine not keeping baby though.Will probably do another test in a week to be sure and than see doctor.
Congratulations scarlet.

Hello! I'm 41 - congratulations and welcome to the over-40s club :)

There are a quite a few of us around and I know of two 47 year olds that had surprise babies who are both doing well and very happy, now that they have got over the shock!

Everyone's different, but for me personally, I've been fit and well, and age alone hasn't affected me so far (although this is my first so can only compare to my family and friends). You will probably get referred to a consultant as a matter of course, due to age alone (due to an increased risk of problems for the baby's health and outcome of the pregnancy) and you may get offered extra scans as a result but if all's going well, it doesn't necessarily change your options regarding childbirth.

In terms of energy, I'm in the 3rd trimester now and starting to feel tired if I over-do things, but I'm flat out in a stressful job, still traveling, have 3 step children on the go and a load of commitments outside work. Fortunately my job is flexible but I'm expecting something to need to slip soon. But this is no different from friends of mine, 10 years younger, in a similar situation.

In my case, I can only say it's been positive so far. My partner is very supportive and the children are massively excited about the new baby and I'm looking forward to having baby-sitting on-tap in a couple of years time

It's a tough decision however and different for every woman. There is no right or wrong answer, but I hope the above helps.

Thanks LL (congratulations also PlinkertyPlonk! )

I can totally understand you feeling dazed. I was like that for the first two days. Really shocked, I had just gone back to college as a mature student and the baby was not planned but I am delighted now.

Take your time and take it all in, it's a big suprise. I found ice lollies good for the nausea.

Thanks ladies. Congratulation plinkertyplonk.

42 year old here and 34 weeks pregnant with my second baby.

I had my first when I was 39 years young :)

Congratulations Sandra! You are getting near the end! How have you found it?

Congratulations, OP. Am 39 and 32 weeks pregnant with my first, and very heartened to encounter other older mothers, espcially first-timers - I frequently feel like some kind of dinosaur in my GP surgery, because everyone else waiting to see the midwife looks like they just left school. I know I was grinding my teeth (unfairly, I know) in their general direction around the time of doing the combined test for chromosomal disorders...

I just had my second at 40. I highly recommend being fat because they never ever mentioned my age :o

Congratulations :)

Did you get a hard time about weight, Gwendoline? I'm carrying a lot more than I should, but no one's really mentioned it apart from at the booking-in appointment, when my midwife said I should try not to put on too much during the pregnancy (and my second scan had 'unclear view due to maternal corporal habitus') - I was just wondering if there's weight-specific stuff I should be prepared for in labour?

Congratulations!!.. I am knocking 38 :( & 35 weeks pregnant with no.3.. must say I don't feel any different from when I carried my 1st at age 29. I have been very lucky & sailed through it so far... no morning sickness, Bp problems or anything really, although I have one my fair share of moaning but I think being pregnant makes you entitled to moan & is an excuse to take things easier. I really don't think age comes into it, I have friends 10 years or more younger than me that have had it so much harder, I think it's more about luck, they have been unfortunate enough to have SPD which has knocked them for six!!
Yes the consulatant & MW will probably mention your age on more than 1 occassion but let it go over your head & enjoy your precious surprise baby!!
The bonus of being a mature mum with other children I have found is that my cons & my mw have treated me like I am very sensible & knowledgable about all things fetal & baby. Not once have I been patronised or spoken down. Good luck with your pregnancy. x

Thank you.

Hello all I am 41 and 28 weeks pregnant with my 4th ! My eldest son is 21, I have another son of 20 and another son of 16 ......this one is a wee girl.
My pregnancy has gone pretty well except from violent sickness and I am just starting to need to rest a bit more but other than that I am no different to when I was pregnant at 19!
My experience so far with MW & consultants has been very positive I do need to see the cons again at 36 weeks as I had a few problems a couple of yrs ago leading to a cone biopsy and he wants to see me?!
I did find the 12 week scan and tests a bit stressful and couldnt get into being pregnant until I knew things were ok but all is well so far and we are looking forward to our new arrival. I have 3 big lads arguing over who is going to push the pram so she is going to be a very loved little girl by her big brothers.

Its nice to meet other mums to b who are over 35 and chat

scarletforya

If baby wasn't so low and causing me hip pain I could honestly say that I feel really great.

My 1st pregnancy was like a dream. No worries at all, but this 2nd one has caused quite a bad hip pain since pregnancy week 18.

But I'm sure he's worth it :)

Am 41 and 8 weeks and going crazy,
Had mc on 6 th October, so now anxious every time I go to loo, checking the tissue, every ache and pain, you name it I am stressing over it,
In my head I am" what will be will be" but I am shitting myself it will go wrong,
Yesterday wiped and convinced it was slightly pink!
Nothing since but slight ache,
Googled and people say normal at 8 weeks(around time I would be having period), please someone on here tell me I am not going crazy

Kellzi - congratulations and if you are going crazy, then I am too (and I am certain we are not alone)

I am in a similar situation, but a few weeks behind you, time-wise. 40, had early MC in December and now almost certainly am pregnant again. I got symptoms very early last time and the same seems to happening this time too (can't test for another few days). I did vow if I got pregnant again, I would ignore it and all the symptoms until it had proved to have some staying power... fat chance! Like you, I am trying to be philosophical but the paranoia/terror/checking of things is there too. My situation is slightly ridiculous because AF is not even due yet, but I find myself thinking about every ache/pain I get (and I get a lot of them) and then thinking back to the last time and how it can't be a good sign etc etc.

I will slope off now and try and put it all out of my mind until I can test.

Anyway, all the very best and remember Dr Google can be a friend and enemy!

Hi gorgon, any news on test yet, feel better today, 8 weeks can bring aches and pains.

38 and 31 weeks with my first (and most likely, only). Got SPD so finding the whole thing quite draining. Good to see some other older ladies with their first, too. It's been not a quite a year since I broached the "kids, um, now?" topic with DH, after trying to figure out how to bring it up for nearly a year too. He was really resistant and took a while to come around, even though we had previously agreed on the concept in principle. I was worried I had waited "too long", but things apparently still work! (and DH now really into things -- it's been fascinating to watch how he has changed)

38 and 26 weeks pregnant with no2. It doesn't seem that different really all the regular aches and pains but with a 2 1/2 year old DS to look after I don't have time to struggle!

Hi Kellzi - glad to hear you feel better today.

Still haven't tested as feel it is probably still too early but if I'm not pregnant I must have some terrible illness! I have been having odd pains the last few days (which I recognise from the first time around) but then yesterday I realised they had disappeared and actually started panicking about that instead. I also felt v energetic (enough to do an hour at the gym) and so convinced myself I had made the whole pregnancy thing up.

And then today the nausea has hit me like a ton of bricks - bleurghhhhh!

So, all in all, still don't know for sure, but pretty certain I am, and livid with myself for not being able to ignore everything. I have to admit I was a bit gung-ho about trying again, but the post MC panic has got me already. I confess to feeling a bit hard-done for having such early symptoms (everything seemed to kick off 2 dpo, for heaven's sake).

I do find though that I get a lot of reassurance from reading about other's experiences, and this thread in particular has been great - congratulations to all of you!

Hello Ladies
I'm 45 and currently 32 weeks pregnant with my second. Had DD when I was 19 so a bit of a gap!
I am finding this pregnancy physically demanding - have had SPD since about 24 weeks but I'm now finding ways to manage that and pilates and yoga helps. I'm lucky in that I can take as much rest as I need and am loving my afternoon naps right now!
Like many others I had a MMC a couple of years ago; I really found it hard to believe that this pregnancy was going to continue in the early days and I'm still pinching myself. We had really got to the stage where we thought it wouldn't happen for us so we were absolutely delighted to find ourselves here.
I do find it quite reassuring that the medical professionals don't seem overly interested in my advanced years - that has got to be a good thing!!!
Congratulations to all, and wishing everybody an uneventful 9 months.

OMG am so reassured, I thought I was all alone!

I'm 45 and found out a week ago that I am pregnant.I didn't believe the first 5 positive tests so made a same day booking with the GP. As I wasn't sure of my dates and got confused over my LMP I was booked for an U/S the following day.

I had a rough guess by my work roster that it should be approx 9 weeks. Anyway the scan puts it at 5/6 weeks and only showed an empty sac. The sonographer wasn't very helpful or clear in explaining things and I left feeling utterly confused and upset. Especially upsetting was the last comment in the notes about 'viability'. Booked to return for another scan on 1st Feb.

Anyway got home and decided to try and def confirm LMP. Turns out I had calculated wrongly (I had been in Tokyo twice and LMP was on second trip not the first as I originally thought!).

So on my first scan I was actually 5 weeks and 2 days so is it consistent with what was seen? Am terrified to be optimistic given my age and is it worth asking for another scan this week (today?!) even if just to reassure me?

My life is on hold as due to my job I am unable to work and I just need to know, or have some reassurance, that things are as they should be.

Thanks in advance for any help or advice.

I am 40 and 20 weeks pg with my second. I had my first at 35.

First was way easier, I was 20 lbs lighter and ate much better. This time I had ms until 14 weeks and have recently developed backache. I am definitely not enjoying it as much.

Congrats, btw.

Hey. I just wanted to say there was a 45 yr old first time mum at my Nct group. Of the six of us, she is the only one to have delivered drug free, VBAC, in the birth centre. Thought it pleasingly odd-defying. Enjoy your pregnancy.