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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Is it just me?

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TreesDogsBooks · 19/12/2011 16:21

I am now 39 weeks pregnant with dc1 and I can honestly say that the last 9 months have not been what I expected at all! Other people seem to breeze through pregnancy whereas I feel like a complete pregnancy failure. I am so worried that maybe I am just pathetic and everyone else suffers just the same but simply gets on with it. If so how on earth will I handle labour? To cut a long story short I had sickness 24-7 till 20 weeks, then spd took over and ended up on crutches. The pain of spd can have me in tears which I feel does not bode well for labour. I have pregnancy rhinitis which I've had from first trimester that keeps me awake a lot.
These are the majors but I have also had lots of crazy little things that I would never have thought could happen to your body during pregnancy! It has certainly been an eye opener.
Am I alone or does everyone have it bad and just accepts that it's part of pregnancy?

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Crosshair · 19/12/2011 16:25

I haven't had it half as bad as you and Im still feeling pretty rough.

scentednappyhag · 19/12/2011 16:28

If people were warned about pregnancy, they'd never have babies sorry you're having such a horrid time, you're not alone though, I also suffered with SPF, and was horrifically dribbly. Not a typo, I dribbled. For 9 months. I was attractive
Have you decided what pain relief, if any, you want for labour? Maybe your midwife can make some suggestions to negate the spd? On the plus side, my discomfort and odd symptoms stopped the moment DD was out.
Thinking of you, merry Christmas

heliumballoon · 19/12/2011 16:30

I have literally just posed the same question to my osteopath who specialises in pg women!
still not long now

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TreesDogsBooks · 19/12/2011 16:35

Not decided on pain relief was hoping to see how I go. Is this terribly naive of me?

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heliumballoon · 19/12/2011 16:53

No, it doesn't sound naive.
Just know the pros and cons of all the options, then see how you feel. FWIW in my experience the searing pain of SPD was worse than labour. At least labour ends whereas SPD felt never ending!!

scentednappyhag · 19/12/2011 16:55

I think that sounds very sensible trees, you might not even need any! Definitely worth talking it over though, just so you know what options are available to you, and pros and cons of each, just so you know which to try if you need to.

MeltingChocolateBunnies · 19/12/2011 17:06

Don't worry. A tough pregnancy is good prep for the newborn stage. IMHO childbirth and newborns are a piece of cake compared to 24hr morning sickness.

You'll be fine

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TreesDogsBooks · 19/12/2011 17:08

I have looked into all options but trying to stay relaxed and play it by ear when the time comes. Please let it be very very soon!

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TreesDogsBooks · 19/12/2011 17:11

Hope you are right meltingchoc, someone said to me hard pregnancy = easy labour. clutching at straws

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ThatllDoPig · 19/12/2011 17:12

Yes, stop beating yourself up, you have had a tough time and you are right, some people breeze through pregnancy, because but they don't have the same things to contend with , everyone and every pregnancy is different and has no reflection on how you will cope with labour or looking after a newborn. Good luck!

FatherBartimas · 19/12/2011 17:13

No experience of spd but did have a crappy pregnancy. Did not enjoy it at all.

Birth was pretty easy though (well, all except the last 15 minutes when it all went a bit pear-shaped) but I loved the afterwards bit, especially once I got home from the hospital: no more sickness! no more ligament pains! no more pea-sized bladder!

BTW I planned on no pain relief, ended up with an epidural - best decision ever!

AlpinePony · 19/12/2011 17:16

Yes, I'm shit at pregnancy.

Hg for 36 weeks, spd, pre-eclampsia and emcs.

Still blahdy gone and done it again though. ;)

bunnies is right - it makes looking after a newborn a doddle, I was leaping around as soon as I got out of hospital.

BalloonSlayer · 19/12/2011 17:21

I had no problems during any of my pregnancies but didn't find any of them "easy."

I don't know what I expected . . . perhaps that I would look beautiful (I didn't) that my hair would be fantastic (it didn't change at all) that my nails would be fabulous (they were as crap as ever), that I would have energy flooding through me (pass the biscuits), my creativity would flourish (is Richard and Judy on yet?), that I would be the most sexy sensual being ever (uuuurgh) and that everyone would admire me for the way I sailed through pregnancy taking everything in my stride ("By Heck, Balloonslayer, you ARE a size!").

If it's any comfort I thought that SPD means that the ligaments supporting your pelvis are loosening too much and therefore you may have an easier birth?

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TreesDogsBooks · 19/12/2011 17:25

Thank you all, so reassuring. I haven't had many pregnant friends so it is nice to hear similar experiences.

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TreesDogsBooks · 19/12/2011 17:29

I think I read somewhere on MN that spd can help with labour but not entirely sure? Marvellous if true.

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broccolitrees · 19/12/2011 17:50

it's not just you - pregnancy can be very hard even without 'problems'. yes some people do sail through - lucky buggers.
i had dreadful ms with dd, ending in premature emcs due to pre-eclampsia and help, but like alpine @still blahdy gone and done it again@ . this time though, the ms is worse i have zero energy to do anything that is not life and death, and even that is a struggle, and i am only 9 weeks, and feel like i must be making a meal of things. i just hope i have a better second trimester, and third for that matter

broccolitrees · 19/12/2011 18:08

oh yeah and i found the newborn stage much easier than being pregnant - even being up a gazillion times a night

BaronessBomburst · 19/12/2011 18:17

Labour and the newborn stage were a piece of piss compared to being pregnant. It was also one thought which really kept me going during labour; this hurts like hell but when it's over I won't be pregnant anymore! :)

Grohlsgirl · 19/12/2011 18:59

Love this thread although sorry to hear so many others have had a rough time of it too.

I naively believed that i would love every second of being pregnant and had similar earth mother fantasies - bollocks!! Had HG from about ten minutes after we conceived, still being sick at 41 weeks, yuck! I cannot wait to meet my LO, but also cannot wait to have my body back, however battered it may look... Doesn't help that i know loads of people who are pregnant right now and every bleeding one of them is glowing and loving it, grrrr!

AlpinePony · 19/12/2011 19:12

If it helps anyone, I am now 31 weeks with #2 and it's so much better. Had about 3/4 weeks of ms and have spd, but was wallpapering today - that would've been impossible during my last pregnancy.

Fuck knows if I'll make it to term though. ;)

TheLittleFairyOnTopOfTheTree · 19/12/2011 20:48

I had spd with my dd (not as bad as you by the sounds of it though). My labour was great, 3.5 hours, just gas and air. When I was laying on the delivery bed holding her I felt amazing as I already could feel the spd had gone! Best of luck to you, enjoy your little one. I've never forgotten the spd, but i'm pregnant with dc#2 now, so it's not stopped me coming back for more

Bumpsadaisie · 19/12/2011 23:11

Don't forget , the harder the pregnancy the easier you'll find the newborn bit!

All those girls who've coasted thru these 9 mths are going to get a rude awakening. Whereas for you it will be a turn up for the books!!

Jamina · 20/12/2011 04:13

Hey my experience mimics yours, I am so looking forward to being a mum but really having a hard time being preggers. You're not alone and it will all be worth it. 15 weeks left and counting for me xxx

hairytaleofnewyork · 20/12/2011 04:46

I hantavirus had ms or spd but I have cries in pain and frustration (bad back. very tired, and sleepless) many times. It is a rough e ride!

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TreesDogsBooks · 20/12/2011 05:14

Ah I'm not alone it seems wide awake since 2.30am, lots of pains, tightenings and the ever present blocked nose. Must stop getting my hopes up with each little twinge though!

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