how did you feel about 2nd birth, more anxious?

[Dozeyland]

Because you know what to kind of expect, even though each is unpredictable....

I was pretty chilled with DD, read a lot, and just thought "oh well got to happen" and it turned out great...

anyone felt like this then panicked 2nd time?

Yes!

Struggling a lot this time with how naive and optimistic I was last time.

So much has happened since then and I am so much more anxious this time. Not to mention knackered and wondering where I am getting the energy from!

I feel about the same. With my first birth, it was hard to feel really anxious because I didn't really understand the reality of what was about to happen to me. I just felt, erm, bewildered and kind of hopeful.

With my second, due in 10 weeks time, I feel really excited and geed up and "bring it on" because I know it means I will meet my baby and I can't bloody wait. I hate being pregnant and fortunately I had a good birth experience last time (I rate those hypnotherapy CDs by the way, for lessening panic, and I am not normally a woo kind of person).

It's the first six weeks which are sending me into blind terror!

Did you have a bad labour first time?

I know i have just stopped breastfeeding DD she is 13 months and im 15 weeks pregnant with DC2.

I feel tired too but better than i felt at about 8/9weeks pregnant, other than that no symptoms again really...

in regards to the birth i am feeling ok, a bit anxious as my situation is difficult with dp www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1335340-How-will-I-cope-complex-situation

and obviously the pain wasnt nice but it was quick and i did it without any pain relief.....

what will be, will be i guess.?

The first time, you don't know how you will feel. The second time it all depends on what the first time was like. Think of it as a new chapter and take what comes.

The first time didn't go as planned as I ended up in hospital and bled a lot delivering the placenta, but felt in control and enjoyed it. 2nd time I was more anxious, it was at home with no complications, but it felt like a traumatic experience.
Try not to think about it, but whatever went well first time is worth trying to replicate. e.g. I had a female friend to help 1st time and wish I'd had a friend 2nd time. The midwife told me exactly what to do during the pushing stage the 1st time around, the 2nd time I was asking for guidance, but they just told me I was fine and to carry on as I was.
3rd time lucky eh?

Fear is imagining, terror is knowing. I was absolutely petrified the second time. The first was horrendous. The second was lovely.

Most second births are easier than first.

I was less anxious. Had a pretty tough labour for the first - went on for days. So I just thought positively from the start of the second pg how I wanted this labour/ birth to be, and how I would be calm and try to enjoy it. Ultimately it still bloomin well hurt but it was much better. I am sure that was because my body knew what it was doing, and I knew what to expect ( pretty much), but I am sure positive thinking/ attitude played a big part. I didn't do the whole hypno-birthing thing, just prepared mentally.

Fwiw for everything else that hurts ( or might) I'm the first to the neurofen!

I had a pph after because the placenta went a bit "ragged" due to fast delivery big baby/small mum frame/ and hard pushing, ALSO they didnt give me the placenta jab to help speed it up.

so hope that doesnt happen again. other than that i still class it as a brilliant birth. 2hrs ish

I was more worried 2nd time round. I think that I was more concerned about it working out timing wise with getting someone over to look after DS1, and that the birth would fit round him basically. And as it turned out it worked perfectly, all in a day's work at home and DS1 was completely nonplussed by the arrival of a new baby in the living room while he was upstairs playing with his grandma. And as a bonus the birth was much quicker and easier too.
Now third time round, let's see how that pans out...
Good luck!