22 weeks pregnant with number 2 and..........................................

[Mandymoo]

Now i'm panicking about how i will cope with having 2 children!

Also, i know i'm having a boy this time (already have dd) and am anxious about how to deal with boys as obviuosly all i've been used to is girls. I know i'm being silly but can someone please reassure me that i will be able to cope!

TIA X

Well, I can certainly reassure you that baby boys are a piece of cake if you look out for the uncontrollable little hosepipe at nappy changes

Other than that though...

Yes, you'll cope. I had similar wobbles at around the same time. I'm due in just under two weeks and can't wait now!

I have a DS already and don't know what I'm having this time - the idea of a girl intrigues me, but I already know boys are fab so I really don't mind! I'm expecting DS to watch more TV than he does atm for a few weeks

I think thats the "problem" - i dont know what to expect from a boy and it'll be like being a first time mum again iyswim - AND I MEAN ABSOLUTELY NO OFFENCE TO THE MUMS AND DADS OF LITTLE BOYS!!!!

Hunker - can you please list me some positives about having a boy - i'm excited about having one of each but nervous at how i'll cope with a boy!

It won't to begin with, MM - the only difference will be at nappy time - newborns eat, sleep and poo regardless of whether they're boys or girls.

By the time the gender differences come into play (and since DS is Fifi Flowertot mad, I'm not sure that happens all that soon ), you'll be very used to having a girl and a boy.

I had similar feelings before ds was born (already had 3yo dd) but honestly you won't bat an eyelid once he is born. They're pretty much the same when tiny anyway (apart from the hosepipe it!)

You won't worry he'll come home pregnant when he's 15

Boys don't have so many "foldy bits" for poo to get in

How old is your dd?

hunker
I have two dd's but I have 6 nephews and 7 nieces and having watched them all grow up I would say that there are more differences within the sexes than between them
especially when they are tiny
as hunker says boys are generally a lot less trouble when they are teenagers
try to relax and don't worry
I am seven weeks into looking after two and it's a doddle

Roobie - my dd is 3 and will be almost 31/2 when her brother arrives.

Don't worry about the girl/boy thing -I had a DD followed by DS and was a bit unsure about what to expect but to be quite honest its not really crossed my mind since he was born (hes now 18m).
To begin with they are just (although "just" seems the wrong word but I'm sure YKWIM) your dear, special baby , you don't see them as a girl or boy as such. Then they develop their character/personality and its this you respond to, not whether they're a girl or boy. (I'm not sure I'm explaining myself clearly here -too much champagne and not enough sleep last night )
As for the coping with 2 it just happens somehow, you adapt to meet their needs. Just don't have any firm ideas of dos/don'ts as you'll only be disappointed if it doesn't happen that way !

My dd turned 3 just after ds was born (he's now 8 months) - it's been a piece of cake honestly. Nice age gap.

Hornbag - thanks for your insightful reply - i know I will find my own way, i'm just having a panicky 5 mins i guess!!!

Mandymoo we may be near to one another. I am due my second child on 9th May so am almost 22 weeks. My daughter is 3 and will be 31/2 in the June after this one is born.

mandy moo as soon as baby is born you will cope. I had all the same fears although was convinced I was having DS2 turned out to be DD. I now have a 2 yr old and a 2wk old and you just do cope. Things have actually been easier so far [still relatively new I know] but for me with Ds the first few weeks were the biggest shock. This time there is none of the shock and all of the pleasure.

Boys are wonderful. They are so plain and straightforward (simple!) in their love. I was told this afternoon that I was the best mummy in the world. We were just driving along the M25 noone was talking, and then ds1 just came out with it.

Mandymoo - You sound just like me but i have my kids the other way round, i have a ds who will be 3.4 when this baby arrives, have been told this is a girl but really don't know what to expect!

I am sure it will all be ok once baby arrives but i have also been worrying how i am going to cope with 2 kids i suppose routine would be a start

helsi - i'm due 7th May and DD will be 4 yrs in Dec 2006. Am i being pathetic feeling like this or is it normal? I've just read my thread back and it comes across as though i'm disappointed about the fact that i'm having a boy which is just not the case at all - its just the 2 children instead of one thing and the fact that i've spent the last 3 years doing "pink" things iyswim!!

we are very close then Mandymoo as my dh is 4 in December 2006 too! My original date for this baby was 7th May but they moved it to 9th

helsi - dd's is 7th December!! Spooky!! JUst read your posting on the other thread - congrats!!

my dd is 17th december - well spooky!

helsi - just re read your message - "your dh will be 4"????!!!

oops - yeah my mistake!!

hi mandymoo I'm due no 2 in well less than 2 weeks DD1 is 17 mo and this will be DD2, atm I would say I am utterly shitting myself (excuse language) about how I'm going to cope with 2. DD1 is my baby we are so close I cannot imagine loving another baby like I do her. She takes up all my time so how am I going to have time for another one? Will I resent DD2? I suppose it will all work itself out and it's the hormones making me feel like this?

I will let you know.