Hello, is anyone else a bit scared by all this..

[cravingyorkiebar]

Hi,
I'm 20 weeks pregnant with my first baby and a bit shy on how to word this but I wondered if anyone else feels the same as me or has felt like this and got through it:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1333954--to-ask-for-help-here-as-Im-scared-of-the-pregnancy-forum

I posted this yesterday on the AIBU thread who were lovely and I decided to stop lurking on the pregnancy forum and come and say hi.

x

Hello! I can't link to your thread but just wanted to say hello! I lurked a bit on the pregnancy boards but then joined a thread for people due the sane month as me and a support thread for hyperemesis which I suffered with horribly at the start of my pregnancy. Both threads have been brilliant! Congratulations on your pregnancy! When are you due?

Thanks, I'm due end of March. Scan this afternoon so very long morning! When are you due?

hia, just joined today, and just read your thread, im still nervous as anythink as you get told everythink is fine but your still not sure as its well my 1st pregnancey, but i'm finding that if i listion to my gut instinct i feel better, im due 10/1/12 and this stage is a massive shock to my body, but unlike everyone else ive spoken to im sleeping better than ever, x

Hi craving! Its perfectly normal to be scared. Most of us are. I am 13 weeks pregnant with second baby. I found that being completely clued up about the process really helps. It sounds like you are. As does breathing exercises so that you can concentrate on that when you are in labour. Everyone deals with pain differently. I was lucky and found the birth of DC1 nowhere near as bad as I thought it would be. I think you picture the worst case scenario from all the horror stories you hear about. And if all else fails there are plenty of pain relief options. I just had gas and air but friends of mine swear by epidurals. You will come out the other end exhausted but unbelievably happy so hang in there and try to concentrate on the positives.

Hi,

I am almost 15 weeks pregnant and have alreadt skipped to the back chapter of my pregnancy books and it sounds scary. I have been told my friends and family the best thing to do is to be prepared as possible but then in another breath told not to plan to much as babies come when babies are want to.

YM1 xxx

I was absolutely terrified of giving birth too. I think what kept me together was actually the fact I was in complete denial that I'd ever actually have a baby. Stupid I know!

When I went to my antenatal classes at the hospital I very nearly fainted when we talked about the birthing process. I mean I obviously new it was going to happen but I hadn't envisaged it before then.

TBQH I think I spent the whole time in denial and never really prepared myself. I had an idea of what I wanted but didn't want to make set plans because I knew i'd find it stressful if it went differently.

In the end I had a very long labour. It was 68 hours of regular contractions starting at 10 minutes apart. It was exhausting and very painful but I knew it wasn't going to kill me. I ended up being allowed to stay in hospital when I got to 7cm and only ended up having a couple of hours of gas and air. I was quite surprised by how I coped and that I didn't have much pain relief.

My mum is also the most squeamish person I have ever met and she managed to give birth to my sister and me (we're twins) vaginally.

If we can both do it, I'm sure you can too. But if it really is a serious fear and you can't come to terms with it, maybe you could consider talking to your mw about an elective cs. It's by no means an easy option but you may find that it's right for you.

Good luck with whatever you choose.

Sorry for spelling mistakes!