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having a boy...

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kiki22 · 29/10/2011 20:01

I'm having a boy and over the moon about it due in 12 weeks the only thing is i've never taken care of a boy before plenty experiance with girls but none with boys. Does anyone have an tips/advice on the practical parts of having a boy?? i know nappys are a different story with boys but thats about it...

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LilRedWG · 29/10/2011 21:24

I agree that boys are more cuddly than girls. I love little boys. :)

latrucha · 29/10/2011 21:27

I feel slightly concerned that DS (15 months) is now leaving his penis alone, after having been delighted with it at 6 months. Does he have poor concentration?

Nappies are not as tricky as I thought they might be. You have to lift up the willy to clean underneath it and point it down whe you put the nappy on.

I have a girl and my second is a boy. It's fab. Congratulations.

IMO people talk alot of crap about girls and boys, even though mine fall neatly and precisely into every single stereotype.

kumquatsarethelonelyfruit · 29/10/2011 21:27

Boys are great and they adore their mums.

MatchsticksForMyEyes · 29/10/2011 21:29

DS is a child of extremes. He is either smiley and cuddly or he is literally banging his head against the wall in frustration because I have not let him knock the kitchen bin over or something. DD would have tantrums at his age (17mo), but not half as violent as his are.
It is a bit of a stereotype, but he is lots more affectionate than DD was. She didn't really start to cuddle us until she was about 2.5.

Iggly · 29/10/2011 21:30

Please don't get too fixated on the boy/girl thing!

DS is lovely - nice nature, loves his trucks also likes making cups of tea at bath time. He also plays with his bits when naked - I think the tugging is supposed to be good for stretching...!! The only thing to worry about is the willy in the nappy - we have had a few wet patches from incorrect placement

lollystix · 29/10/2011 21:34

Willy down in the nappies - especially important for new borns. We also check the mouse is in the house after wee wees. (I have 4 of them).

plupervert · 29/10/2011 21:36

My boy is a surprisingly appealing mixture of energy (sometimes aggression) and vulnerability.

The "lack of choice" in clothes is surely a good thing. Why get attached to something he's going to grow out of in four weeks?!

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kiki22 · 29/10/2011 21:37

Thank you :) i'm just going to let him be him its more the practicalities i've been wondering about nappys willy fiddling and erections well noted!

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smilesy · 29/10/2011 21:37

I have 3 ds aged 16, 14 and 1! i agree about the erections from birth thing and the willy obsession - it doesn't go away! Boys are cuddly when little and relatively straightforward as they get older. They fall out, may have a brief scuffle and then forget all about it and are friends again. the Thomas thing only happened with DS1 (although it did happen in a big way) as DS2 followed big brother straight on to the power rangers stage. Am waiting to see what happens with DS3!

WiiUndead · 29/10/2011 21:39

Congratulations OP, I have 1 DS & he is fabulous, I can't imagine having a girl now! H&M is pretty good for boys stuff [hsmile]

MigratingCoconuts · 29/10/2011 21:39

move everything out of reach

mamalovebird · 29/10/2011 21:46

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SausageSmuggler · 29/10/2011 22:39

Oh yes erections from birth! I knew about it before DS was born but DH didn't and spent ages telling everyone he was so shocked. All I will say is yes tuck it down but if they have a hard on do be careful.

Yes to the cuddles thing too in the last few weeks he has become so affectionate (he's just turned 1) it's lovely when he clambers onto my lap and gives me a massive hug while going 'ahhh'. We always say that to him so I think he thinks it's mandatory.

Also I work in a primary school and have to say I much prefer working with the boys than the girls they're just so much fun.

PamBeesly · 29/10/2011 22:46

I'm so happy I'm having a little boy! I have no idea though OP this is my first baby and I really haven't a clue about care of a newborn. My mother is moving in for a week, maybe two to help us.

DiscoDaisy · 29/10/2011 22:47

I have 3 girls followed by 2 boys. Think of the typical boy stereotype and that is one of my boys. He needs lots of exercise and fresh air. If it's not football related then he doesn't want to know and I refuse to spend over £5 on any pair of trousers as after going out to play for a day whatever trousers he is wearing will be wrecked! On the other hand I get far more cuddles from my 2 little boys and they worry about me far more than my girls do! (my boys are 8 and 7).
My boys physically tire me whereas my girls mentally tire me!

KnitterNotTwitter · 29/10/2011 22:53

DS found his willy with his right hand first and then a few weeks later with his left. I clearly remember the look on his face of 'wow I have two of them'... replaced by a realisation a few weeks later that there, sadly, was only one willy.

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kiki22 · 30/10/2011 11:20

thanks all :) i'm so excited to have a boy i always thought i'd have a girl as my family are all girls so happy i'm getting a different experience even tho i would have been happy with either i'm now thinking i'm glad he's a boy rather than another girl!

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Mum2be79 · 30/10/2011 11:31

I find this thread very funny!

I'm team yellow, 31 weeks pregnant today, but I am convinced it's a boy. It's not a preference (I actually loved the idea of having a girl before falling pregnant - it was the clothes choice that swayed me!) but once I had the 20 week scan, it just didn't matter any more.

Friends and colleagues who have both genders have all said that they have found boys easier to bring up than girls. They found boys let go of the tantrums easily, are far more affectionate and tend not to fall out as easily with their peers. Whereas girls have prolonged tantrums, are more materialistic (clothes, make-up etc), have major wars with their peers (which cause an almost pre-teen and teen meltdown to the extent of depression!?!) and are lippy!

I think I prefer a boy! Lol! xx

harassedandherbug · 30/10/2011 11:56

My boys are 22 & 20 now, but ds3 is due 22 Dec. I also have a 5yr old dd. I've found my boys more laid back, although that may be rose tinted specs after all this time!

Boys eat. Lots. I swear the only reason I went back to work after ds2 was to feed the pair of them! And you'll spend much of your life on the side of a footie/rugby/cricket pitch...... Dance classes are much warmer, and a major girl benefit so far!!

They're just different, but all a huge amount of fun [hgrin].

feelingratheroverwhelmed · 30/10/2011 13:01

I've just had my second boy, and although I really didn't mind what I had, I was slightly relieved to have another DS as I know where I am with boys!

I think I have a very stereotypical boy in DS1 (who's 2). He is very physical. very boisterous and completely needs to be worn out from morning till night. He loves trains and cars (though we haven't really encouraged this), climbing, jumping, has no sense or fear, and is very loving. He also eats like a horse.
I did have to buy him a baby stroller to push as he kept stealing little girls prams in the park!

But, most of the babies and children I know are boys and they are all very different with unique personalities. I have one of the most "boyish" boys.

I'm not looking forward to the sunday mornings I'm going to have to spend on the side of a field, but then I also hate the idea of having to stop a stroppy 9 year old from demanding they have their ears pierced and wear make up, so it's swings and roundabouts I suppose.

And, although it is annoying that the selection of boys clothes is much smaller than those for girls, I really don't like pink and frilly at all. Yes there are more girls clothes, but they are just mini versions of womans clothes that are actually not that nice and a bit inappropriate at times. I agree that H&M is a great place to buy stuff. Cheap and cool, what more can you want?!

OP, you will love it!

blueskydrinking · 30/10/2011 21:36

I was a bit about having a boy but I'm another one who LOVES it and would be very happy to have two of them when this one comes along!

SIL warned me about the erections, so no surprises there!

DH informed me that I didn't have to be so quite so careful when I was dabbing at DS's tiny newborn balls (completely ineffectively) with cotton wool - they're not quite as delicate as we're led to believe

I've never found a problem with boys clothes - I'm not a big fan of pink; think I'm a bit of a tomboy at heart.

Definitely check that his willy is pointing down in the nappy and I'm a big believer in vests with poppers - even now, while DS isn't potty training yet it's the only way to keep nappy up and hands out!!

Congratulations :)

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BreeVanDerTramp · 30/10/2011 21:47

Congratulations!

They are great company, you always be one your toes and be prepared to grow an extra pair of eyes.

I like boys clothes, DS has no silly slogan t-shirts and always looks super cool in little Levis and hoodies or cords and jumpers. If left to their own devices will wear shorts and wellies every day of the year!

Bum, fart, tadger, etc will become his favourite words and always used at the most inappropriate occasions.

Will run you ragged as someone said from son up to son down but that big kiss and 'I love you Mummy' at the end of the day makes it all worth while.

I have 2 DS and pregnant with 3rd DC, so mabye posting similar on advice for girls if I am not going for the hatrick of boys!

Glimmerberry · 30/10/2011 21:48

Just had my first child, a now 8 week old boy, and have learned the hard way that willies must point down!

The boys section is smaller in all the shops. My favourite things he wears are babygrows from boots (some really cute 3packs) and Next. Asda also have a good range of baby boys/ unisex things.

Oeisha · 30/10/2011 21:50

My mum loves telling the story of my 2y/o brother running in to a WI meeting (read lots of "older" women, this being the 70sand my mum being easily shocked, let alone a room full of wrinklies) at our home nakked yelling "mummy I can get it to stand up!" and pointing at his willy...so prepare for that.
From what others have told me, and what I've experienced working with children:

boys are generally easier to wash up/clean up as their bits bulge out, not going in
as they get older, boys are less able to 'self-play' and require more input and constant prompting
they also prefer physical play
they are generally more affectionate for longer, girls develop independence a lot quicker
boys generally don't require as much pink crap stuff, though I had a male friend as a toddler that LOVED pink as much as I did, and cried when his parents wouldn't paint his bedroom pink allover like mine.

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