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Going out when pregnant - Advice pls

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k4mi · 28/10/2011 09:05

Hi all,

I am 27 wks pregnant, still feeling quite active and energetic and luckily for me have so far sailed through pregnancy without too many niggles. My bump is neat and relatively compact...for now!!

I am due to be going to a very close friend's 30th tomorrow, halloween party in a house however later on i would imagine most of the party will leave to go to some bars / a place to dance. I am unsure what to do. I have given my OH permission (lol) to go as it's one of his best friends. The party is near our house but i'm wondering what people's views are on being out in a bar late when at this stage? Obviously i won't be drinking but if i feel energetic enough should i go or will i just get loads of hassle and feel out of place?

The bar i think they will go to has lots of seating etc so i would't have to dance but i guess it could be busy due to halloween.

Advice would be welcomed. I suddenly feel like the odd one out as i can't go out :( we are the first of our friendship group to get pregnant and so i guess i have no wing man!

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MrsCampbellBlack · 28/10/2011 09:06

Of course you can go out - go and have fun.

GuillotinedMaryLacey · 28/10/2011 09:07

Go fgs. Go on behalf of the likes of me who, at 30 weeks can barely make it to the car! Have a great time :)

harassedandherbug · 28/10/2011 09:08

Just see how you feel, no reason why you shouldn't.

Personally though, I hate going out when I'm preg. It's all the drunken idiots (and they're all idiots when you're the sober one ) that bump into me.....

GHAHSTLYGHOULYpants · 28/10/2011 09:10

Oh for sure, go out, I bet you will have a great time, and I don't know about you, but I felt so stylish and sexy whenever I was pregnant.

If you go and you are tired, or it is too crowded you can get your DH to walk you back to your car and go home.

Make sure you drink nice drinks- think VIRGIN mojito, virgin daiquiri, etc.

IssyStark · 28/10/2011 09:14

For heaven's sake, pregnancy is not an illness!

If you feel fine then go for it. As with any time if your life, if you are beginning to flag, make your excuses and leave.

Obviously there are pregnancy complications which are illnesses and need taking care of (SPD, pre-E, GD) but if you aren't suffering from anything, then go out as you normally would and don't plan anything too energetic for the following day.

PotteringAlong · 28/10/2011 09:19

Go! Just don't drink and you can laugh at all the drunk people!

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k4mi · 28/10/2011 09:20

Thanks guys, i will go on behalf of all those who can't ha ha! I am planning to dress up as a (pregnant) black cat so sure it will be a bit of fun!

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harassedandherbug · 28/10/2011 09:31

Make sure you take a camera so you can catch OH and friends at their very "best" ....

Fresh01 · 28/10/2011 09:50

Now is the time to go out when you are feeling well and don't have a baby/child to arrange babysitter for, leaving expressed milk or bottles etc etc, so much easier before the baby is born : )

I am 32 weeks and we have had a run of nights out over the last few weeks, as a lot of big birthdays in our circle at the moment. Make sure you have a snack around tea time as you may not be keen to eat much of the party food depending on what it is/how long it has been sitting around/how late it is being served etc. If you can have a rest the afternoon before you go out, if not plan a quieter day the next day. I always drive and find by 12 I am tired and by 12.30 I just want to get home so we have been going home by then but then this is no 4 for us so we have 3 bright sparks awake between 6.30-7.30am no matter how late we have been out : )

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k4mi · 28/10/2011 10:11

Yes i am usually feeling fine until 12 ish but i will try and hang on a it later tomorrow! Good tip on the party food though. I can relax all day tomorrow and on Sunday so i think a night out should be fine! It will most likely be the last super late one i have in a long long time.

Luckily i will be in fancy dress so no need for heels anyway as they went a long time ago!

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jezebelle · 28/10/2011 10:15

Yes go. I went to a Kooks concert at 37 weeks, i had ds at 38 weeks :)

RubyLovesMayMay · 28/10/2011 10:20

I got married when I was 27 weeks pregnant.

Married at Register Office

Had a meal round at a restaurant the corner

Went home and had a lie down for a couple of hours

Went to MIL's who threw a massive party and was dancing til 3am!

(Did my first dance in Homer Simpson slippers because I couldn't take heels for any longer)

As long as you feel okay and have a sit when you need it. You'll be fine.

RubyLovesMayMay · 28/10/2011 10:31

And this time around Im only 14 weeks today, but I have a wedding to go to tomorrow (work colleauge) from 12pm til late but as its DH's birthday on Wednesday he's arranged for a big night out tomorrow night as well.

So have decided to go to the wedding from 12pm-5/6ish, go home, have a kip, go out for about 10/11pm til prob very late. Will try and eat somewhere in between all that

DH has organised a VIP area in the club we're going to so I'll have somewhere to sit when my new shoes start to hurt me, bless him

Just see what works for you

cjbk1 · 28/10/2011 10:51

Maybe your friends are better than mine but I found going out pg v boring they just wanted to drink and drink (never eat) and go into central london and I did feel frumpy and heavy and just wanted to go home.

Crosshair · 28/10/2011 11:02

I hope so, Im getting married next month at 34 weeks. :o

PessimisticMissPiggy · 28/10/2011 11:08

I 'went out' to crowded bars etc throughout my pregnancy up until the 35 week point. I was enormous too! The trick is to have someone clear a path for you, stare out anyone who looks at you disapprovingly and take your own loo paper. Oh and if you wear heels, make sure you have some flats in your bag!

Hardly anyone passed any comment, there was only one negative comment by an older bloke who told me I should be at home resting in my condition. It upset me but I told him I wanted to make the most of it before baby arrived.

Being active helps get baby into the right position so make sure you put on your dancing shoes!

twogirls1more · 28/10/2011 11:11

I have to agree with cjbk1 on this one! There's absolutely no reason why you shouldn't carry on as normal during a straightforward pregnancy and go out to bars/club etc..(as long as you're not getting hammered!) though think it's all about how you feel in yourself and whether you'd really enjoy it? If you think you still would then go for it! Think alot on here are kinda missing the point though cos not all of us feel like party animals when heavily preg!! I know I didn't in any of my 4 pregnancies and was/is nothing I like more than a good film and a takeaway but each to their own! I'm currently sporting a 47" bump though at 37wks and do tend to carry all my weight out front :(. Whenever have been out have been thoroughly fed up with being pushed around and being surrounded by people who've been drinking!
That all said.. if you do go, have a great time! :)

notcitrus · 28/10/2011 11:15

Enjoy! And take photos of the really drunken people. I went to a rock gig at 30 weeks and then a convention with bars and dancing at 38 weeks, and enjoyed both, though did have to have naps at 38 weeks. Also worth mentioning to a few people that you hope people will come talk to you if you aren't up for the dancing - I was using a wheelchair so really wasn't doing dancing at all but people were great at getting me drinks and coming to chat.

ilianora · 28/10/2011 11:17

See how you feel on the night and dont make any firm plans. you may be shattered by 10pm and want to go to bed! or you may last all night. dont worry about what other people think they were all bumps too at some point!
have fun - and trick or treat!

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 28/10/2011 11:18

It didn't even occur to me that I shouldn't. Is that bad?

Crosshair · 28/10/2011 11:23

''It didn't even occur to me that I shouldn't. Is that bad?''

Didnt cross mine either. :)

GroovyRach · 28/10/2011 11:28

I was out at a bar when I was 39 weeks preg ! It was my sister in law (to be at the time!)'s hen night. We went to a cocktail bar and got to make our own. Great fun!
Enjoy

PlinkertyPlonk · 28/10/2011 11:32

Only one negative comment by an older bloke who told me I should be at home resting in my condition.

Cheeky beggar - I'd have retorted 'Likewise'.

If you're feeling up to it, go for it and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I'm off to see a gig in Paris in a couple of weeks, (will be 20 weeks)...

figgygal · 28/10/2011 12:59

Blimey i am 34 weeks and going to a gig tonight in a very stinky pub (i WILL get a seat even if i have to eject someone from theres) just go for it.

littlemachine · 28/10/2011 15:00

Just go for it - I've been on a few nights out, and found that my friends protect me well enough from people bumping into me. Ask other people to go to the bar for you etc (they'll offer anyway) as that tends to be the most crowded place. Have fun!

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