For mums 2 be after M/C ... PART 4!

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I hope no one minds that I start a new thread ... the other one was getting really long and I didn't want to post on the it about my pregnancy out of respect for Bunny and her sad news ...

Hope Hana, Hewlettsdaughter and anyone else who want to talk find this thread ...

So ... how is everyone??

oh Hana
I really don't know what to say to you. It is good your DH is home. take some time to chat & coem to terms with what is happening.

will the hosp investigate further why this is happening to you?

All I can say is thnking of you.
{{{{{hugs{}}}}}}

Hana, I'm so sorry to hear this, I'll be thinking of you too.

Be kind to yourself

pie xxxx

Dear hana, I was really sorry to hear this . I wish you lots of strength to get through the next week, and to deal with whatever the outcome. Do post, if you think it will help. We'll be thinking of you.

Oh Hana, I am so so sorry. When I had my scans failing to pick up a heartbeat, it felt like someone had ripped my heart out. There isnt really anything I can add to make you feel better and this next week is going to be terribly hard but there is still some hope to hang on to. Please come here for support if the worst has happened. My memories are still very fresh, pls let me know if I can help in any way.

Def have lost the baby, you really do hold onto any glimmer of hope despite knowing what really is happening. You can almost fool yourself into believing what you want to believe. But there is no doubt now.
I am asking for a referal to the Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic, and take it from there. Am feeling so incredibly raw, screening all our calls, hearing people call to ask how I am, can't bear to talk to people about it. Cry if I see women with two kids, or little babies. Did talk to my sister today and she had me laughing - said that Hallmark didn't have a card for this. Made me smile which I'm not doing a lot of.

Everyone says 'but at least you've got dd' but that really doesn't help. Yes, we have her, but we want ANOTHER one. That's what we wanted in June when we lost one at 13 weeks, and a couple of years ago. And what we wanted now. Having our (don't get me wrong - most wonderful and special) dd really doesn't lessen the pain. I know people don't know what to say and think that's a good thing to say. But it isn't. How do people get over this? How do you move on? Please do let me know, I don't know anyone like me, I'm going to be that women that everyone tells their friends about, 'Oh, I know a women who has has 3 m/c etc etc. ' And I know enough now to know that it's no longer down to bad luck and that I'm in 1% of women.
hana

I'm so sorry to hear that you have lost your baby Hana. Sending you my love and best wishes at this really upsetting time. xx

Hana ... I am so sorry to hear your news ... I hope you find some answers ...
I am thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs {{{}}}

Hana, I am so so sorry. My memories are still so fresh and raw, I can identify with what you are saying. I dont know how you move on, I am obsessed with finding out everything I can about m/c, I think even dh is fed up with hearing about it. But I cant just sit and weep, I have to do something. You will get through it as will I. Somewhere you will find inner strength and the pain should lessen (I dont want mine to go, I want to grieve more). I wish I could say something to help but I cant. Take care. Bxx