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People who INSIST your unborn child is a boy/girl . . .

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expatinscotland · 29/11/2005 14:21

We don't know. Not b/c we didn't want to find out, but b/c Lothians NHS will NOT tell you your child's gender and we didn't have £150 laying spare for a private scan.

I'm getting SO sick of an acquaintance of mine fecking insisting it's another girl. Not that I wouldn't mind another girl, but we do not know, ffs!

Yet this woman is constantly 'she' this and 'her' that and even has a ticker that counts down my having a girl 9 days from now - I'm 38 weeks on 4 December and gave birth to DD at 38 weeks+3 so who knows?!

She's driving me fecking mental.

Anyone got any good comebacks?

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expatinscotland · 29/11/2005 14:22

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Enid · 29/11/2005 14:22

god knows

I have two girls and according to everyone it seems I should be ready to drown this one if it is another boring old girl

harpsiheraldangelssing · 29/11/2005 14:24

yes
or possibly leave exposed on a hillside
much old lady disappointment round here when I produced a Substandard Baby of Femake Sex. Again.
"well you'll be trying again then..."
O F off
sorry expat slightly off topic
though F off works too

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expatinscotland · 29/11/2005 14:25

Yes, I should 'try for a boy' if this one is another worthless girl. I ain't 'trying' for anything but a damn Lotto jackpot and to get into my size 10 jeans again. DH wants the snip and he can't get it fast enough. If he didn't want the snip, I'd be flogging every stick I owned to get my tubes tied.

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nailpolish · 29/11/2005 14:26

hi expat

when i worked in the Edinburgh Royal it was well known they dont tell the sex. this is because there was a couple who sued the hospital for telling them their baby was a boy and it turned out to be a girl. they had bought everything in pink! and i think they (the midwives) were very worried about abortions because babies were not the sex the couple hoped for

cant think of a good comeback. i rubbish at that.

apart from "F off" or "shut yer face yer driving me up the wall you stupid bitch"

ps cant believe you are 38 weeks! keep well xx

cupcakesbakingonanopenfire · 29/11/2005 14:28

Some people can't think of anything interesting to say when faced with a pregnant woman so they whittle on about their boring theories concerning the sex.
So tiresome.

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expatinscotland · 29/11/2005 14:29

Well, NP, if I ever find those gits who sued the hospital, I'm going to kick their arses for ruining it for the rest of us. Twats!

Apparently, they no longer tell you in Glasgow, either, b/c of the late abortion potential.

I've had to have FOUR scans, the last one last week. And they didn't go anywhere near the business part, so we have no idea.

We don't care about the sex, we'd just like to be able to call the baby by its name and tell DD 'wee brother' or 'wee sister'. She's all confused.

Still, it gets my dander up when people go on and on that 'you're having a girl/boy' whatever and they're not your doctor or an ultrasonographer.

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hunkermunker · 29/11/2005 14:33

What gets me is the people who assume that because I have a boy already, I'll "be wanting a girl, then".

I always tell them that pink toys scare me.

acnebride · 29/11/2005 14:36

next time she cries merrily 'it's another girl you know' why not shout merrily back 'if it's a boy we'll sue you'

a friend of mine said 'i've asked the spirits and they tell me that it's a girl'
tbh i haven't reminded her of this following ds's birth

handlemecarefully · 29/11/2005 14:38

She just sounds like a well meaning loon expat (she has a ticker for you????) - just ignore her, daft bat.

ninah · 29/11/2005 14:40

my mate insists I'm having a girl and refers to her as Sofia
well yes and no, but don't let it wind you up!

MistleToo · 29/11/2005 14:41

gobble used to get sooooooooooooo peed off with people saying 'oh you'll be hoping for a girls then this time' when she had ds3.

I can't understand it myself - people are only being interested - take a chill pill I say

(not you expat - yours is a bit different if someone keeps referring to your bump as she - I can see that would irritate)

fruitful · 29/11/2005 14:44

Ask her how much she paid for her ultrasonic eyes?

Tell her she should market her patented gender-revealing secret cos loads of people would pay for it

Open your eyes wide and get all excited and say "wow, how do you know? oh, oh, oh, what colour eyes has it got?"

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expatinscotland · 29/11/2005 14:45

We just call it 'BK' for baby + our surname. Even DD calls it 'BK'.

What I want is a safe delivery for both of us and then to enjoy having my body back.

K, I'd like a Lotto jackpot, too, but all things aside . . .

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xmasspub · 29/11/2005 15:26

Expat - look at her in deadly seriousness, lower your voice and say, "You know that this baby might be a result of my latest alien abduction so frankly we're not too worried about the sex. We just hope that it's human......."

This is not meant to be in any way offensive to you or infer that your beautiful child could be anything but however it's a suggestion from the Eddie Izzard school of meeting slightly deranged people on theor own terms and then going a bit further and freaking them out!

Mercy · 29/11/2005 16:06

I get really fed up with people who try to predict the sex of your baby by the shape and/or size of your bump. And they all come with different versions, e.g."you're carrying high, it must be a boy" and then "you're carrying high, it must be a girl" and vice versa. Grrrrrrr

Mercy · 29/11/2005 16:08

Sorry, meant low bump = boy, low bump = girl. Oh you know what I mean !

sweetkitty · 29/11/2005 16:44

When I got pregnant with DD I was about 90% convinced she was a girl. But prior to the scan you get all the bump shape theories. The worst one was my mum who was convinced from my shape and the amount of weight I put on that it was a boy. We had a scan and yes she was a girl.

This time have had a near identical pregnancy feeling sick bump shape etc yes and I get the "you'll be wanting a boy then?" erm no I want a baby. Was about 60/40% towards a girl this time. We did pay for a private scan just because we are so nosy and wanted to find out. We are having another girl and are delighted. Of course we've had the "I suppose 2 girls will be nice too" and from my mother "I'm not bothered as I know you will try for no 3" so I'm only "allowed" to have another baby to try for a precious boy.

Why can't people understand that there are actually people out there who are happy having same sex children and you may want 3 children for the sake of having 3 children only.

I totally sympathise it's the same if you say "we know it's a girl" people say "what if it's a boy" erm we'll send it back!!!

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expatinscotland · 29/11/2005 16:51

How sad, SK! I used to think I was never going to get the chance to have kids at all after my divorce and going out w/a string of losers. I was so jealous of people who had kids - no matter what their sex. I can't imagine preferring one sex over another, or caring. So many can't have kids at all.

It took us 6 months to conceive this baby - and months to conceive DD, too. There's that little disappointment every month, when it doesn't happen and all you want is just a baby - boy or girl.

We're not having any more than 3. We've both made that abundantly clear, so we don't get those 'well, you can try again' comments.

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sweetkitty · 29/11/2005 16:58

I get very defensive for DD2 even though she's not born yet, I refuse to say we are having ANOTHER girl but say we are having a little girl. She's just not another girl she's a unique little special person in her own right.

I have a friend who lost a baby at 3 days old and having been through that with her any child boy/girl is an absolute blessing.

SackAche · 29/11/2005 17:00

Oh GOD Expat! I do this to my friends all the time! And they did it to me too.... never really thought about it as irritating!

gingerbear · 29/11/2005 17:12

If people asked me if I was having a boy or a girl, I often replied

Well, I am secretly hoping for a giraffe, because they can walk within a few hours of birth and are able to flee when faced with predators......

or something along those lines.

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expatinscotland · 29/11/2005 22:02

It's irritating as all f*ck, SackAche, especially when they think of a pet name for it that's utterly stupid and call your baby that. The midwives at least call it 'junior' or 'little one' or 'baby' since you don't know the gender.

I've tried to tell it we call it BK, but she just insists on calling 'her' Eunice.

I'm gonna LMAO if it's a boy.

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Frostythesurfmum · 29/11/2005 22:06

My MIL is a medium and kept telling me that I was having a boy. If we talked about girls names, she would just laugh and say quite categorically "but you're having a boy". Totally, totally convinced she was.

The only comeback I had was rather final really when I gave birth to a girl .

jacqueline1 · 29/11/2005 22:34

'Anyone got any good comebacks?'

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