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husband wont help with names

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myhouseWILLbecleanthisyear · 09/07/2011 10:56

Hi,

I dont often post on here, but I am looking for some mumsnet honesty.

Im 30 weeks pregnant today with DC3 and having real trouble with finding a name both me and DH like. We had a 4D scan at 25 weeks and found out it was a girl. We had a boys name sorted (DH's choice), but not a girls. Anyway now its a girl we need to start again and DH is being no help whatsoever.

I want to give her a name as to me she's a real person and I want to start calling her by her name so we can start thinking of her as a person and not just a baby. So I have been looking and thinking of girls names. I have made a few suggestions to DH and he either makes a no-way type of comment or just grunts. Ive told him to come up with a name and all he says is that he doesnt like any girls names so wont be able to come up with anything and Ive got to choose.

So the other day I thought of a first name and middle name and he didnt whinge, so Ive decided that the name I had chosen was going to be the baby's name. Now he's saying its horrible. What do I do? He wont think of a name, Ive been telling him to think of something and he wont even consider anything.

First of all am I being silly? Im 30 weeks so potentially could have another 12 weeks to go, as DH says plenty of time to start thinking of a name. However, I cant help getting upset at DH for not helping me come up with a name and I really want one now. He tells me to choose and everything I do isnt good enough What do I do?

Thanks.

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MackerelOfFact · 11/07/2011 09:18

You are being a little unreasonable needing to have a name picked out by some arbitrary point in the pregnancy. The baby doesn't need a name until you register it, so why should your DH settle for something at this stage which he doesn't necessarily like? There is no hurry, you're still 30wks pregnant. There is time to find something you both like.

Go to the baby names section on MN, list the names you like and the reasons DH doesn't like them and we'll try and help you think of some alternatives, if you want. It is stressfull but you're imposing unnecessary stress on yourself by getting worked up about this. :)

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KateeTheBump · 11/07/2011 09:57

Its the other way around in our house, DP is in every baby names book and on the internet looking for names, I've been fairly proactive in the early weeks and am now fed up of it all and want just to wait until near the end to draw up a short list. We got the girl names sorted, its the boy names that are a problem. We don't know what will actually suit the baby when its born, so would rather not saddle it with something that will define him/her before then!

OP, I would suggest you draw up a shortlist, of say 10 names in the next few weeks and then put them to your DH - if you keep going on about it you will most likely piss him off and make him more stubborn!