You're big, aren't you?

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Aaaargh ffs I know this has been done to death but I am really SICK of people saying "you're big aren't you." A man - a stranger has just come to clean my oven. The conversation goes along the lines of pleasantries then launches straight in there with " when are you due?" "9 weeks i tell him." "oh, you're big, you look ready now". " oh, that's not really what I want to hear".
A lady in my office said the same to me yesterday. even my sister in law said "wow! it's been so long since we saw you. and we are so used to you being so tiny..."
I am so fed up it's making me a bit sad. I have already gained 3 stone so not been the most careful but my size 12 mat wear fits so I didn' t think I was doing too badly. I was MUCH bigger by now with DS1 and nobody said anything. Please cheer me up or tell me something clever to say that doesn't make me sound like I am totally defensive. I really do want to go and have a little cry

at ALovely Bunch . . . That's just a whole new level of personal!

alovelybunch Now even I think that is going too far!!!

lol i'm measuring large for dates and being told my bump is hge but my midwife has accused me of staving myself... go figure.

I hate these comments but I think my bump is mainly so prominent as i am just over 5ft 2 and was originally a size 10/12.

starving

at ALovelyBunch!!! How very rude!
What did you say back to that one?!

upahill not to worry, i'm queen of not wording things well!

I'll cut and paste a conversation I had in Tesco's a while back if I can find it. Will make you all feel better! In the meantime about a week ago (I am 36+5) someone said 'surely they won't let you go much longer - I mean, you're huge!' Which was nice. A mum at school, I only know her to smile and say 'Hi' to!

Tbh I think a lot of the time people are just searching for something to say - with DD I quite often got told my bump was big and small in the same day. People are just being polite, it's a generic weather-type comment.

If it makes you feel any better, this time round my bump is tiny so I've only got "Gosh, aren't you small/neat" comments. I've already been sent for a growth scan to check baby was okay and tbh it just makes me want to cry because I'm terrified something is wrong with my baby :(

I posted this on June 19th, so I was then 34+2:

And yesterday I had a funny (oh, hilarious) conversation in Tesco's. You know, the sort where you just think 'shut up, shut up now'? It went like this:

Me:
Cashier: Oh, how lovely, twins!
Me:

Meanwhile, dh is back, almost incoherent with mirth, ds is utterly bemused and I'm about to spontaneously combust. Everyone between aisles 12 & 15 is looking at me and my bump, assessing whether they think I'm due in 6 weeks or not, assessing shape and height OR pissing themselves laughing!

Buttonmoon

My reply to vagina lady was just a few erms and then I just said well it coped ok with DD. I was caught so offguard I couldn't think of anything quick witted or snippy. I should have retorted asking if she'd like to check if my vagina was durable enough for such a feat.

It is so depressing though. Family and friends do it as well and think they can get away with it just becauser they know me but it's even worse when it's a stranger.

I've noticed the comments much more this time round...some people look visibly shocked when I tell them I'm 26 weeks pregnant, and if another person ask me if "I'm sure that there's only one in there", I may run screaming down the street.....
But in all honesty, I love being pregnant, and I don't give a rats arse what anyone else thinks about my size!
Incidentally, my midwife thinks that I may need a growth scan later on, as my DD was born weighing 6lb 7ozs, which appears to be unacceptable. My size was never an issue when pg with DD, so maybe I carry alot of fluid (or eat too many Magnums/cake????)

Daiso I got the hello fatty comment off someone the other day its really rude nearly told her to f off lol. Or say im not fat Im pregnanttttttt

This thread is making me smile

Yesterday in the supermarket the checkout woman asked me when I was due, I replied 'the 3rd September' and she then said 'oh you'll be early though won't you?' Eh?

All my work colleagues keep banging on about what a massive baby I am going to have. This is my first and I am starting to get a bit worried to be honest!

Oh god yes. If one more person mentions the twin thing (you know they can hide on scans!) I will brain them.

A woman who'd been off work for a week came back, looked at my belly and said, "wow, you've bloomed..." with raised eyebrows! I'm NOT LYING about my due date!

Everyone says that to me MissusCT - they tell me about someone who knew someone who knew someone who had a surprise twin. Then they eventually let on that it was either pre-scan days or early scan days. Which is helpful

I wouldn't care but I'm classed as high risk because DS was only 5lb 1 at birth, so I've had extra scans on top of the 12 and 20 week ones.

I can understand a twin hiding in one scan, but 5?!

Have so far had 5 scans with 2 more to go, and also get the "are you sure it's only one?!" comments on regular basis. Yes, unless my baby is pregnant then we shall see....!

I thought my bump was looking a little small today - and usually does with loose fitting tops. But then saw my mum who practically jumped backwards saying "Wow you are HUGE today!" Thanks mum, you know how to perk a girl right up...

To be honest, the comments I can handle, it's just the constant flow that I get them that gets me down. Also saw my nan today - word of advice, if you are having a larger day, it's not wise to visit an elderly relative with Altzheimers.... 'Oh darlin' you look soooo big, have you got long to go? Do you know what you are having? You must be really struggling with that thing..... Oh darlin' you look so big...' etc. I managed a full 2 hours of this. But bless her she is a lovely woman and I love her to bits.

ALovelyBunch and Buttonmoon - , exactly why I refuse to go to the supermarket from 30 weeks onwards, thank goodness for online shopping and DP days off!!!

Super annoying! Drove me nuts. So rude, I'd never dream of passing comment on someone's bump .

I am so glad you ladies are getting annoyed aswell.
I am 32 weeks, with my 3rd in 3 years. So I went big straight away.
At work I get called fatty, which makes me paranoid, cause my hips have gone massive aswell as by bump.
When people ask, they always say 'are you sure its not twins' or 'your low arnt you'.
I know it's just conversation for most people. And people that have had kids are all 'experts'.
But i'm feeling it this time around, and feel quite upset when I get home and look in the mirror.
A few friends are due about about 5 weeks ahead of me, and im a lot bigger.

NatzCNL Its my job to work with people with alzheimers all day! I'm a carer and get the "Wow, not long to go now..." etc all day and I have to answer every time like they've only asked the once!

Dear knobhead in the fruit&veg section of Tesco,

Screaming at the top of your lungs for someone to "get a bucket, this one's waters are gonna go!!" is not funny, is not clever, and you should be fucking thankful that I can't break my waters at will because if I could, I would have broken them all over those lovely shiny obviously-new-and-very-expensive leather loafers you're sporting. Be thankful that I restrained myself from throwing my pineapple at your face.

Seriously, when is that ever ok?! I've never been so embarrassed in my life. Same with this one checkout woman - she's refusing point-blank to notice my death-stares and comments on my bump every single day.

"God, haven't you dropped yet?! How long left?"
"I actually have, I just missed the attention I got so I decided to stick a few watermelons up my vag. And my due date has been exactly the same for the last three weeks that you've asked, how is it you still can't figure out the date?!"

Some people just make me want to slap them...

Now I feel better about going shopping with my almost-3yo in tow - clearly it gives all the thoughtless twats something else to comment on

No one has really said much to me this time, or last time come to think of it. I must have one of those faces But my stepmum has twice deemed it appropriate to say 'You're not as fat as you were last time, Star'. I am a size 12 normally, was a size 12 throughout my last pregnancy and aside from the bump am probably now a size 10 at nearly 37 weeks.

My stepmum is a size 22, btw, which I would never comment on. To her face.

This thread is making me laugh and also a bit anxious of things to come - I can be a real b at the best of times and will not have patience with snarky comments while pregnant ;)

However, so far have had mostly "you're so small" comments, which I am ok with after the MW said I am actually spot on for dates...

I cannot believe that idiot in Tesco MummyTigger OMG I would have ripped into him!

My friend (who is same week as me) asked me lately if I am annoyed by the random people touching my belly in queues or on the bus - hasn't happened to me once - I must send out "keep away" vibes pretty well [hgrin]

Had the "twins" question today ... Luckily for the silly mare I was in a relatively good mood ...

I was boarding the plane to go and see my husband when I was 15 weeks.
Was putting my bag in the overhead compartment and this woman oppisite me was eying up my bump took her glasses off and said.
"good god your not going to have it on the plane are you"

Everyone started looking at me
me "hopefully not" laughing nervously
she replied
"well how many weeks are you"
"15" that will shut her up I thought
"not got your dates wrong then"
"dont think so"
Never meantioned it again till the end of the plane journey plane landed stood up then got a bit squashed with everyone pushing past to get there bag so moved into the seat in front and sat on a bottle of ribena which went over my white trousers. Woman now behind me as jump up
"what happened"
"sat on a bottle of ribena"
"so its not your waters breaking then" lol that made me laugh!!