Hello!
I've only just become a member... I've been looking on the net if I could get a bit of support as I feel so down in the dumps at the mo...
About 10 days ago, I found out I was pregnant with our second child. We wanted another baby and because of my age, we were thinking it's now or never. I suffered a miscarriage about 18 months ago, I needed a D&C and they discovered a huge fibroid at the time. It was decided to remove this fibroid so as to increase my chances for a future healthy pregnancy. The op went better than expected as my uterus cavity didn't need to be opened and I was told to wait 6 months before trying to conceive again. As it happens, I am now pregnant 15 months after the op, so it all had time to heal well.
I had my first appointment today with the consultant. He got me so upset, I cried for 2 hours afterwards... He basically told me, that because of my age, my weight (BMI is 32) and my op, it was high risk and therefore the hospital I am supposed to have the baby is unlikely to accept me! He also asked whether I realised how increased the risk was that I would give birth to a baby with Down's syndrome... He basically made me feel awful and like a complete idiot for wanting another child. I am fit and healthy and I know that my op I had 15 months ago is not really a problem anymore (only problem is, that I should consider a c-section rather than a natural birth). I realise I am not the youngest and that I carry extra weight, however at a size 16, I find it hard to believe that I am the biggest mum out there?
I have asked to see another consultant as suggested by my midwife who was herself quite myffed by the doctor's comments. I feel so stressed about it all and just so worried now.