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partners drinking breastmilk????? is this normal?

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babybumpx · 16/06/2011 22:26

Ok....I am a little concerned as my partner wants to drink my breastmilk during sex, I am 30 weeks pregnant and i'm worried that he will take the vital nutrients away, not forgetting the weirdness factor or am i just being a prude?

Please be kind and sensitive :)

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babybumpx · 17/06/2011 19:55

BAGOFHOLLY - I NEVER QOUTED THE NHS...MAYBE YOU SHOULD READ IT PROPERLY, NOT ME

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Ivortheengine8 · 17/06/2011 20:00

Would it not mke them sore though too?

welliesandpyjamas · 17/06/2011 20:04

fellationelson I started leaking milk at 25 weeks with ds1 (in the middle of a meeting wearing a white blouseGrin) and earlier with ds2.

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babybumpx · 17/06/2011 20:05

The benefits of breastfeeding were qouted in reply to duckdodgers message "drinking breastmilk is weird" so it was relevant to her.

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G1nger · 17/06/2011 20:12

Personally, if my partner asked me, I'd sooner he didn't. We'll both try a drop, of course, but we won't be having it on any kind of scale during sex!

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babybumpx · 17/06/2011 20:16

Your braver than me G1inger....i've not tried it..not sure why I cant but I just cant bring myself to, silly I know as its come from me....?

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G1nger · 17/06/2011 20:30

babybumpx - I just like trying new milks :) I've gone about as far as I can with cow/buffalo milk and sheep/goat cheese... A friend was similarly freaked out at the thought of drinking hers as you are. I'm not sure why, but maybe I'll understand myself in a few months...

BagofHolly · 17/06/2011 20:34

You said "they give breastmilk to cancer patients".

In my post of 16:27:18
I said "they" whoever they might be, and I'm assuming NHS Cancer Services, most certainly do NOT give it to cancer patients."

And then in your post of 18:58:23
you said/shouted
" BAGOFHOLLY - yes "they" do give it to cancer patients.

breastfeedingmums.typepad.com/breastfeedingmums_blog/2009/05/fighting-cancer-with-daughters-breast-milk.html"

and putting "they" in quotes in the same way I had done, thus showing that you were referring to the NHS as well. Otherwise you would have surely said "no Holly, not the NHS, some other group." Or words to that effect. But instead you posted a link to a blog about a totally non NHS and very odd relationship between father and daughter. There are no proven benefits whatsoever in cancer patients having breastmilk, and if you were to google all the substances which have been attributed to cancer cure/improvement, it would surely run into the thousands, most of which would be tosh.

And when you post in capitals it looks like you're shouting. Do you mean to be so rude?

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babybumpx · 17/06/2011 21:01

I was taken back by how your attitude came across on in your original message, so yes I was rather sensitive.

Why do these message boards have to get so out of hand, like I have said on two occasions now, that message was directed at someone who said "an adult drinking breastmilk in any shape or form is weird" my defense to that was "hold on a minute, no its not and if anything is its cows milk - they meaning people give it to poorly babies and they meaning people give it to cancer patients" No it has not been confirmed and i havent researched it myself only in small articles and friends who are in the Midwifery Sector. Also it is proven that cows milk is NOT good for you at alll?? so that's another point to "drinking breast milk is weird"

Lets not forget that this post was about nipple play/ sucking nipples during sex....whilst pregnant and producing colostrum. (men who like breasts and still like sucking them even though they are going to get a mouth full of pungent sweet breast milk)

Problem with alot of people and we all do it is that things dont get read properly or they are taken out of context and it then turns into this.

Anyway I have a boyfriend who wants a suckle so i'm going to have to tend to his needs ;-)

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BagofHolly · 17/06/2011 21:09

In your OP you put "... or am I just a prude?" canvassing opinions. And then you've argued with those who have posted opinions you disagree with! "hold on a minute, no its not" etc. For some (most?) it IS weird.

If you want to breastfeed your partner, go ahead. But don't expect to post about it and expect everyone to agree with your POV.

And "so I'm going to have to tend to his needs." Or say "no." Alternatively.

malinois · 17/06/2011 21:10

To be fair, it's quite normal to ingest a whole variety of bodily fluids during sex, so why not BM?

Ivortheengine8 · 17/06/2011 21:17

Just make sure you wean him before baby arrives!

shreddinghippo · 17/06/2011 21:19

Hmmm I keep my bra on during sex now.

  1. I don't much like the idea of DH quenching his thirst with my BM
  2. If I didn't wear a bra we'd both be sleeping in the 'wet patch'
  3. I dont produce enough BM to waste it on him

Anyway, with a 3 month old I think we've only DTD twice since!! So not a huge issue just yet.

pinkyp · 18/06/2011 10:38

Its just wrong!!! Not drinking breastmilk - i'm sure everybody and their dh have tried it... but to want to latch on to you during sex.....the first time u bf ur dc is suppose to be special - not remnind u of having sex with dh.

Ivortheengine8 · 18/06/2011 12:03

Not everyone pinky Grin I would not even mention it to my Hubby as I know it would be a big NO WAY with a discusted face!
But like you say I am sure lots of men would like a try!

pregnantmimi · 18/06/2011 15:57

the breast milk drinking is ok but during sex unless its the only time you have alonexx

pregnantmimi · 18/06/2011 15:59

sorry didnt make sense my opinion is whats wrong with that really ? I mean I think most men try it and during sex well its when your on your ownxx

LilQueenie · 18/06/2011 16:34

yuk when DP suggested this to me it put me off BF. It linked a natural thing to a sexual thing. Made me feel very uncomfortable.

pregnantmimi · 19/06/2011 18:23

if he wants try it and the sex connection makes it feel weird seperate the two xx

mayaswellbeme · 19/06/2011 21:21

i agree with malinois

so, if you happen to start producing bm early (relatively) in your pregnancy, your partner must suddenly stop seeing your breasts in sexual way, and presumably avoid them at all costs during sexual actvities? a bit unrealistic surely.

goodness. i wouldn't be happy with that. for 6-12 months? i didn't want to ban my dh from my boobs during pregnancy or bfing, and if that meant that he ingested some of my bm, then fine. didn't put us off, was a bit different, not in an unpleasant way. and we are not especially weird, exciting or maternally-fixated people.

if it makes you feel weird then of course you should say. you don't need mumsnet to tell you that surely?

pregnantmimi · 19/06/2011 22:21

If it makes you feel better my partner asked to try it too in the future and have no problem with it.
Its not weird or pervy to me and I dont care if it is to anyone else and yes I have read about some people using breast milk with cancer patients and was reading up on this the other day after finding out a friend has cancer.

Actually I havent got a problem with grown men or woman having breast milk there is worse things going on in the world.

Can see why the sex drinking milk thing can alarm people but thinking about it when else are you breasts out and free!! xxx

KateeTheBump · 20/06/2011 10:14

Isn't it rather different when its colostrum, rather than breast milk? Given that its sort of oily and orange, not sure I'd want to try it... Grin

Bumpsadaisie · 20/06/2011 11:02

My DH tasted it last time round, just to see what it was like.

otchayaniye · 20/06/2011 12:09

Can't speak for partners drinking breastmilk. But my 2-1/2 year old daughter drinks it and I'm 30 weeks pregnant.

It doesn't take anything away. The only thing I'm going to avoid is feeding my older daughter in the first few days so my newborn gets all the colostrum. Unless you've been told specifically to avoid nipple stimulation I'd say you can do what you want.

Renaissance227 · 20/06/2011 13:37

If you feel you have to "tend to your partner's needs" no matter what why come on here in the first place to ask if you're a prude or not? I assume you have gotten over the "weirdness factor" or maybe you just do what he wants regardles?!

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