partners drinking breastmilk????? is this normal?

[babybumpx]

Ok....I am a little concerned as my partner wants to drink my breastmilk during sex, I am 30 weeks pregnant and i'm worried that he will take the vital nutrients away, not forgetting the weirdness factor or am i just being a prude?

Please be kind and sensitive :)

babybumpx I was replying to duckdodgers who, from what I got from their post, thought it was weird for partners to drink milk from their partners. I was only stating I thought it was pretty normal as I'd seen it on tv?

I have no idea why you're attacking me?

I am so sorry....My reply was actually aimed at DUCKDODGERS!! Blame it on the pregnancy brain....Im so sorry. x

not something my dp or i were ever into! but i have a book called 'fresh milk' which is all about bfeeidng and the 'secret life of breasts' and there is a some stuff in their about men doing so and really enjoying it. each to their own i guess :)

Thanks for the apology. :)

I wouldn't worry about the nutrients aspect, as far as I know you only produce actual milk after the baby is born (2-3 days after?). Before that, all that comes out is colostrum.

As to the fetish, it wouldn't be my cup of tea (or milk ), but only in the same way that I wouldn't want to put my DH across my knee and spank him. I find these games a real turn off. But that's just me. It's up to you really. TBH it doesn't sound like something you are into either.

My partner often sucks my nipples during sex as I find this a turn on & I guess sooner or later he is gonna end up with breastmilk now that I am pregnant & 2bh I don't actually have feelings on this either way. I won't be expressing it to put on his cornflakes though. Each to their own. Must say that sharing an opinion & judging/namecallling are 2 different things & I feel the OP was asking for the former rather than the latter x

"they" whoever they might be, and I'm assuming NHS Cancer Services, most certainly do NOT give it to cancer patients. What tosh.

And the 'mothering' bit during sex? Bleurgh!

I've been breast feeding for almost 5 years on the trot now and occasionally DP has got a mouthful of milk during sex (well, who wants their breasts to be off limits for that long?!). It doesn't bother either of us either way.

Perhaps kinder to describe the fetish as 'unusual' and wether you're fine with it or not just depends on you. Lots of people have unusual things that they enjoy during sex, doesn't make it wrong.

Squiglettsmummy. I understand your post.
I'm 31w and the last time DH and I had sex - he was nibbling away as usual. When he stopped and said erm I won't be doing that again for a while, I think you taste funny now. I didn't realise I was producing anything yet.

OP has your OH discussed with you that he wants the milk or is he just enjoying the sexual aspect of nipple play and the milk just happens to be there too? I think you need to have a chat with him, find out what is it he wants and explain how you feel about it.

BAGOFHOLLY - yes "they" do give it to cancer patients.

breastfeedingmums.typepad.com/breastfeedingmums_blog/2009/05/fighting-cancer-with-daughters-breast-milk.html

My point in that particular message was to DUCKDODGERS....regarding her opinion of drinking breastmilk altogether.

why not? it's delicious!

there'll be plenty for the baby once it arrives.

I find it pretty weird too. Lots of men (although not mine!) want to try breast milk apparently and having sex at 30 weeks is all fine and healthy.....but the two together is just ummmmm........Is he a mummy's boy?

snailoon - drinking cows milk isn't weird. In fact Northern Europeans have evolved specifically to be able to digest animal milk - the change happened about 7,500 years ago (lactase persistence) and explains why we are lactose tolerant as adults, unlike the majority of humans.

Can anyone tell me whether giving leftover EBM to the cat is weird?

No, he's not a mummy's boy, although you would think he is.

If you compare breastmilk with cow's milk and all the fuss about drinking breast milk, then I would say that drinking cow's milk is weird in a defending sort of way as it isnt natural compared to breast....

Babybumpx, read your own link! That's not the NHS supplying it to cancer patients, that's a private (and spectacularly weird!) arrangement between father and daughter!

Mali - its great you have another use for it! I think it's kind of funny but no, not weird - the cat doesnt have a choice in the matter anyway really does it?! It will make him strong and healthy!
How do you feel about it yourself baby? At the end of the day if you are happy with him doing that, that's what matters but if you are not comfy with it you should also tell him so.

Rofl at malinois and the cat drinking it - just the sort of absent-minded thing I would have done if I weren't so crap at expressing (and remembering to feed the cats).

Also rofled at the 'sex at 31 weeks? Weird' thing.

I've been pg and bf for about 6 years and it's become such a huge part of who I am/what I do. Yep, DP was curious, he tried some, then once or twice during sex it's come up, as it were. Pretty normal, I reckon. I have a friend who jokes about whatever's left when the baby's finished being for her DH. Difficult to draw a firm line between boobs for baby and sexy boobs, I think - men are to be forgiven for getting the two confused now and then. But it is a bit odd to think about DP having a quick drink when he wasn't bf as a baby - thinking about my MIL during sex kinda puts me off my stroke .

I'm not sure the cows milk is valid tbh. I would find it weird if dh wanted to have some of that during sex too

Despite not thinking indulging his fetish would be a particularly bad thing to do, it's not like it's going to encourage him to do anything illegal for example, I still don't think you should do it if you aren't into it.

Babybumpx BagofHolly - a quick google resulted in this article. www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/04/100419132403.htm
I haven't read it in detail but it appears that it is a concept that is still very much at the research stage, and I imagine they would separate the identified element within breast milk and put it in some sort of medicine for the cancer patients (rather than putting it on their cereals as the first article suggested!!).

So no, people in general (with or without cancer) don't tend to drink breastmilk. I imagine most DH/OHs have a little try, but I'd imagine breastfeeding during sex is a little, ahem, unusual. But hey, whatever floats your boat...

Milk in breasts at 30 weeks - normal (it varies from woman to woman, pregnancy to pregnancy)

Sex at 30 weeks - normal

Drinking milk from breasts during sex, accidentally or not - probably more couples do it than you'll ever know. Not likely to (always) be a mother fetish.

Oh, and the nutrients is not an issue. Otherwise, leaking breasts would be a worry!

The benefits of breastfeeding are irrelevant - your DH isn't asking for the milk for health purposes - he wants to do it as a turn on. So I don't think comparing to cows milk or bringing in cancer sufferers is relevant. Agree with whyowine

It would freak me out if DH asked. But so would some other things people do in bed, so if you are both happy....

I've had three children and I've never had a drop of milk until before the baby arrived. Is it normal to have milk at 30 weeks?