The sex is written in an envelope

[OrangeGloss]

I'm 27 weeks and just had a 4D scan and have the sex written in an envelope in case we want to know. We didn't ask at the 20 week scan, but now kinda like the idea of knowing

Any thoughts for or against knowing?!

I really appreciate everyone's comments, experiences and advice it has made interesting reading. We've decided to take Annie's advice and wait a week and see if things are a bit clearer.

Jellybeans I'm so sorry to hear about your losses, and thank you for sharing your experience

Oh my gosh....sorry for the thread hijack but I'm having major envelope wobbles! We almost opened it....
My reason for not opening is that I'm worried I'll regret finding out because it will spoil the moment where DH says "it's a..." and I get to call my mum and say "it's a..."

But if I do open it I get a final 12 weeks of the same excitement...I can make quilts and knit cardigans and decorate the nursery (not pink or blue but I can add a bit of boy or girl to it...). So it seems that I win in both scenarios but I also lose in both scenarios (not getting to make the big announcement v not being able to fully prepare)
There's also the issue that we're so convinced it's a girl it's almost as if we have been told. If it is a boy I think I'd rather be told at the birth rather than in an envelope.

Argh I can't decide!!!!!!!!!!!

I could have written that myself :) One of my reasons for finding out would be so I could think 'he' or 'she' rather than 'it' but tbh I'm the worst one to help sorry - good luck in deciding!

Orange, have you decided what to do with the envelope?

We found out, but have chosen to keep it to ourselves (so said the scan was inconclusive), we have been able to bond with the baby, and plan, but its our secret, which is rather nice. So Orange/Annie, you do have the option of opening it and keeping it to yourselves?

We're staying team yellow :) glad we've had the option though

Katee that's a good plan! My dh wouldn't be able to keep it in, he'd have to tell someone

I'm still yellow too...but running out of good reasons not to find out. We would be able to keep it a secret from everyone but something is still stopping me. I'm too chicken to make the wrong decision. we're still very close to opening. How are you doing Orange?

Annie we've stuck with team yellow and surprisingly quite happy/settled once we'd made the decision, but I don't think either one of us felt strongly enough about knowing now. You sound like you really want to know, though? :)

yep, we opened it last night!! Took a lovely walk up a hill where we live and watched the sunset and opened it. it felt like the right thing to do for us!!

With our first child we were so indecisive about finding out sex that we were still debating in the last few minutes of our 20 week scan whilst the sonographer waited on us. We decided to go for it and she couldn't tell us as the legs were crossed! After a mammoth 3 1/2 day labour my husband was allowed to identify the sex himself and said 'girl' and then burst into tears! It was wonderful as with so may boys in the family we thought we had little chance of having a girl.
This time around we know absolutely we want a surprise. Having said that I totally understand why people would like to know. I quite enjoy speculating either way and feel very happy about either outcome. Reckon if I had a strong preference though I might find out to get used to the idea..

If you really dont want to know and cant resist the urge send/give the envelope to a relative for safe keeping that you can trust.

Just had my scan- so glad we didnt find out