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Anyone else 5m pg and nervy after news about Kelly B?

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titferbrains · 10/05/2011 19:46

Feeling very sad for her but also nervous as I have not yet had my 20wk scan. Due soon but am horrified that so many people lose babies at 5m. Just wanted to get my fears off my chest!

My baby is very active so far which is very reassuring and thankfully gives me a bit of an indicator that everything is ok (or positively rocking!) in there.

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Valiant1 · 10/05/2011 19:50

I am! I am due 27th of sep and not feeling movement yet so its a double worry now x I am also very sorry for their loss.

nunnie · 10/05/2011 19:51

There is another thread with a few replies with people feeling pretty much the same as you, I will find it and post a link.

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titferbrains · 10/05/2011 19:55

thanks nunnie I only saw the one with people being rude/being uppity re: use of language - all seemed a bit odd. Have no experience of late term loss so keeping away from that one in case I say the wrong thing!

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nunnie · 10/05/2011 19:56

Ohh sorry if it's that one, I didn't realise it had gone like that, it was all seemed fine earlier this afternoon.
Ignore it if it's gone like that not worth bumping or reading.

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titferbrains · 10/05/2011 19:57

Valiant is it yr first?

it's my 2nd which means one usually feels movements earlier. DD was a v active baby so this active one feels the same, more active if anything!

My hospital allows early scans if you are anxious, I did one before my official 12 wk scan and was v reassured that there was a heartbeat, and that it was just one baby (tummy looks way bigger this time!)

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titferbrains · 10/05/2011 19:59

thanks nunnie it's not the same one. will have a read.

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PinkFondantFancy · 10/05/2011 21:00

valiant I'm due the day before you and I've not felt anything either!. I'm just trying to concentrate on trying to stay positive about my baby-hard though!!

nunnie · 10/05/2011 21:05

I am due the 23rd of Sept, and I am not feeling definate movements or flutterings yet, my 20 week scan showed I have an anterior low placenta, so I ahve put it down to that. This is my 3rd so I can compare to previous and with my last one also anterior but not low, I didn't feel movements till 21 weeks.

SuperheroYuki · 10/05/2011 21:27

YES I'm 5 months (due 11th sept) and I thought I was in the clear from now until final few weeks really and now I'm back to first three months panic-ing!!

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titferbrains · 10/05/2011 21:55

Well, have ordered a kick counting bracelet from Jacobsadder.co.uk and am going to find out about having a late scan tmw. The thread that nunnie has posted makes for sad reading but has made me realise how important it is to make people more aware of the ways that late mc/stillbirth might be avoided.

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lolajane2009 · 10/05/2011 21:57

my baby is a kicking punching easily felt bundle of joy but I am still nervous and even more since this happened. I am due 16th sept

CrazyAlien06 · 10/05/2011 22:31

Me! Due 2 Oct and not had 20 wk scan yet so terrified x

duckypoo · 10/05/2011 23:31

Oh blimey I empathise, but just because you know it happens, doesn't mean it will happen to you. When I was heavily pg with ds1 I went into work (post-natal ward) and a colleague was busting a gut to tell me about one of the cleaning ladies who had a stillbirth at 38 weeks Hmm.

Really odd, like she was relishing giving the news Confused, It's always good to keep an eye on movements and get checked out if you feel odd, but no need to be too scared (although I was a paranoid android, with my heart in my mouth each time they put the doppler on my belly).

InMyPrime · 10/05/2011 23:46

YES. Very much so. I feel terrible for Kelly Brock (though I don't know who she is or what she is famous for, compared to, say, Lily Allen) and am also freaking out at how many high-profile people have lost their babies late in pregnancy in the last year.

I had an MMC at 11 weeks in August 2010 and am now expecting again, due on October 1st, and I have been a bit of a nervous wreck about this pregnancy from day one. My MMC made me realise how fragile unborn life is and how easily a loss can happen for no apparent reason. My first trimester was like some kind of slow water torture, drip drip of fear waiting for the magic 12-week scan. I got lots of private scans in order to stay sane - 8 wks, 10 wks, normal NHS 12 wks stage and 14 wks - and again at 17 wks because I'd had some serious unrelated stress around 14 wks and wanted to make sure the baby was OK. It's really horrible to feel so afraid. I had thought I'd relax more when I got past 12 weeks but the fear never really goes away. High profile stories like this make it worse. It would help if the news coverage was more informative too and explained the risks. It's just very scary when you hear about a case where there is simply a random, unexplained loss with no reason e.g. premature delivery, placental abruption, viral infection etc given.

My placenta is anterior as well so no joy for me there! I do feel a fair bit of movement though although it comes and goes. Just counting the days now until my 20 week scan on Monday....fingers crossed for all of us Confused

Leo4 · 11/05/2011 08:22

I can totally relate to you InMyPrime I had mmc December 2009 at 10 weeks and I am pg again due 4 October and I have been awful! I named 12 week scan D-day as I felt I was going to go to the scan and the baby would be dead etc...But no the stress and worry doesn't go away especially when they found talipes on my baby...which they then say is related to T18 ...after having a risk of 1:38000 at 12 weeks. However I went to a specialist and he has reassured me my baby has no other markers and I shouldn't consider amnio...but it is still at the back of my mind!!
There are so many things that can go wrong in pregnancy it is a wonder why we do it! Bring on 40 weeks x

PinkFondantFancy · 11/05/2011 08:39

Hi girls I also had a MC last year and have been a nervous wreck this time around. There's a lovely thread on the pregnancy boards called 'totally's grads'- for ladies pregnant again after MC and they have been a fantastic support if you fancy popping over.

I agree it would be helpful if the press gave more background to what happened. I guess maybe she wants to hide away and doesn't want to give out any information though which I can totally understand.

Good luck for next week inmyprime. I've just had my 20 week scan this morning and the relief is immense!

nannyl · 11/05/2011 09:34

im 22+3 weeks (had 20 week scan last week)

yes its scarey, but have never truley relaxed yet as my aunt (dads sister but nearer my age than my dads) has lost 3 babies further along than i am now (and they never found a reason)
2 were still born, other born at 26 weeks alive, lived (in intensive care, obviously) for 2 weeks, then died Sad

Perhaps in 10 weeks ill relax a bit more?

sunface · 11/05/2011 09:50

yup me too. i'm due 1st Oct and get my 20wk scan next week and cannot wait as this is my 3rd (early MC last year) and i'm not feeling too much movement yet and i think i should be feeling more :(

vallinnapod · 11/05/2011 11:35

Can I join the anxiety crew?! Grin

23+4 (4th Sept) with DS#1. IVF pregnanct so full of anxiety throughout. First milestone was pregnancy test, then 8 week scan, then 12 weeks scan, then 20 weeks scan....after each I thought I would relax.

Bub had been very still over the last 48 hours so was really panicking and then today he is like a kick boxer.

These horrible celeb stories are heartbreaking but they do raise awareness. I am not sure I would have know that I should be feeling the baby every day from 24 weeks were it not for research I had done (Ok, ok...Google...) after reading these stories.

Still, does nothing for the stress Confused

InMyPrime · 11/05/2011 12:03

Thanks for the solidarity. Grin I hope all our 20 weeks scans go well. I have had a detailed scan at 17 weeks and the initial results were good from that so I shouldn't have to worry too much about anomalies but I can't help being paranoid that the obstetrician didn't pick everything up!

Bump is getting bigger though so hopefully that's a good sign. Never thought pregnancy could be such an ordeal either. I was blissfully ignorant before I had my MMC and assumed the worst thing that could happen to you would be a bad delivery or a baby born with serious health problems. I never even knew, for example, that you had to go through full labour for stillbirths but just assumed they would perform a Caesarean instead or something. Now I know all that and more - too much, I think! Some of the advice here on MN has been great though and I'll definitely get myself a count the kicks bracelet once I get to week 22/24.

vallinnapod · 11/05/2011 12:24

Oh, just Googled, and purchased, a bracelet - thanks!

PrincessScrumpy · 11/05/2011 13:00

Definitely in my mind. I'm due 22 Sept, althought they're ID twins so will be born at 37w latest. I've had some bleeds due to an inflamed cervix so that makes it worse. I was desperate to get to the 20w mark, now I want to be 24w, then I'll aim for 28w, 30w etc.

I can't stress too much though as my brain won't let me comprehend that this could happen to me - this is probably a good thing.

A friend of mine lost her dd at 22w and when I was pg with dd1 and reached 22w she showed me photos of her baby so I could see what my baby looked like inside me - somehow I managed to sit and smile sympathetically as she showed me pics of her baby minutes before she officially died. I wanted to be anywhere else in the world but there at the time, but I think my friend really needed to share the pics of her dd and acknowledge her existence, however short. In a way I was honoured, but also really didn't need it!

Leo4 · 11/05/2011 13:22

Love the count the kics bracelet- thanks for mentioning it InMyPrime x

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titferbrains · 11/05/2011 18:13

thanks for solidarity and support, also nice to meet a few people due around same time as me! I have to say I walked past the papers today hoping to see a headline about NICE reviewing protocols around advising mothers to monitor fetal movement - really hope that MN can kickstart something around this. Wd be amazing for MN to champion this cause!

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