What Did You Do Differently The Month You Got the BFP?

[laughinglemons]

Ladies' I know that I belong on 'conception' but I was wondering if there was anything less obvious that might help. I am 35 TTC#1 over a year, DH is 47. I've had a scan (fine) and DH has had sperm test (high abnormalities but normal range). We both take vitamines, don't smoke, DH doesn't drink at all, I have the odd glass or 2 but no more and less than once a week. We both cycle, I swim, eat healthily and are beginning to panic...
Stupidly this is only the 1st month I have used ovulation sticks. We are BDing every 2 days from day 7-14. I lie with the pillow under me afterwards.

Got totally pissed and forgot about ttc. Had lots of sex at all times of the month.

me and hubby were both taking spiruline tablets(green algae) from health shop......also hubby was trying to keep fit and had been making those fittness shakes-cant think of name-sell it in health shop in big tubs-you mix it with milk-different flavours contains lots protein and vits and things.......he did lots excersise then would drink these shakes :) -im sure they helped things along ;)

shag every day instead of set days!! worked for me!

The month Currant Bun took, I drank licorice tea to help my short luteal phase, uped my intake of organic foods, went on holiday with my parents and drank lots of alcohol (after a couple months teetotal) then topped it all off with a stealth shag with parents in next room.

pg1--got horrendously drunk. Had wild sex on the sofa and fell pg.(Not planned)
pg2--tried for ages. Gave up. Threw away the ovulation stick I was about to use.Fell pg.
pg3--Gave up alcohol. tried for ages.took Preconceive for one month. didn't conceive. went away on a hen weekend (so missing out on a "good" weekend to bonk). drank lots of champagne and had a great laugh.didn't have any sex for rest of week.had a smear test(?!)on d14 .found out I was pg.(Having conceived on something like d9)

All the very best. Hope we'll see you soon on here complaining about morning sickness and all the other fun stuff.

Didn't drink at all and had sex religiously every other day for the whole month, not just fertile days :)

Assumed it wasn't going to happen because we hadn't got my cycle right.

Bought a clear blue digital Ov monitor and lots of sticks.

On day period was due took it out of the packet, read all the instructions, lined it up ready to go. And waited... and waited... and, er, that was a waste of £70!

The month I got my BFP I tried lots of new things - most importantly I temped, so I felt in control and that I knew what my body was doing. I drank lots of grapefruit juice prior to oving - helps to produce lots of pantsnot (ewcm) (and used ov sticks to check when that was) and lots of pineapple juice after (helps with implantation). We had sex 5 times around the ov window - every other day and on the day of ov. It worked for us.

Good luck!

My friend swears by mucus, and she's got pregnant LOADS of times after having had a hard time before, once she charted mucus.

stick fingers up as near to cervix and when you find mucus (I often didn't though, I found this method tricky for me) pull apart the fingers and on the best days it should stretch a centimetre or so. Then have sex twice a day and the days after.

Following 2 mc's I became slightly obsessed about charting and timing sex around ovulation

The month we got pregnant we ditched the charting and basically had sex at every opportunity. I really believe taking all the stress out of it worked perfectly. I am now 40+3 and waiting patiently to meet my baby!

Just a thought but could cycling have any impact - especially on your DP? Is it not supposed to impact on sperm? Not sure but it seems to ring a bell.

Good Luck
x

I went away for the weekend, tried burlesque dancing, went on a hen do, got drunk (seems a common theme), felt quite sexy, came home - DP had missed me - he'd been kite surfing that day..... et voila...

Hey laughinglemons - my thoughts are really with you. I am 32 wks now after 10 yrs ttc, mc and several IVF cycles. I finally fell pregnant with IVF after giving up my (v.stressful!) career completely in a last ditch attempt.

I agree with earlier posts about taking the stress out but I know that's easier said than done! It is most likely that you will get pregnant naturally within 2 yrs at 35, but if I'm honest I would say that one of my regrets is not seeking treatment earlier than I did, because as time goes on it will affect you both emotionally far more than you think. IVF has a one in three chance of success per cycle at 37 and it usually works eventually with health profiles like the ones you have described.

So try everything above, but don't be afraid to seek medical treatment sooner rather than later if you feel you want to - after all, these are statistically proven medical interventions, and consequently more likely to work than anything else! If you need more support, I would try the Fertility Friends website - I found it incredibly helpful (though you might find it a bit freaky at first, when you hear everyone's horror stories - hopefully mine hasn't had that affect!)

I have everything crossed that in that wonderful way the world sometimes has, after posting this you will find your magic blue line appearing this month, seemingly just because you posted this!

All the best x

Trying for #3 I had been charting - OPKs, clear blue fertility monitor, drove myself quite mad for a year. Decided I was too old (39) and should be happy with 2 - booked a skiiing holiday and bingo BFP 1 month later. Currently 26 weeks. So easy to say relax - but you can't fake it - we really had given up - I actively didn't want to get pregnant as was desperate to go skiing! So glad now though.

I'm 39 and pregnant with my 3rd baby which was unplanned. We did it right after AF finished so I thought no chance. But just in case I got up immediately and went to the toilet (while when I was actually trying to conceive with my first 2 I lied there a while holding my hips in the air).
I then though it was because I had a short cycle that month that I got pregnant but after a dating scan I had to conclude that DH's sperm had been swimming about at least 5 days inside me ...

we were not trying pre se, but what did it was both of us having a night away, lots of drinking lots of relaxed feelings, lots of being tender [puke!] lol.

funny thing is with XH & ttc for DS, it was the month we agreed to stop trying as we'd started investigations & I found them intrusive so had said ok no more. Fell the next month.

After 10 increasingly stressful months of TTC, we ditched the ovulation tests and trying to time bonking at ovulation and had sex every other day from the day my period finished until it was due again. We had friends to stay one weekend so missed a couple of days, so bonked for the next three to make up for it - not particularly scientific.

Definitely what we will try next time (if there is a next time!) Even if it doesn't work straight away it was a lot less stressful than the timed months where we got a bit fed up as we ended up thinking that if the ovulation test said no it meant no sex, which was daft I know!

Hiya, I had mmc last year and wsa desperate to conceive asap. I was taking pre conception vitamins, usig conception gel. Nothing for 3 months and then in Aug Sept I used fertiltiy friend, started charting temp and cervical mucus, and bingo got a BFP in Oct. Also had almost cut out caffeine and alcohol and encouraged dh to do so as well. Good luck I really hope you get a BFP soon :)

Hi Lemons. I'd been doing "fertility awareness" for about 2 years in order to not get pregnant. Then the 1st cycle of TTC I was so aware of my body and my cycle that I got my BFP.

It worked perfectly in the 2 years I was using it to not get pg but a part of me always wondered whether I would just find it difficult to concieve anyway. I shouldn't have been so surprised to get my BFP in the 1st cycle (we only did the business twice) but I was just expecting it to be more difficult.

One of my best friends had been TTC for a while and I kept telling her to try FA (this was even before my BFP) and she wasn't keen. you do have to stick with it but within just a few months you'll learn so much about your cycle and when you are fertile.

I might get shot down for this but very crude maths suggests that if your cycle is the standard 28 days then you should have sex on days 13, 14 and 15 (from the 1st day of your period) or (sorry for TMI) once you start to get a clear stretchy discharge (which will be around that time)

All you need for FA is the book and a thermometer! (no fertility predictors needed!)

Btw, I conceived DC1 on Day 7 and DC2 on Day 20. random!

My friend was ttc for 2years and she was not happy in job. She got a new position in same company and bought a puppy and stopped ttc actively. I told her she'd be pg within 6 months...was only 4 months. But everyone is different.