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What Did You Do Differently The Month You Got the BFP?

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laughinglemons · 08/05/2011 23:01

Ladies' I know that I belong on 'conception' but I was wondering if there was anything less obvious that might help. I am 35 TTC#1 over a year, DH is 47. I've had a scan (fine) and DH has had sperm test (high abnormalities but normal range). We both take vitamines, don't smoke, DH doesn't drink at all, I have the odd glass or 2 but no more and less than once a week. We both cycle, I swim, eat healthily and are beginning to panic...
Stupidly this is only the 1st month I have used ovulation sticks. We are BDing every 2 days from day 7-14. I lie with the pillow under me afterwards.

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StiffyByng · 09/05/2011 11:29

Baby Dancing I think.

otchayaniye · 09/05/2011 11:29

I generally fucked my husband the days I reckoned I was fertile.

I didn't do anything different, such as stopping drinking alcohol. Are you supposed to?

I have history of Asherman's interuterine adhesions caused by post miscarriage D&C for which I had surgery previous to my first child at 37 years old. I also didn't have periods for 2 years as was breastfeeding and that stopped them. So I understand the frustration of infertility.

Good luck. (What is BD?)

HarderToKidnap · 09/05/2011 11:31

I had sex every day in my fertile week rather than every other.
I drank a glass of grapefruit juice every day.
Took my folic acid! I kept thinking, "oh, I'll start it when I get pregnant" when of course I knew I was supposed to be taking it for months before.

otchayaniye · 09/05/2011 11:32

Once my periods returned when I cut back on demand feeding (2 years after her birth, I still feed her though) I did buy a Clearblue fertility monitor because at the age of 38 and with my history I thought I needed some help identifying fertile days. But I never got it out of the box as I got pregnant on the second cycle.

I have heard good things about them. Maybe try that? I think it's more effective than sticks if you've been ttc for a longer time. Although a year isn't that long, although it seems long to you, of course.

ebbandflow · 09/05/2011 11:35

Def remember doing decorating at the time. Not sure where exactly you are putting the pillow? I lay down afterwards with my knees bent to encourage the good swimmers.

H007 · 09/05/2011 11:37

I had sex on the floor in the lounge (sorry tmi) but you did ask

tabulahrasa · 09/05/2011 11:37

Another one for got drunk, lol.

DS was unplanned so when we started trying for what is now DD, lol, I got fairly obsessive when it didn't happen straight away...we tried ovulation kits and what have you but after a year of it, it was causing me and DP to argue a bit and so the month we did concieve it was without all that, we only had sex twice, once we were out together and both fairly drunk and once after I had been out with friends and tbh I was very drunk So after all the careful planning and lying still afterwards, etc. It was a drunken fumble that did it, lol

Wombat33 · 09/05/2011 11:49

I tried loads of different things but looking back on it, I fell pg the cycle we went on holiday and I wasn't at work. Sadly MCed that pg, tried again for a few months and guess when I got pg again...? The very next time we went on holiday and I had a few days off work. I used to silently scoff at the whole 'relax and take a holiday' advice, but now I do secretly wonder. I didn't particularly feel less stressed those months, and I was certainly still taking the TTC seriously (ov sticks, temping, sex just about every day, pre-seed), but something worked and the only difference I can see between the two months I conceived and the months I didn't was not being at work...

Good luck!

Continuum · 09/05/2011 12:47

I'm 36. Had pregnancy last year that resulted in miscarriage, but for that had lost weight, regular exercise, had loads of sex, but figured it would take ages anyway, quite a shock when it didn't.

Got pregnancy again in January after putting weight on, lounging around, having a small drink most evenings and having sex 3 times that month, figured with all that I wouldn't conceive anyway!

I'm not thinking any of this is helpful!

clairebear88 · 09/05/2011 12:51

We have been trying to conceive 4 yrs and 2 mcs. I am only 6wks pregnant now but am hopeful this will be a sticky one. I think you can get so engrossed in the whole trying to conceieve that the fun goes a little. We booked a holiday and tried to push ttc to back of our minds and bingo. I stopped ov kits and just tried to bd a few times in the special time ( days 8 - 15 )
I really think you can try to hard so try to relax and just get on with life and you never know
good luck practising x

shimmerysilverglitter · 09/05/2011 12:54

For a year I had been concentrating on THE ovulation days as calculated. Nothing. The month I conceived dd we concentrated on the days leading up to ovulation instead. I remember it quite clearly because I was late the following month I thought to myself that for over a year and getting quite worried I had obviously been getting ovulation dates wrong.

nickstermum · 09/05/2011 13:44

Charted basal temps and realised i ov'd way later than i had thought... plus did the OPKs and shagged once around that.. hey presto...

Wasnt always that easy though... this was following an MC.

iWILLdothis · 09/05/2011 13:55

No. 1.... took ages, OV sticks worked for me, turned out I wasn't OV'ing til day 18 or 19! If that's the case for you also, you're missing the "window" each month by only trying til day 14.

No. 2.....I kinda changed my mind and thought no, it's too soon for no.2. Put no effort into TTC at all. Was sick and working hard and grumpy that week.....and it happened.

WaspsAnkles · 09/05/2011 14:11

Another vote for drunken Christmas parties

JBrd · 09/05/2011 14:18

Stopped working after being made redundant.... Not sure that that was the ultimate reason, though! I certainly wasn't very relaxed about that...

But I did use the ovulation sticks and made sure we made most of my fertile days (including having sex first thing on a Monday morning, something I've never done before in my life !)

ToriaPumpkin · 09/05/2011 15:48

Oh yes, I also decided to leave my job and had picked up four application forms and taken home a box of wine that was a sales incentive from one of our suppliers that I planned to demolish while filling in said applications. Luckily I took the test first!

In previous months I had cut out alcohol and caffeine, aspartame, smelly cheeses, all the stuff they tell you not to eat when pregnant, made not one jot of difference, my cycles were spot on every month, in fact they started getting shorter! I also conceived on day 17 or 18 as that didn't change when my cycles got shorter so echo the advice to find out for definite when you are ovulating.

FloralOne · 09/05/2011 16:25

My mum came to stay for a week - not exactly an aphrodisiac! So, it wasn't until after she'd gone (and I'd given up on conceiving that month) that we had sex. Was very stunned that that month of all months it worked! :)

hubbahubster · 09/05/2011 17:01

Had acupuncture, did Pilates every week, shagged every other day regardless of ovulation (couldn't be bothered getting obsessive about it, had a MMC a few months before so didn't want to get stressed), drank LOADS? and boom!

yummymango · 09/05/2011 17:24

I am also 35 and we were trying for about a year (had a mmc at some point during that time too). I have endometriosis and coincidentally whilst having a routine scan for that I was told I was just about to ovulate so we went straight home instead of going back to work and had some bedroom fun! A couple of weeks later I got my BFP and I am now 20 weeks!
I also stopped charting a couple of months before that, tried to stop worrying, stopped trying to have sex at certain times etc.
Good luck I am sure it will happen for you soon :)

G1nger · 09/05/2011 17:32

Stopped trying to work out what my fertile days were and when they finished. Had sex every 2 to 3 days throughout the whole month (period not included). No temp charting, no ovulation sticks. Stopped thinking I knew what I was doing and just had sex. Also looked after partner's balls for 2 months beforehand- no hot baths, heated seats, tight underwear. And gave up red wine just in case.

theonlyhb2 · 09/05/2011 17:33

had lots of things planned for the coming months (europe road trip, Amsterdam, Glastonbury, China/Japan) and it was the night we spoke seriously and said it was deffo what we wanted, but would take a year or so..........that was the night. No Amsterdam, no Glasto, no China/Japan, just a baby and a massive credit card bill!

RunnerHasbeen · 09/05/2011 18:21

I had a month of emotional extremes, a friend died in an accident, and instead of planned SWI (like previous 9 months) I was kind of clinging to DH (makes me sound like I have a morbid kind of sex life, it was more comfort iykwim). I had a really regular textbook cycle but that month I seemed to ovulate a week early, when I was most upset - GP said this isn't that unusual and there was a peak of babies born in New York 9 months after 9/11.

redandyellowandpinkandgreen · 09/05/2011 19:53

We were haphazardly trying for ages but then we got serious and started DTD every other day from about day 10 to 20 I think it was. Sometimes every day when I thought I was ovulating. Never got a positive on an ovulation test so threw those out of the window.

That did it!

JimmyChoo17 · 09/05/2011 19:59

I had started using a clear blue digi monitor and it was my 3rd cycle. I do not rate the cheap pee ov sticks at all. Turns out I was ov 2 days earlier than normal pee sticks said.

All that being said the month I fell pregnant we had decided not to ttc We had had a stressful 2 years of ttc.....(but I kept using monitor to get my cycle in the memory). Got drunk a lot that month, chilled out and actually had less sex. Wham!! I fell pregnant that month. Am now over 30 weeks pregnant!

Pippaandpolly · 09/05/2011 20:04

The month we conceived (month 8 of trying) was the first month:

I quit drinking all together (though I was never a big drinker),
We used Conceive Plus lube,
I charted.

We also had a LOT of sex!!

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