I am so sorry for the loss of all the babies on this thread and in fact the fact the NHS still refuses to be more proactive about preventing stillbirth and mitigating it. Count the Kicks would have also saved my DD from oxygen deprivation had i known about it.
I was one of the 'have some icecream and a cold drink', didn't want to bother anyone, knew I was in slow labour - also knew deep deep down something was very very wrong.
DD survived. Just. However there is a case for negligence because the MW/Dr on call at the delivery unit however left me on a monitor for two hours which showed no response and they then catastrophically induced me rather than carry out an EMCS which would have prevented a coma, weeks in NICU and a life long disability (CP).
I carry a lot of guilt over what happened to her, I was young, active easy pregnancy but I was overdue and nobody warned me that there was a higher risk. I am pg again now, and finding it extremely tough, not wanting to bond too much but feeling even more guilt if I ignore this bump as I loved being pg with DD (DC1).
I'll be buying a band this evening.