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Just found out i'm pregnant!

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 10:49

I did a test this morning and found it i'm pregnant, which i'm really happy about Grin

But i have nobody to tell, as DH left his mobile at home so i can't tell him until this evening. I have two close friends that i will tell at a farily early stage, but want to tell them in person because one has just had a failed IVF attempt and the other has had serious problems getting pregnant and is considering egg donation, so obviously need to pick the right moment to tell them.

Also before i had DS i had an early miscarriage so don't want to tell parents until around eight weeks, then everyone else after 12 week scan.

So anyway, i'm v excited and just feel the ned to share this information with somone, so mumsnet it is!

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Ohforfoxsake · 13/04/2011 10:51

Congratulations! Wonderful news - I really hope it all goes well and you have a fab pregnancy! Grin

You must be desperate to tell your DH!! Aarrggghhhhhhh!

anneeapple · 13/04/2011 10:51

Congratulations! x

orangehead · 13/04/2011 10:51

Congratualations. Its horrible when you cant tell anyone.

BertieBasset · 13/04/2011 10:53

Congrats!!!! It is horrible having no one to tell.

Have a great day imagining the look on DH's face when you tell him :)

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 10:54

thanks!

i hope DH reacts well. i know he'll be really pleased as he wants a second child even more than me i think, but when i told about previous pregnancies he seemed seriously underwhelmed. i got really pissed off and upset, butthis time i'm prepared for it. which is why i thought i'd call him at work, rather than tell him in person, but he's bloody ruined that for me by forgetting his phone! Grin

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Renaissance227 · 13/04/2011 10:59

Congratulations! GrinYou must be so excited.

I'm sure if you have been trying for ages to get pregnant then your DH will be trilled. Maybe the underwhelmed reaction from before was just caution!

FeralGirlCambs · 13/04/2011 10:59

Silly man! Could you email and get him to call you?

Anyway congratulations!!

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 11:04

actually we've been v lucky and fallen pregnant sooner than planned. we'd sort of said we'd start trying this summer, to give us a four year age gap, but a few weeks ago got a little carried away on a couple of occasions Blush knowing that if i did fall pregnant it's still be a good thing. we are so, so lucky as i know many people who have seriously struggled to get pregnant.

DH did explain his previous under reactions as being cautious. which is fair enough. it's just that i wanted excitement, not caution!

and i can't get in touch with him at all today - he's a farmer so barely has mobile phone reception, never mind email!

Grin Grin

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Albrecht · 13/04/2011 11:08

Yay! Smile

Renaissance227 · 13/04/2011 11:28

Is there someone your DH works with who would have a mobile?! xx

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 11:36

he works at his family's farm, so i could call his mum and ask her to get him to call me. but then she'd want to know what was so urgent and there's no way i'm telling her this early!

to be honest, even though i'm itching to tell him, i think i'd better wait until tonight. my idea of calling him at work was to avoid a big build up (and then my subsequent disappointment when he under reacts) and if i go to great lengths to speak to him at work i'm going to end up with the same problem Smile

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Renaissance227 · 13/04/2011 11:37

Oh well. At least you have the excitment of waiting to tell him later! xx

greenzebra · 13/04/2011 11:55

Maybe you could make him a Daddy cake, make a cake and Ice it with your going to be a Daddy again or something to that effect, maybe he will be more excited if you did something like that, and it might take your mind off telling him and how your going to do it etc.

You could just leave it on the table for him when he gets in and not be in the room. I think I would have done this if I had found out when my DH wasnt in the house or at work.

Congrats by the way, hope it all goes well.

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 11:58

Great idea zebra, if I was at home I might go something like that as I think he'd find it quite funny, but I'll struggle as am stuck at work today (not that you'd know it based on my mumsnet postings Blush!)

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WinterLover · 13/04/2011 12:31

Congratulations, DP reacted the same way as your DH. I was hoping for excitement but he just went silent and grumpy :( you wouldnt believe that now tho 21 weeks on. Think he's more excited than me, and its his 2nd child, and my 1st child.

I found out mid dec so got him a 'daddy' xmas card and signed it from baby bump :)

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 15:21

congratulations to you too winterlover! it's horrible to have your moment ruined by a crappy response, especially as in all the films etc the moment is magical and special. at least he is excited now though!

My DH has never been grumpy about it as such, just a but like 'oh, that's good, what's for tea?'. he's lovely in so many ways, but he is far too laid back for my liking in some ways!

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SavannahRose · 13/04/2011 18:58

Have you done another test silver28?? or just the 1?
xx

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 19:04

I just did one this morning, why? Smile

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SavannahRose · 13/04/2011 19:16

just asking!!! i did 4!!! to try and believe it i think. curently 31+ and STILL dont believe it!

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 19:32

Oh good, you ere getting me worried! I do have a spare test and considered using it but thought I'd keep it just in case (not sure why really!).

I fell pregnant immediately when I first started trying for DS (then miscarried at 6 weeks but fell pregnant within a week later), so I was half expecting (and hoping) to get pregnant quickly this time too.

After this one I am definitely sorting out failsafe contraception!! Grin

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 19:33

And congratulations (and good luck) to you too! Is it your first baby?

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SavannahRose · 13/04/2011 19:38

no no second. i suffered a MC in May last yr then fell preg again in sept. we never stopped trying :)

Staceroo · 13/04/2011 19:46

Congratulations Silver!!!

Don't worry I only did one test! I had started to think I was the only one though, as everyone else on here seems to have done about 10! And I think some continue to do them on a weekly basis!! I can underistand why, but I just felt pg, and knew I was before I even did the test, so didn't doubt the result for a minute!

Not 10 weeks yet, but had a dating scan at 8 weeks, so I know there's defo a little bean in there!

Good luck with everything! Hiope DH is over the moon!

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 22:48

Well I told DH and he said something like 'oh I thought you seemed different, oh no that means it'll be due in december' Hmm

So I carried in talking about it then asked if he was happy, to which he replies 'yes of course' them carries on talking crap. So I hugged him and told him he always ruined this moment for me - in a light hearted way of course! - and he apologised and kissed me. Twas all pleasant though underwhelming. But them since he has seemed quite excited and started chatting about names etc, so all is well!

Am just hoping that all goes well now. I d

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 22:51

Oops posted too soon...

I don't feel pregnant yet, in that I don't have any symptoms (felt pretty crappy last time), tho I guess there's plenty if time for all that!

There's also the not so pleasant matter of telling my two best friends who are both massively struggling to conceive. Although I know they'll be happy for me I do feel terrible for them and will understand if they're upset Sad

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