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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Just found out i'm pregnant!

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silver28 · 13/04/2011 10:49

I did a test this morning and found it i'm pregnant, which i'm really happy about

But i have nobody to tell, as DH left his mobile at home so i can't tell him until this evening. I have two close friends that i will tell at a farily early stage, but want to tell them in person because one has just had a failed IVF attempt and the other has had serious problems getting pregnant and is considering egg donation, so obviously need to pick the right moment to tell them.

Also before i had DS i had an early miscarriage so don't want to tell parents until around eight weeks, then everyone else after 12 week scan.

So anyway, i'm v excited and just feel the ned to share this information with somone, so mumsnet it is!

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firstsupermum · 13/04/2011 23:31

Congratulation siver28,
hope everything will be good for you, I am writting about telling your friends, i think if they are your friends like you said, they will be happy for you,
i was trying for 6years, i had 2friends, i didnt get pregnant, the first one get pregnant first, she stoped calling, or contacting me, when i asked about the reason, she said that she was thinking about me, how i will feel if i know that she is pregnant, she didn't want to hurt me, i did understand, but realy inside me, i didnt like it, i hope if she told me like everyone, i will be happy for her, i was thinking how my friend will thought like that,
the second one, she become pregnant and stop contacting complitely, i heard from others, i call to congratulate her, i was waiting for her to mention it, but she didnt at all, untill now i didnt heard from her, that was around 2008 just few months after it, i become pregnant with my first, he is now 2years, and i am now 6months pregnant with my second, due in july.
wish you all the best.

LDNmummy · 14/04/2011 02:03

Congratulations!!

Renaissance227 · 14/04/2011 09:05

Glad he seems pleased now silver28. Enjoy being symptom free and don't worry about telling your friends. I know it will be hard but if the shoe was on the other foot I'm sure you would feel happy for them, just like they will feel happy for you. xxx

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silver28 · 14/04/2011 13:54

thanks for the messages.

I am not too worried about telling my friends as they are such lovely, generous and kind women that i know they'll be happy for me. They were both very happy for me when i fell pregnant with DS and have been nothing but supportive since. But of course it must be hard for them to see me (and so many other women we know) falling pregnant easily. And i want to tell them in person and fairly soon (unlike others who will have to wait 'til after 12 week scan) as i don't want to tell them in 8 weeks' time and have them wondering why i kept it to myself all that time, while talking to them about their problems etc.

firstsupermum i'm glad to hear that things worked out for you, amnd good luck for July. i can't imagine how amzing it must be to have a bby after trying and waiting for so long

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PregolaLola · 14/04/2011 14:10

Congratulations! x

ChunkyChick · 14/04/2011 15:54

Congratulations, that's great news!

It is lovely that you are being so considerate and thinking about your friends. As someone who has suffered infertility for more than 8 years (and has finally been lucky enough to finally have two children) I would say let your friends know by email or text first, to let the news sink in in private before they see you in person. By this point they will have had a chance to compose themselves. There is nothing worse than getting 'the big news' in person, when you feel as if you have been kicked in the guts but have to immediately put a smile on your face and make 'congratulations' type comments. This has happened to me a couple of times and these occasions will always stay with me as two of the worst days in my life.

Wiwa · 14/04/2011 15:56

Conratulations! Men eh? I'm sure he'll get a bit more excited when you start showing. mY husband was quite chilled when I called home at work today! He nearly passed out first, but I guess he had to down play it because his work mates were there! When is your due date?

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silver28 · 14/04/2011 18:22

Thanks for the advice chunkychick. I did wonder if that would be better; it's useful to hear from someone who's been in that position. will wait a week or so then text when I know I'm going to be seeing them soon after. Will try to explain why I thought a text was better than putting them on the spot, without labouring point, in case they take the view that a text is insensitive.

Congratulations to you too wiwa! Have you just found out then? Is it your first child? I must be due mid December I think (not ideal I suppose but hey ho). What about you?

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Wiwa · 14/04/2011 19:23

Hey! Yes found out today -still in shock really! Yes it's my first :) actually feels surreal writing this down! I'm due on 18th December. What a lush Xmas gift eh? :0

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silver28 · 14/04/2011 19:33

Woohoo!! That's great, how exciting! It does feel surreal doesn't it? Last time round I had symptoms by the time I knew I was pregnant so it felt more real but this time nothing at the moment so it's quite strange.

I actually feel more excited this time cos now I know how great having a baby/child really is! was a bit apprehensive last time, looking back.

Hope you and your DH have a lovely evening celebrating!

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mopsytop · 15/04/2011 08:04

Hey congratulations! I found out yesterday and can't tell my husband until tomorrow as I am away. It is SO hard not to say anything on the phone! But I know will be better if I wait. I only conceived about 2 weeks ago at most but I already had symptoms after about 2 days, cramping and tiredness and nausea. I didn't realise they could start so soon! Thought maybe was just imagining it in my desire to be pregnant but apparently not.

How did your husband react in the end? Hope he was a bit excited!

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silver28 · 15/04/2011 12:46

Congratulations mopsytop! you must be dying to tell your DH by now!

It's strange but symptoms can start really early. I felt slightly nauseous and has a heightened sense of smell the morning after i conceived, and even started a thread about it to see if it could possibly be very early symptoms. since then i've not had any symtpoms but had a feeling i might be pregnant anyway, hence the test. i had sore boobs and cramping very early with last pregnancy so it feels a little different this time.

DH was fairly nonchalant about it when i told him, so it old him he was ruining it for me (in a jokey way) and he bucked his ideas up! i know he's really pleased, it's just not in his nature to be gushy or openly excited about things. he has initiated name conversations though, so i know he must be keen!

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mopsytop · 15/04/2011 14:08

Oh I am glad it was good! I just went and bought a tiny babygro - going to tell my husband I got him a present tomorrow and see his face when he unwraps it!

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silver28 · 15/04/2011 17:25

oh how exciting! hope it goes well and you have a lovely weekend celebrating

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mopsytop · 15/04/2011 17:27

Thanks! Can't wait til tomorrow now!

mopsytop · 16/04/2011 13:42

Finally got to tell my husband! He is thrilled too but also totally surprised. We neither expected to get pregnant so fast!

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silver28 · 16/04/2011 14:29

Ah, that's great. It's a good job it takes nine months or so to get your head around having a baby isn't it?! I felt a bit nervous etc last time but this time round i'm so excited cos I know how fab it is!

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mopsytop · 16/04/2011 14:40

It is in a way, but in another way I am just so excited and can't wait! Better calm down though. Only just pregnant - it's a long time away and don't want to get too excited in case anything goes wrong.

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