give me your excuses for not drinking but not saying you are pregnant...

[mamaesi]

I am normally quite a wine drinker... I have been invited to so many drinks/ birthday parties etc and I really dont feel comfortable telling people I am pregnant before the 12 week scan.

I have already used "had a late one last night, am too hungover" and "i dont feel so great have a bit of the flu or something"

but now I am going to see the same people...what do I say this time?

antibiotics was always my favourite one!

yeah on AB's is a good one!

or say your having a fitness kick - a detox!

House parties are easy - just make sure you fill your own glass and secrete a bottle of Appletise (looks like champagne in a flute) or grape juice or just walk around with a coke and pretend it's got vodka in.

The only time I had to deal with this was NYE - I was 8 weeks pregnant. I told the host (who was the only person not in my family I told!) who was luckily making cocktails so she made me fancy non-alcoholic ones all night. Then a couple of the drinks above and by the time everyone's had a couple they don't give a damn what anyone else is drinking. Nobody suspected a thing (confirmed when I told them all a month later!)

i would play the drugs card as well... Painkillers, antibiotics, you could also try the diet card... wine has loads of calories in it i know when i want to loose weight in normally cut out wine...

goodluck!!

On a diet? Obv wouldn't work if you're already skinny but did me well

Given up alcohol for Lent? - would work for another couple of weeks.

You could say you're too hungover to come out. then when they say, oh come on come on come on.... say you'll take two nurofen and see how you feel in an hour.

OR... what i did once or twice was get one beer, drink it from the bottle. (out of character for me but nobody twigged, then when you tak it up to the bar get bar staff to fill it with sparkling water.

antibiotics. But they will probably guess

I'd do the coke with no mixer. I used that trick at uni when I didn't want to "keep up"

Apple juice diluted in wine glass or nasty ear infection so need antibiotics........... :)

Just say you are thirsty and get a big glass of mineral water. I guarantee when everyone is on their second drink, they won't notice you aren't joining them.

Tonic water, looks like a G&T.

This time of year - 'can't I'm on antihistamines' works well. Doesn't work so well in December though

I've given up drinking for lent... but I was quick enough to throw that one out there on the first day of lent, so it was believable.

If you've been out with the same people since then it may not fly.

I gave up drinking new years day as soon as we started ttc, and have often declared myself as designated driver! Would that work??

Yeah, agree the antibiotic thing just sends out a massive "I'm pregnant" signal!

I also did the whole having 1 glass of wine thing and then made it last by topping up with water - or if I was somewhere where people really noticed (e.g dinner party where glasses being topped up) me and DH kept swapping glasses (as you can imagine, he got plastered and LOVED it)

And driving is always a good one if you can use that as an excuse!

Mine at the moment is that I'm driving to save money :)

I did the glass swapping thing with dh too. I couldn't really even smell wine as it made my heave so he got completely plastered then I move onto vodka and coke ( just coke) and non alcoholic cocktails. This time I drove alot, but then I have such bad HG I haven't been out much.

Surely 'I'm driving' is the way to go.

Driving
Migraine medication
Late night last night
Early start tomorrow
Lent
Fitness
Blood pressure
Bet
Tell them, then when everyone says "Really" deny it. That catches 'em off guard.
Diet
Big week end coming up
Blood test in morning
Borderline diabetic
Work medical in morning
Gave blood earlier, feel a bit woozy
Feel a bit woozy anyway

You have found God and become a Mormon :o.

Dont use the antibiotics excuse - everyone will know you are PG.

Have you got the sort of job where you could possibly be on call? I'm on call A LOT at the moment, but it has put everyone off the scent...

On Saturday we went to a party and we took the car so easy to say I am driving but I saw a light bulb flash over my DH's head as he guzzled real ale and all the way home he kept saying how much easier this was compared to trying track a taxi down on a busy night !! I was not amused, years ago I gave up alcohol for over six months but we were younger and I decided to take up the booze again when after one very lively do he loaded the car with 8 very drunk friends. I hung up my sober boots the next day.

Don't say anything. I've never, ever been out with somebody and they've made a point of saying anything about not drinking unless they're pregnant. Nobody pays any attention to what you've got in your glass. And if somebody offers you an alcoholic drink...

Wine?
No thanks/maybe later/just finished one/i've got one already/just a coke this time

And if you do have friends who are part time drinks monitors...

Are you pregnant?
No. Are you?

Honestly, the second somebody starts giving reasons for what they are/aren't drinking alarm bells ring. Just drink whatever you're drinking and nobody will say a word.

I had a friend who really did have to take antibiotics for her ears and everyone was sure she was pg...nope she just had really bad ears! She got very cross about it!