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have you ever been told you are having a boy and they were wrong following scan?

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lotti37 · 10/03/2011 15:44

hello

I am 21wks pregnant with no 3 and have 2 boys already. had 20 week scan and she said it looks like i am having more of the same. can they be wrong at this stage if they think its a boy?

Thanks!

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theborrower · 10/03/2011 16:14

Scans aren't always accurate, so there's always the possibility she made a mistake. A friend of a friend was also told that she was having a boy and out popped a girl. So it does happen...

nicolamumof3 · 10/03/2011 16:17

I think its more likely the other way round tho. all our boys 'bits' were quite unmistakable! I have three and was told last week that no.4 is a girl but im not convinced despite all the pink i've started buying!!

rasta · 10/03/2011 16:18

It can happen from time to time.

Did the sonographer get a good look or just a glimpse? At 20 weeks it's pretty clear to see pink or blue if they have a cooperative baby.

Valiant1 · 10/03/2011 16:25

two of my friends were told girls then thay had boys x

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lotti37 · 10/03/2011 16:28

i am abroad at moment and they are not supposed to tell you here. i felt uncomfortable asking but wanted to try and see if she would tell me. she said lookks like your having more of the same. so i said another boy and she said yes... she took lots of measurements but i am not sure how good a look it was. difficult as she was not supposed to say but did not want to ask lots of questions

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nannyl · 10/03/2011 16:41

my grandparents opposite door neighbour had a baby boy just last week. Were told they were definitely having a girl,

My cousin (now 21) was also definitely a girl... well he's a boy too!

littleducks · 10/03/2011 16:44

When i was in hospital with dd there was a baby boy dressed head to toe in pink all bought after a scan prediction

JintyMcGinty · 10/03/2011 17:47

I gave birth to DS 3 weeks ago in London and the lady in the bed opposite me had a gorgeous aby girl dressed from top to toe in blue. She had been told by the sonographers that she was having a boy, so they can and do get it wrong. It was clearly quite difficult for the lady - she was Somali I think, and already had a daughter and I heard her several times on her phone apologising to her husband that it was another girl and asking him to come and visit them and he wouldn't. They hadn't named the baby either

StrawberriesAndScream · 10/03/2011 17:52

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Coppernoddle · 10/03/2011 17:56

Oh that's so sad jintymcginty, I really feel for her! All the stress of thinking she was having a boy and then having a girl would of been hard enough to deal with if it really was that important in your family! And it's him that determined the sex of the baby so why do they put it all on the women! If anyone should be shamed in that family it should be him!!! But to be honest, it should be a fantastic time for a family to receive a new little one! Oh the poor girl!!!

Similar though, this is my third and I'm really hoping for a boy as I have two girls, but to be honest, as long as baby is healthy, girly clothes shopping is soooo much fun!!

JintyMcGinty · 10/03/2011 18:03

copper - her DD was the sweetest little thing and the lady clearly adored her, but it was very hard to listen to her on the phone to her husband asking him to visit them, crying and saying "Inshallah, next time", Thankfully for most peopleit matters not a jot more than some inconveniently colored clothes or nursery decor

Sparklies · 10/03/2011 19:25

I had a vanity gender scan at 16w2d with DC2 and she said 80% sure it was a boy. At my proper scan at 18w3d it was clear she was all girl!

20 weeks should be more reliable than 16, but mistakes can and do happen.

nicolamumof3 · 10/03/2011 19:33

im feeling worried now

fortunately have 4d scan next month and nhs one at 34weeks.

toomanyopinions · 10/03/2011 21:55

StrawberriesAndScream......

Applemuncher · 10/03/2011 22:00

I had the same conversation with the MW this morning, she said she was told she was having a boy then had another scan at 24 weeks and was told it was a girl.

It WAS a girl!

thornykate · 10/03/2011 22:03

Yep was told boy at 17 weeks but was confirmed as girl at 20 weeks, I looked at the original scan pics later on & can't see how on earth she got it wrong...apart from it was the last scan of the day on the 23rd dec & I think the sonographer just CBAd & wanted to go home!

nicolamumof3 · 10/03/2011 22:11

my boys were all obviously boy's you could see the bits!! Nothing there on this scan. And my pg has been really really different too. NEver ever felt so sick and nauseous still every day and im almost 22w

MerryMarigold · 10/03/2011 22:11

I think you are my friend! She's in exactly this situation. But she is accepting that it's a boy not a girl. I think sonographers have more/ less doubt, but with my friend it seemed very, very clear to the sonographer that it was another boy. I think if you're in a country where they don't generally say, she must have been quite certain.

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lotti37 · 11/03/2011 08:01

hi - i am English in India and they all want to have boys over here. The sonographer knew that I am going home to England to have the child and will stay there afterwards. I felt uncomfortable asking as there is a sign on the door saying that it is a punishable act to ask the sex of your baby. As this is my last I just was curious to know. Maybe I should have asked to see on the screen as well. Then i would have been more sure.

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nancydrewfoundaclue · 11/03/2011 08:13

My sister was told girl at 20 week scan then had a boy.

Don't know whether baby had legs crossed or sonographer just not up to much!

EmmaBGoode · 11/03/2011 08:19

It is easiest to tell the sex from scan photos from a 12 week scan. The "nub" is angled differently for boys and girls.

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lotti37 · 11/03/2011 08:50

Its seems more common to be told that you are having a girl and then have a boy. not sure what to think now

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AandRMum · 11/03/2011 09:35

My niece was told she was having a boy - had named him, painted room, had clothing then right at the end the doctor said he may have made a mistake and sure enough it was a girl!

Beveridge · 11/03/2011 09:45

AFAIK, the standard accuracy rate given for gender scans at 20 weeks is 60%.

That's quite a lot of room for error!

nannyl · 11/03/2011 09:50

wow is it really that low?

surely just guessing would be 50%

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