Sick of feeling fat

[poppygolucky]

Grrrrrr! Just need a rant about piling on the pounds - I've put on a stone and a half and I'm 24+2. I actually don't care that much - my theory is as long as I'm eating healthily any extra weight I can shift AFTER the baby is born. My priority is the health and wellbeing of my baby, not looking waif like with a tiny grapefruit size bump at nearly 6 months pregnant!

However EVERYONE from my mum to friends to work colleagues have commented on my size eg 'you're soooo big', 'imagine how big you'll be at 9 months', 'you're definitely having girl cos you're carrying it all on your backside!' etc etc. Usually this wouldn't bother me but it is really starting to p* me off. Wish I had some witty retort! Anyone got any good ones?

Bless my DP though - he keeps telling me I look exactly the same from behind. God I love that man for lying!

Oh I feel your pain! I've only just started to manage to not let it wind me up (27 weeks) but there was a period where I would have killed with a smile on my face and carried the head around on a spike as a warning to others. The only retorts I ever have is take what they say and turn it into an insult (which is not how they mean it), such as 'Oh so you're saying I have fat arse are you? That's nice.' Trouble is I tend to sound REALLY bitchy when I say it . My best approach though is deep breaths, you'll need to practice them anyway for the birth .

How rude. I can't think of any witty retorts, just foul mouthed ones. Congratulations and best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy!

Thank you! I am so tempted to turn around and pull them up on what they're saying but I end up just swallowing it. It's so true how everyone thinks they have a right to comment on your body when you're pregnant, like you're public property. Perhaps I may just become an uber-bitch and turn around and say 'I have an excuse for being this size: what's yours??'

I have the same problem (people telling me I'm HUGE all the time). I'm 21 weeks and haven't actually put on all that much weight (I think this makes it worse as it just means they thought I was fat all along ). I haven't got any good retorts either but am also fed up. Am considering starting to say 'really? you're the first person who's said that, everyone else thinks I'm really small' and smiling sweetly and walking away leaving them going . But haven't tried it yet...Let me know if how your uber-bitch line goes down !

Then again I met a woman yesterday who was 24 weeks and hardly showing and she had bump envy and wished she was as big as me. We're never happy are we?!

If it is any consolation I put on 8 stone (8 STONE!!!!!) with my twins, and lost 7 stone within 4 weeks of giving birth.

Last stone still to shift (18 months on... )

I did have the most insane water retention though....

I am only 8 weeks with my thrid pregnancy and I feel HUGE! Had to but some maternity trousers today!
As long as you are not overeating (I went mad last time and I still havent shifted the weight from that one! You should be fine.

I have really never had huge body issues. I am a size 12, kind of curvey and healthy.

But the last 3 weeks I have been sooo depressed about my size that is really surprised me. Granted everyone keeps commenting on it but they do try to be kind - 'oh it will even itself out later', 'Isn't the dad kind of tall?' etc ... but it hasn't helped at all. And my midwife at my 18 week check up did say 'its not all baby is it?' Ugh! I felt like crying.

Suddenly I have lost a kilo ... although have not changed my food intake remotely (I really like cake. Smile) and now THATs freaking me out.

23 week scan next week. I am just going to see what they say.

You can't win, but I am amazed about how emotional the weight issue has become.

barmbrack 8 stone! Now that IS impressive. Could you even stand by the end?

I've put on 3 and half stone by 39 weeks. Hopefully I can lose the excess as quickly as you!

I remember a builder at work said "what have you been eating to get like that?" I replied that if I'd eaten it, I wouldn't be in this state!

When I was pg with DD I had 2 people comment on my size within 10mins of each other. One said I was huge & the other said I was tiny! Since then I pay no real attention to what anyone says!

The thing to remember is that they are comparing your pg size to someone else's pg size, which is a ridiculous thing to do, and that most people are just talking to make conversation, not be nasty.... easier said than done sometimes I know!

I am 33 weeks pg and have put on about two stone. I'm only 5ft 1 and I have also had to tolerate comments from all and sundry...from about 20 odd weeks? My simply retort is to say that being such a short arse means it's only ever got one place to go - OUT!

I agree that some people simply say it as they think they're being sympathetic and try to make conversation.

My best so far from a bloke that I don't know that well at work: "blimey, you carrying twins?" me "no, just the one" him: "one what, pony!?".

It did make me laugh...although I also sort of wanted to smack him .

Thanks for your posts folks - good to know there are others putting up with this. I now feel a little sorry for the next person who says something, as I may literally take their head off!

sarahscot yes I was still heaving myself about but my goodness was I relieved when it all started to melt away! I was a bit concerned that most of it was Dairylea and would stay with me forever.

I've had the same - within one day some people saying I am tiny, others saying I am huge. Also comments about why it must be a boy / girl and how much water I must be carrying.

I think part of the issue may be that (in general) a lot of folk probably don't know what an average 5/6/7/8/9 month-pg woman looks like. It's maybe inevitable we are compared to the last pg person they've known (or a false memory of how big they got themselves.) Lots of preggos go on mat leave around two months before their EDD so their work colleagues may think a 7m-pg woman is as big as it gets, and if they do see a 9m-pg woman maybe they assume it's twins.

If anyone's good any good retorts though I'd definitely pay royalties to use them

I love how my size 20 MIL says 'gosh youre HUUUUUGE' whever she sees me...
I am actually quite neat according to MW, & smaller than peers who are due same time - enought to check growth was actually ok!!

Oh, forgot to say. Wait until you start NCT or go to antenatal classes. I nearly wept when I saw others at the same stage of pg...made me realise that we're all different shapes and sizes. But roughly all the same.

Lionrock - you're totally right. ppls don't have a slipping clue!

i'm with you, I am and feel huge. Today at my pregnancy yoga class, 2 other women commented 'oh, you're still here' within the space of 10 minutes, mistaking me for someone else who'd been around 39 weeks last time they saw her . And one of them was further along than me! I can take the comments from non-pregnant people, but this...

Sigh.

And I'm only 31+1, I should add!

Oh I had a great one the other day when I dropped ds off at preschool, one of the leaders said 'cor blimey, are you sure you aren't carrying 7 in there?'. I smiled sweetly and replied, well the scan said just one and I'm hardly tall am I. Obviously I was creating many mental images of how to take my revenge and leave her weeping . . . . .

I would try turning it around by telling them how upsetting their comments are and how would they feel if everyone kept commenting on their body?

Guilt is a far sweeter revenge

Nicky makes a good point! Guilt-trip them into submission

But you could respond "yeah I know :( I'm hoping to get rid of about 9 to 10 pounds very soon though so watch this space "