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Announcing pregnancy on Facebook?

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Buranda · 01/03/2011 16:12

I'm seriously in two minds about doing this. Part of me feels like it's really tacky, and quite a personal thing - and another part of me thinks it would be so much easier to let a huge amount of people know.
What do you all think?

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BooyFuckingHoo · 01/03/2011 16:13

up to you. who cares what anyone else thinks. do it your way.

BooBooGlass · 01/03/2011 16:13

No no no no. I hate seeing this

Eglu · 01/03/2011 16:14

I didn't do an announcement that I was pregnant as I thought it would be a bit tacky.

I just had a couple of statements that alluded to the fact that I was pregnant.

BlingLoving · 01/03/2011 16:14

Tell the people you are close to in person - directly, by phone or even text/email. THEN put on facebook. It gets the news out there to the broader world but doesn't upset people who would expect a personal email.

We called people we're very close to - eg family and good friends - emailed a few in the broader group and then put up a facebook announcement. Worked for us.

Newmummytobe79 · 01/03/2011 16:16

Ooh - I'm doing really well at keeping it off there at the moment! I've told my 'real' friends so I suppose it just depends on how long they can refrain from commenting on there. I don't know one person who has 'outed' a pregnant friend on facebook as I think most have respect to leave that decision up to the Mum-to-be. Saying that ... I'm desperate to shout 'I'm going to be a mummy' from the rooftops so I might do at 16 or 20 weeks. But it's totally up to you - at least you'll have lots of nice congratulations messages to read! I do smile everytime I see someones profile picture change to a scan! x

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Buranda · 01/03/2011 16:18

Yep, I've managed to tell close family and friends in person, so really I should just let the news filter out. Everyone will find out eventually!
newmmummy I think that's what's bothering me, I'm so excited I want to tell everyone!

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KatieWatie · 01/03/2011 16:20

When the time comes to tell 'real' people I'll tell them in person/phone.

I won't be putting it on Facebook (famous last words lol) due to the fact that I have estranged family members who possibly might be stalking me on there and the less they know about me the better! Not that I'm paranoid or anything....

FWIW a lot of my FB friends tend to announce it after 12 weeks, but I know one girl who updated her status every half an hour with the latest baby-related news, and that was really annoying and smug - PLEASE don't do that!!

Annpan88 · 01/03/2011 16:21

Once I told everyone close to me, I just put a scan picture up on facebook. People got the idea and it wasn't a big "I'm pregnant" message. Congratulations :)

Ineedacleaneriamalazyslattern · 01/03/2011 16:22

When I was pregnant I did what Bling suggested.
I told all the important people which did included a few phone calls to friends that lived so far away I couldn't see them.
I didn't want them finding out through facebook but it was far easier to everyone else en masse.
I actually couldn't care whether some people don't like it, the important people found out properly anyway.

KittyChat · 01/03/2011 16:22

Nooo... won't the people you really care about already know from you having told them face to face or on the phone? Does it really matter about anyone else?

lolajane2009 · 01/03/2011 16:23

I dont think I will bother. Everyone I really want to know will be told by me, my hubbby or either set of parents. I really think my mother in law will tell everyone when she can to be honest.

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Buranda · 01/03/2011 16:24

Oh god, no way KatieWatie I HATE smugness on FB. There's nothing more annoying. One girlfriend does that - and she sends endless love messages to her DH via the wall. That gets my back up no end!
Thanks Ann we had the 12 week scan and all ok so far. Little bean is wriggling around :)

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Deciduousblonde · 01/03/2011 16:24

I told a couple of people personally..and they put it on facebook for me!!!!

KatieWatie · 01/03/2011 16:25

Oh and just to add, if you do put it on FB you might find yourself suddenly receiving a lot of 'helpful' advice from some girl you were at school with but never really communicate with, some distant but technologically-advanced great half-aunt, etc etc, so make sure you're prepared for that!

Nagoo · 01/03/2011 16:32

yes, the face to face part first, with explicit NO FACEBOOK proviso, then phone calls, texts, and then facebook.

LilRedWG · 01/03/2011 16:33

Deciduousblonde - the same happened to me.

Sparklies · 01/03/2011 17:10

I'm not telling Facebook until the baby is born (I'm 30 weeks now!) but all those that matter have already been told personally :)

This is my third though, so I'm keeping it a bit more low key plus I'm high risk so not counting my chickens either. I see nothing wrong with announcing a pregnancy there so long as the important people have found out in a more personal way first!

Although one thing I didn't realise is that a lot of people who have suffered losses/infertility can get quite upset by scan photos. I've had losses and they never bothered me, so it never occurred to me until somebody raised it as an issue on another forum I'm on. Whether you pay much heed to it is up to you but thought I would flag it up all the same.

BlingLoving · 01/03/2011 17:17

Not upsetting other is a challenge isn't it? I have a lot of sympathy and do think you should be considerate about how you talk about things, particularly with close friends. But having had fertility issues myself, I'd have been horrified if anyone thought that their announcing on facebook would be a problem for me.

At some point, you have to accept that certain places are public, and an individual's concern can't be part of the issue.

NotSoPukeyMummy · 01/03/2011 17:37

Facebook is an absolute minefield for news like this. We didn't have to worry about it with DD1 just 3 years ago. We told family and close friends after our 12-week scan and then at around 6 months I happened to post a photo of me pregnant, and then everyone knew.

I've seen a couple of friends have their news broken by other "friends" on Facebook. In one case, there were members of the close family who didn't even know before they saw it on there - it was cringeworthy.

So, this time we had to manage it very carefully. We told close family early on and made it clear to all (even though some were champing at the bit to share our news ) that they were to say nothing on Facebook until we did.

After 12-week scan I phoned two friends who are having fertility issues to let them know. Then we shared the news with wider family and texted close friends (all sworn to a Facebook ban). Finally, when we were ready, we shared it on Facebook with some friends, but not all.

In due course I'm sure a photo of me will be posted that will give the game away.

We struggled to ttc so I was very conscious of not appearing smug about it. It can be very upsetting to other people.

WinterLover · 01/03/2011 17:38

We told family at 13w, close friends at 14w and my other friends found out via Facebook at 15w because DP was far too excited to keep quiet.

TBH both DP and I only have people we know on there and would have sent an email too anyway so it made the job easier. I told a close friend first as I know she was having problems conceiving DC2 bit she cried she was so happy for me :)

Rest assured I won't be updating daily on progress etc as far as I'm concerned what happens in the pregnancy is between DP and me :)

brizzagirl · 01/03/2011 19:23

Bloody facebook, DH posted an update that we were expecting another baby before I had told everyone important, so a few people found out that way and I was mortified. Even though I told him to remove it literally an hour after posting (as soon as I found out) it was amazing how many people had already seen it. Avoid like the plague unless you are 100% certain that everyone you want to tell in person has been told, and even then you have to ask them not to post anything on FB!! Arggghhhh!

jenga079 · 01/03/2011 20:04

We told all our close friends and family in person and then put it on facebook when I started showing. Tacky or not, I kind of wanted the 'congratulations' messages and I don't object to friends with babies suddenly showing more interest in me! I'll happily take their advice (though I reserve the right to ignore it )

Perpetuallypregnant · 02/03/2011 01:01

I find it astonishing when people announce their pregnancies on fb literally the day they get their bfp! Having had2 mcs myself, I'd be terrified of dpannouncing it before 12 weeks.

This time I casually mentioned my pregnancy in a couple of updates but I was about 20 weeks. I put a scan pic on as friends were asking to see one.

anythingwithagiraffeonit · 02/03/2011 01:18

I was so excited... I couldn't wait to write it on Facebook! While I was thinking of TTC and then actually doing it I used to be really jealous of people with the 'I'm pregnant' or 'just cooking up something a little special' messages...

I had my 12 week scan, told parents and close friends then wrote.. "Holding a picture of my beautiful baby!" and everyone thought I was talking about my dog!! Lol...

So I posted the scan picture!

Do it... It's lovely to have everyone excited with you! :)

steph28uk · 02/03/2011 09:16

I told close family and friends first then when i had a scan picture i wanted everyone to know and see my little baby so i didnt say anything just simply changed my profile picture to the scan of baby :)

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