Oh shit. Stick says yes. But I've got a 4 month old. Not sure I can do this.

[Underachieving]

The title sort of says it all.

I've got a 4 month old baby, so I've only just stopped being pregnant. God I can still wear my maternity leggings, I'm nothing like ready to do this again!

We had a really big arguement, we made up- properly. I thought, it's Ok, we'll use the morning after pill. Didn't know the effectiveness fell to 58% by the third day so left it till the third day and er, made the most of it as it were. Haven't used the morning after pill since I was a teenager, am usually so careful. What an idiot. [facepalm]

2 babies, 13 months apart?

It's too close. I'm scared. Someone tell me it's going to be alright? That 3 years from now I wont be incontinent and morbidly obese and having a nervous breakdown?

We wanted more kids, we had ideas of having a big family actually. So having three children running around isn't worrying, it's that those children would be 12 years old, 1 year and one month old and then a newborn.

OMG I don't even know what my point is. Sorry. Am panicking.

What IS the ACTUAL impact of having babies so close together?

Great

You could get a rear facing one this time then they could look at each other

I'm really pleased you are both getting excited by it now.

A little disappointed you wont be putting in the mail to me - but hey, them's the breaks :)

That's brilliant, OP!

And as the mother of a very sicky baby myself, I actually envy you for this one; I desperately want to replace the carpets after 2.5 years of vomit, but I can't risk that hypothetical #2 won't be just as sicky, so I wait. I'd love to just get that over with.

My two are 16mths apart (another accident) and I can't say I enjoyed the year after dd was born, but that's mostly because I don't like babies very much, so having two at once was a bit overwhelming. But once you are over the baby part of life it is great, lots of advantages which people have already alluded to. My children are a real pleasure to watch together, and at 11 and 10 are still best of friends (and enemies too at times). Probably my all time favourite period is when they were both just getting independent, and would get up together in the morning and chat to each other. It was lovely to listen too :)

I'd just say to make sure that as much as possible you don't have too many other things going on (things like moving house, redecorating etc) and grab any help going.

Mine are 17 months apart and now at 11 and nearly 10 they are fighting one minute and lovely to each other the next. Same as any kids, really.

When they were babies, I honestly don't remember it being that difficult. In fact, my daughter (2nd child) was far easier as a baby than my son was, because I simply didn't have time to pick her up every time she whimpered. She learned to settle herself.
When I was in hospital with her (we had to stay overnight when she was born due to meconium in the waters), a very earnest midwife came and sat on my bed while the baby was sleeping and I was reading, and told me that babies do so love to be held. I said "She's sleeping and I have a 17 month old son at home. This may be the last time I will be able to read for 10 years!" Then she left me alone

Oh, also, I am not obese and depressed :)

Thank you so much for this thread OP, I havent posted but am reading with interest. Im 25 weeks pregnant with number 3. DD is 5 and DS is exactly 13 months today. He will be 16 months when this one arrives. We planned this . We are desperately implusive and in a moment of madness thought it would be a great idea (which actually has been reinforced by the posts on here ) but got pregnant immediately and then the fear set in...

No, I need to say thank you to you and to everyone else here. I would still be going out of my mind with fear if it wasn't for this thread. Instead I'm actually really pleased. In fact I'd say in some ways it's nicer than the early pregnancy bit with DD2 because I'm not mentally listing all this kit I'll have to aquire or wondering how I'll adjust to night feeds, or fretting about if my 11 year old will feel displaced. It's just going to be a bit of an extention of the lifestyle I already have, but with twice as many babies to love.

I am so glad I posted now. It really helps to know some people have 4 under 5 and cope fine. Or that other mothers were scared too. Or that Jules Oliver did this (because she and my mother have zilch in common at all, which is in Jules' favour greatly). And one person who has an almost identical situation!

ChippingInNeedsCoffee thanks especially for the subtle encouragement to get excited. I was looking into rearfacing car seats as it happens, I have learned there are some good reasons for this. And no, I will not post him/her, but hey if you fancy weekends I bet I could find something to do for the occasional break!

Someone said about counselling. I've had lots of psychotherapy to sort out the hangover from where I came from. I'm pretty balanced most of the time, but hey, we all have moments of high-fear. I'll be alright. And if I'm not I know where to turn. Thank you for sicking your neck out to say it, you were right to.

On the topic of my username, believe it or not it's got quite a positive meaning to me, but as it's a bit of a long story I'll see if you were feeling nosey before I impose it on you all.

You lot are ace.

So's Darling Bump

And darling daughters one and two .

*sticking your neck out even

Awww so pleased you're feeling more positive. I have good days when I think one more will be no problem and bad days when the baby is grumpy and miserable and I wonder how the hell I'm going to cope. But I will and so will you.

Everything will be great.

On another note, I find I spend a lot more on the baby now I know I'm going to get twice as much use out of it. :)

Start looking at double buggies now, I still haven't decided which one I want!

Hi

I posted up thread.

Really glad you?re feeling positive now. Just a note on the pregnancy, I found being pregnant with DS2 much harder than DS3, had SPD and really struggled. The pregnancy with DS3 flew by because I was concentrating on the baby.

With a bit of luck you will find it the same.